Being an assertive communicator is so much more than just being demanding or confident, it comes down to our emotional ease, how we hold ourselves, how we make others feel, how we frame even the smallest of questions. It's also not something that is taught to us and if it doesn't come naturally, we have to learn on our own. In this episode I break down the FIVE scientifically proven ways to be a more assertive communicator, including:

1. The power of the pause
2. How assertive communicators use their body
3. Self authoring language
4. Visualisation! Visualisation! Visualisation!
5. How to leverage the Dunning-Kruger Effect

Plus 7 rapid fire tips you may or may not know! Happy (assertive) listening!

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Have you ever opened up, shared something real, and then immediately regretted it? That post-overshare spiral—the “why did I say that?” dread—is what we call a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind why vulnerability can feel so physically and emotionally intense, even when it’s necessary, honest, and healing.

We explore:

• The two types of vulnerability hangovers (and why both are valid)
• Why alcohol, trauma dumping, and people-pleasing make it worse
• How shame and past betrayals shape our fear of being seen
• The neuroscience behind your emotional "come down"
• What to do the day after you said too much
• How to make vulnerability a tool for connection—not something to fear

Plus, we answer listener questions on post-therapy crashes, drunk confessions, and how to stay open even when it’s hard. If you’re sitting with a case of the cringe, this episode is for you.

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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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The dreaded talking stage. A whole new level of complexity that has been added to dating in our 20s. The talking stage is this strange should be about information gathering and date organising, but it's become such a snagging point for so many would be relationships. In today's episode, we discuss:

• Why we even have a talking stage
• The 1 month rule for the talking stage
• Why they are so psychologically intense
• The 3 signs you're never leaving the talking stage
• How to find closure
• How to not get attached too quickly + so much more

Listen now when you need a pep talk that you will survive the talking stage once more!

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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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