Having and Being Had

De: Eula Biss

Narrado por: Alex McKenna

A NEW YORK TIMES EDITORS’ CHOICE

NAMED A BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR BY TIME , NPR, INSTYLE, AND GOOD HOUSEKEEPING

“A sensational new book [that] tries to figure out whether it’s possible to live an ethical life in a capitalist society. . . . The results are enthralling.” —Associated Press

A timely and arresting new look at affluence by the New York Times bestselling author, “one of the leading lights of the modern American essay.” —Financial Times

“My adult life can be divided into two distinct parts,” Eula Biss writes, “the time before I owned a washing machine and the time after.” Having just purchased her first home, the poet and essayist now embarks on a provocative exploration of the value system she has bought into. Through a series of engaging exchanges—in libraries and laundromats, over barstools and backyard fences—she examines our assumptions about class and property and the ways we internalize the demands of capitalism. Described by the New York Times as a writer who “advances from all sides, like a chess player,” Biss offers an uncommonly immersive and deeply revealing new portrait of work and luxury, of accumulation and consumption, of the value of time and how we spend it. Ranging from IKEA to Beyoncé to Pokemon, Biss asks, of both herself and her class, “In what have we invested?”

Thought provoking content, poor microphone

Interesting essays about money, wish the speaker used better audio equipment for recording (voice was okay, but sounded tinny and had too bright tenor)

Sometimes Interesting

I was really excited to get this audiobook after hearing the author on an NPR interview. It sounded light a very insightful look at modern day capitalism. I was disappointed to find that at many times, I found myself being annoyed by the author’s seemingly constant complaining about her desires and obstacles she faces during her interactions with others. The flow seemed frequently scattered, and I would often feel lost amongst her stream of consciousness. Perhaps it was due to the performance of the narrator (which seemed repetitive in her delivery), but I could help feeling as if she was on a constant rant of privilege. That said, there were some good nuggets of information here and there, and some insights that allowed me to challenge my own thinking and lived experience. I guess I just expected many more of those moments.

musings on inequality and capitalism

Interesting musings on inequality and the capitalist system. I enjoyed listening to this one. An unusual format. I went with it and it's challenging me to ponder some of the questions the author poses.

Okay

It was interesting in some parts, but this book wasn’t nearly as compelling as Notes From No Man’s Land.

Not Very Deep

The book feels like the banter college educated adults might have over a few drinks, sharing bits of insight, personal experience, and humor, but not deep research. There were occasional interesting anecdotes, but I don't expect most people who have thought about their own socioeconomic positions and sought out this book to learn very much. It is more about painting a picture of the author's feelings of privilege (the author refers to herself as an artist), rather than a deep dive into issues and solutions. That's not necessarily bad, but not what I was looking for and not what I expected before starting the book.

A beautifully written and read meditation on capitalism

This book reads like a string of poems, sometimes repetitive and circular but also meditative and beautiful. Unlike many books about capitalism which feature policy recommendations and calls to action alongside their critiques, To Have and Be Had instead draws us into the messiness of a dehumanizing economic system and asks to stay in the discomfort of examining how complicit we are in what we see. I’ll be buying a print version of this to peruse when I’m questioning the unpaid labor of being a mother and an artist.

Rich white lady stories

I wanted a title by a female author that wasn’t a report or a history, and the title of this book was ambiguous enough to hook me. Unfortunately, wading into it produced more of a sense of exasperation than excitement.

This book is a string of typically no more than five-minute think pieces/diary entries. Common themes include the author’s wealth, family events, feminism, vacations, love of art, and various expressions of discomfort about said wealth and privilege. The narration seemed appropriate to what I envision the author sounding like when reading the pieces aloud, though that’s not necessarily a positive.

It’s basically a rich white lady writing about how she’s indifferent to her supposedly newfound wealth, obtusely claiming artistic purity in her outlook on life and attempting to depict her circumstances in a somewhat ironic light. She occasionally weaves a novel thought into the stories, but usually they come across as overdrawn attempts at profundity, and in my view are cheapened as a result. She even claims near the end that she wrote the book to “reclaim my time” by making enough from it to not have to work as much at her job as a university assistant professor.

I assume people who enjoy this book might also enjoy shows like Emily in Paris and other content centered around female wealth, whiteness, independence, and some level of cognitive dissonance between perception and reality. I tried this book to experience something different, and am now motivated to go back to reports, exposés, and other works I see as less pretentious.

self-indulgent, snarky, entitled rant

I really tried to endure this audiobook until 2;22 to try to understand why it gets such accolades. I found it to be a self-indulgent rant by a privileged white woman and narrated in an equally-offensive tone. The author officially 'lost' me when she launched into the entitled rant about the 'Mexican woman' who knocked on her door asking if she would rent an apparently empty room in her house and the author's snarky retort 'I live here!' My entire book club agreed with my take on this book. Disappointing.

Blather

Like listening to an actress reading the transcription of a month’s worth of a child’s dreams as if she were reading the Gettysburg Address.

a book contract book for money

Author’s admission that she wrote it for money to write was an unctuous self indulgence leaving me emptier than when I started it. maybe this book will clear out her collegiate cliff notes stuck in her brain so she can integrate and speak from the grit that almost surfaces in her point of view. prediction: she longs for hardship and when it arrives she will then become a real person who writes.