Something's Not Right

Decoding the Hidden Tactics of Abuse - and Freeing Yourself from Its Power

De: Wade Mullen

Narrado por: Wade Mullen

“Am I the only one who sees this - am I just imagining things? Is something wrong with me...or could this be abuse?”

Maybe you don’t know for sure: all you know is something feels off when you think about a certain relationship or interaction with an institution or organization. You feel alone and confused - but calling it “abuse” feels extreme and unsettling, a label for what happens to other people but not you. Yet you can’t shake the feeling: something’s not right.

In his debut book, researcher and advocate Wade Mullen introduces us to the groundbreaking world of impression management - the strategies that individuals and organizations utilize to gain power and cover up their wrongdoings. Mullen reveals a pattern that accompanies many types of abuse, almost as if abusers are somehow reading from the same playbook. If we can learn to decode these evil methods - if we can learn the language of abuse - we can help stop the cycle and make abusers less effective at accomplishing destruction in our lives.

Something’s Not Right will help you to identify and describe tactics that were previously unidentifiable and indescribable, and give you the language you need to move toward freedom and create a safer future for yourself and others.

©2020 Wade Mullen (P)2020 Wade Mullen

Life changing

This book describes the dismantling of a victim when faced with a system that wants to cover a secret; oftentimes a dark secret. As someone who has experienced this phenomenon it was very soothing. Done with heart and compassion.

The desire to see the church operate in health.

This is helpful for facilitating a greater conversation and healing the body of Christ from a rampant cancer of spiritual abuse.

Survive and Thrive

Realistic view of how brutal the control can be. Clear words to navigate and warnings of what is going to happen. Don't turn back. There is light and life after you leave. Getting professional help is a tool to help you! It can take a few years for color to return to your life! This book will help you navigate your path out.

I have been there

And I know many, too many, who are feeling crushed by the weight of spiritual abuse that has become endemic in many religious systems and institutions.
Building the “brand” has become more important than building the bride, The Church.

I needed this - words that define my experience and inspire me to keep pressing on.
And to run the race to rescue as many as possible - pointing them to Christ, helping them disassociate the system from our Savior.

I will be sharing this with many - the book and its message.

THANK YOU for this gift.

Insight upon insight

For those questioning if they are in an abusive or unhealthy situation or relationship, Wade Mullen’s excellent book, “Something’s Not Right”, is the go-to resource for answering that question.

Written with compassion, gentleness, courage, and insight, Mullen draws upon years of research to expose the tactics of abusers and provides helpful next-steps to confront and escape abuse.

Mullen narrates his own book, and his quiet, consistent narration displays genuine care and concern for those listening.

Overall, excellent content paired with excellent narration.

Every church leader/layperson needs to read this

Every church leader/layperson should read this to ensure that abuse is not happening in their organization or understanding how to appropriately respond to abuse when it is exposed.

Summary’s

It was so validating and gave me strength to go the authorities over a case that the church told us was our fault. (our daughters abuser got off the hook)

Fantastic read!

Loved this best read so far in 2023! Very insightful, raw, honest and great story telling weaved in. I will listen to it again

A book to help you put words to what I’ve experienced

This book helps people understand and give the right words to abuse. It gives stories of people’s lives that have been affected by different types of abuse.

Emotional and spiritual abuse matters

I am not new to the concept of emotional and spiritual abuse, but Something’s Not Right is a good introductory book on abuse. It is not only about abuse within the church; many examples are within a church or broadly Christian context.

I think Something’s Not Right has a dual focus of validating those that have been abused and who are trying to understand their abuse and seek healing. And at the same time, it is written for Christian leaders who are seeking to prevent and/or be a healing place for those who have been abused. That dual focus mostly works because, in the direct talk toward the abused, leaders can listen in to that discussion so that they can understand abuse better. But there are differences in how that discussion might be better focused on those two groups.

This is intended to be an introductory book. There are other places to go for more depth and nuance. Anne Marie Miller’s book on how churches help those that have been sexually abused Healing Together: A Guide to Supporting Sexual Abuse Survivors is one of several books about that particular issue. Trauma in the Pews is about how trauma and abuse (especially developmental trauma and abuse) impact spiritual formation. The Body Keeps Score is a classic book on trauma from a secular viewpoint.