How to Speak Life to Your Husband

When All You Want to Do Is Yell at Him

De: Ann Wilson, Dave Wilson

Narrado por: Ann Wilson, Dave Wilson

Discover the marriage you've always hoped for. With practical tools to help you communicate more effectively, you'll learn to speak the language of love and grace that will encourage and strengthen your husband at every turn.

Ann Wilson spent more than a decade longing for a better marriage and for her husband to be more attentive, more involved, more helpful, and just all-around better. And every chance she got, she told him so. Where she thought she was being helpful, she was instead badgering him with constant critiques until all he heard was, "Boo! Boo!" when they were together. It almost broke their marriage. But Ann discovered the power that God has given wives.

No matter how long you've been married, you don't need to spend another minute hoping and wishing for things to be different. They can! And the power is in your hands.

In this motivating, honest new book, Ann—marriage coach and bestselling author with her husband, Dave—shares how she breathed new life into her marriage by stewarding one of the most powerful gifts believers inherit from the Creator: encouragement. God has given wives a superpower to influence their husbands and homes, and you can use that power to build up and encourage your man to be a better husband, father, and man of God while still speaking truth to him. Relatable, encouraging, biblical, and funny, Ann shares stories from her own life, as well as valuable insights from Scripture, to help you:

• Address the ways you process and justify your communication patterns
• Seek spiritual and relational (re)alignment with both your husband and God
• Learn to exercise self-control and demonstrate radical grace in conversations with your husband
• Begin to cheer more than boo—in a way that isn't put on, fake, or inauthentic
• Learn to speak truth in a way your husband can really hear you
• And, ultimately, cultivate a grace-based marriage that thrives

Real people in real relationships have real problems, but with God's help, you can heal and sustain your marriage for a lifetime.

©2025 Ann Wilson and Dave Wilson (P)2025 Zondervan

Faith in Marriage

I loved the author’s vulnerability, and hearing both perspectives and voices of her and her husband. Such amazing gospel-centered advice!

Way more than the title.

I’ve listened to Ann and Dave Wilson’s story many times on family life today. This book is so much more applicable then just with your husband. It is great wisdom for how to speak to your kids and parents and siblings, and that difficult boss and coworker. It is also a great encouragement on cheering on and building up your husband, speaking words of life. A husband can read this and know how to better communicate with his wife also. It’s inspiring. Thank you Dave and Ann for helping our marriage have more life and love in it than “boos”.

Fantastic! Every wife needs to read this book!

I highly recommend reading this book if you are a wife or a mother. Ann Wilson will speak life into your soul as well as teach you how to do the same for your husband and family. A must read!!

Excellent book!

Wish I had heard this book 39 years ago when I first got married. This book has blessed me!

Think, better yet, pray before you speak

I enjoyed the stories and thoughtful advice to pause, think and pray before you speak to your husband. The importance of speaking life into my husband is much more valuable rather than boo-ing him.

What an AMAZING book!

I felt every word of this book through the deepest parts of my soul. Thank you!

such beautiful advice for married women

appreciate the honesty and vulnerability of this book. criticism of each other is so easy. this challenges us to live more holy lives and honor and love our spouse better each day. definitely recommend!

I am you!

As I began listening to your book, I could not get over how much our personalities and the way we handle conflict are so similar. I am at a crossroads in my marriage and I want to surrender and give up all control. I pray that the same thing will happen in my marriage that happened in yours. This book is a life changer if I can only get out of my own way. Thank you so much for your honesty your humility and your non-judgmental spirit. May God continue to bless and honor your marriage.

the book

I loved it and I hope to get my husband to listen to it too

Your words your critique are cutting your husband down not building him up and making him better, you are not his mother!

I don't like jumping around in various Bible translations. KJV is the closest to the original we have so some of her references were taken out of context. I definitely could have condensed the book down to half the size. Still very worth reading or listening to the audio!