Why Relationships Are So Hard

De: Shane Cuthbert

Narrado por: Shane Cuthbert

Beings, like other mammals, were never meant to be solitary creatures. We have an innate need to bond and feel connected with others in order to lead a fulfilled life, and so quite often the quality of your life is most powerfully determined by the quality of your relationships. As a result, sometimes one of the biggest causes of stress, frustration, even pain and emotional trauma, often revolves around relationships. And so a lot of people really find themselves quite stuck when it comes to relationships. Classic scenario is being stuck in a relationship, we feel quite unfulfilled but not really wanting to break up either, out of fear that any other relationship would necessarily be any better, but also not knowing how to improve or fix the current relationship.

This is most common in long-term relationships and marriages, but the other classic scenario is that a lot of people find themselves stuck in is going from problem relationship to problem relationship, where it never really works out and you never really find the one with whom you want to settle down. This is often because the person either attracts the wrong kind of partner or is attracted to the wrong kind of partner. It's easy to fall into the trap of blame, but if you're the kind of man who thinks that all women are the problem, or if you're the kind of woman who thinks all men are the problem, I'm sorry, but there is not a therapist in the world, unfortunately, that can change the potential pool of partners out there for you. If you want to break free of this pattern, you've got to understand how to work on yourself.

What is it about you and your current way of thinking that is attracting or being attracted to the wrong kind of person? And that may have been affected by conditions in your past, but at the end of the day the only thing that you can change is you and your way of thinking now moving forward into the future. Part of the problem can be resolved by learning how to better communicate and express yourself, so that way you're less likely to attract the wrong kind of person while inadvertently turning off or scaring away the right kind of person, but the big part all comes down to your ability to better communicate with yourself, because the strongest recipe for getting stuck in the wrong kind of relationship is a broken self-esteem, and that's something you can learn more about in the audiobook that I put together for you.

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