Episodios

  • Empty Hope

    Empty Hope
    Sep 21 2025
    At this stage in my life, I find it difficult to connect with anyone who hasn't dealt with deep disappointment, sobering setbacks, or recurring regrets, in some area of life.

    In many ways, this podcast - and the upcoming book that accompanies it - is designed for people who are arriving at 40 with a life that has some scrapes, stains, and smudges...which is most of us.

    Many of us have at least one aspect of our life where we are low on hope. Whether it's an intractable issue in our bodies, an ongoing saga with our loved ones, or a recurring drama with someone, or something, in our lives; we can find ourselves in a place where we've run out of the mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual fuel to manufacture hope for certain areas of life.

    And once hope runs out, so does everything else that good and life-affirming. Including the will, ability, and strength to try. So this is a moment to check on your hope tank, and identify what's filling or draining it.

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    22 m
  • Long Roots

    Long Roots
    Aug 23 2025
    After a lifetime of positive experiences at the dentist, a throwaway comment about the structure of my teeth during a recent visit for a routine cleaning threatened to end my four-decade long run of good dentist visit vibes.

    Which led me to think about the structure of our lives, the roots we have, the roots we are missing, and the roots we needed to be stable, secure, safe, and successful in this chapter of life.

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    26 m
  • Rolling Stones

    Rolling Stones
    Jul 3 2025
    One of the things that prompted me to create this podcast was the sense that there are going to be a lot of people in our generation who are not going to feel ready, even at 40?

    A recent TikTok poking fun at people who are hitting their late 30s and still aren't sure what they want in the romantic lives got me to thinking about all the other areas of life where we get asked questions like "You're not ready, yet?!" and "What are you waiting for?!"

    At this point in your life, what do you consider cornerstones, things that must be in place for a quality life to be built?

    And what are capstones, things that are nice to have, life goals, but come after you've got the cornerstone parts of your life in place?

    My heart for this episode is really for everyone arriving at 40 with nothing solid enough to call a cornerstone, and too many immediate concerns to have much time for dreaming and planning for achieving capstones. This one is for anyone who looks around at your life and sees mostly rolling stones.


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    22 m
  • Speaking My Language

    Speaking My Language
    Jun 7 2025
    To the icebreaker question "If you could have any superpower, which would it be?" my superpower of choice would be the ability to speak any language, dialect, or tongue.

    The ability to understand, and to be understood, in all contexts & in all places is - for someone like me - the same as the ability to fly or walk through walls. Curiousity about myself & others is one of the reasons this podcast exists.

    At this stage of your life, do you see yourself as someone who is curious, indifferent, or hostile to the languages and lives of other people? At 40, do you live in an environment where curiousity about others is valued?

    Did you grow in a context where curiousity was not an option? Where you had to be aware of the ways of being and speaking of those around you, for your well-being, advancement, or survival?

    Or did you enter adulthood in an environment where curiousity was an option? Where you were part of the default setting, and most of the people you encountered spoke, thought, dressed, and acted in similar ways to you?


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    19 m
  • Dream Chasers

    Dream Chasers
    May 1 2025
    Twice this week, I had a movie studio quality, REM sleep dream sequence abruptly cut short by my phone alarm. An alarm that I set thinking that I had given myself enough time to rest and to dream. The reality of the alarm was that my time for those dream sessions was over sooner than I expected.

    For some of us, turning 40 feels like an alarm that has interupted the dream of young adulthood. For others, approaching 40 is more like a notification bell that is reminding you that it is time to get back to your dreams.

    What is the state of your dreams at this stage of your life? Do you still dream? How have your dreams changed? Do your thoughts and past experiences amplify your dreams, or weigh you down so much you don't have any energy left for dreaming?

    What are the alarms in your life that are interrupting your dreams?


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    19 m
  • Do The Right Thing

    Do The Right Thing
    Apr 19 2025
    We live in a world that rewards the bold individual, the spicy hot take, most strongest worded opinions, and a never-back-down approach to advocating and arguing for what we believe in.

    In most areas of our lives, especially online, our society does not have much patience for taking time to reflect on what has been done, to examine what has been said, to be self-aware about the stories we tell about who we like to think we are.

    We're not very good at admitting when we are wrong. We struggle to understand how our perspective could be incomplete. Many of us have a very hard time dealing with life circumstances where we were right, and things still went wrong.

    At this stage of your life, how are you making decisions about the right thing to do?

    And when you thought you were right, and the perspective you had could be trusted, and things wound up turning out differently that you anticipated...what do you do next?

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    17 m
  • Tie Your Shoes

    Tie Your Shoes
    Mar 8 2025
    A recent TikTok poking fun at those of us who use the elite, world-renowned "Bunny Ears" method of shoelace tying hit close to home, and made me think about how we respond when presented with a new way of doing something we've done a particular way our whole lives.

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    16 m
  • Return to Sender

    Return to Sender
    Feb 23 2025
    Depending on your lifestyle and the part of the country you live in, it can be easy to think that the postal mail system is not a big deal, aside from receiving packages from online shopping. However, recent natural disasters in the U.S., and the seemingly endless list of conflict and war related disasters around the world, have presented the world with images of people who once had hometowns, and homes, and mailboxes.

    This has led me to think a lot about the phrase "return to sender", and how we handle situations when we discover that the things we planned on receiving, and the lives we expected to be living, are not going to arrive.

    By 40, most of us have experienced some significant life shift that reoriented the plans that we made, and redirected the life paths we were on. Learning to process the loss of that which has been marked "return to sender" in our lives is critical to making the most of this new version of life we now find ourselves in.

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    15 m