Estranged

Leaving Family and Finding Home

De: Jessica Berger Gross

Narrado por: Jessica Berger Gross

To outsiders, Jessica Berger Gross's childhood - growing up in a "nice" Jewish family in middle class Long Island - seemed as wholesomely American as any other. But behind closed doors, Jessica suffered years of physical and emotional abuse at the hands of her father, whose mood would veer unexpectedly from loving to violent.

At the age of 28, still reeling from the trauma but emotionally dependent on her dysfunctional family, Jessica made the anguished decision to cut ties with them entirely. Years later, living in Maine with a loving husband and young son, having finally found happiness, Jessica is convinced the decision saved her life.

In her powerful memoir reminiscent of Jeannette Walls's best seller The Glass Castle, Jessica breaks through common social taboos and bravely recounts the painful, self-defeating ways in which she internalized her abusive childhood, how she came to the monumental decision to break free from her family, and how she endured the difficult road that followed. Ultimately, by extracting herself from the damaging patterns and relationships of the past, Jessica has managed to carve an inspiring path to happiness - one she has created on her own terms. Her story, told here in a careful, unflinching, and forthright way, completely reframes how we think about family and the past.

©2017 Jessica Berger Gross (P)2017 Tantor

Reseñas de la Crítica

"[A] memoir of love, abuse, despair, and hope . . . a reminder that any family can hide a secret and that many victims of abuse go their entire lives without speaking out about it." ( Booklist)

Book Changed my life

Wow, as someone who recently estranged from her family after years of physical abuse it was amazing hearing someone whose thoughts and feelings were so closely matched to my own. Please don't listen to the negative comments, theirs a lot of people in the comments with zero compassion and shame in their hearts commenting because they're triggered by how close to home the book hits. Theirs, not one kind person who wouldn't feel for this woman's story. Empathy is all I felt for her and she is so brave for sharing her story because not everyone deserves to hear it.

Reader Comments

This book is highly recommend to victims of child abuse and who have subsequently become estranged from their families. Reading Jessica's story helped me to recover from the child abuse I endured and to accept my estrangement from my family.

Diva

This girl definitely suffered from physical and psychological abuse, which is never okay. However, I couldn’t help but feel like she was a spoiled brat as a child. Her parents were not great, but they were significantly better than the parents I had and parents of others that I know. I guess perspective is everything. Her dad was a fly off the handle asshole and the mom seems like she only cared about material things and what other people thought. But they put a roof over her head, gave her food,clean clothes, a car, and helped pay for college.

Sincere Story

I share traits from this story in my own life. This a decent book, my main takeaway if the conflict between how the ‘model’ of our relationships in the nuclear family to what they actually are. Am glad the author managed to marry, have children and inch closer to what a family ought to be. Am still waiting for that chance.

Authentic

It’s sad that there’s high levels of Ignorance even on this comment section (especially “jay jay”’s comment simply made my skin crawl).
In response to his attempt to minimize violence:
Providing a roof & feeding children are kind of a basic when you decide to have children. Children did not ask to come into this world & do not “owe” their parents. Being a parent is a privilege. Yet these basics (food & shelter) are used to justify all kinds of abuse & judge & sadly label a child.
Some of the cringeworthy comments calling the author a “spoiled brat”: This is called GASLIGHTING. It’s repulsive to see..
Minimizing & Invalidating Abuse is never okay.
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>Dear Author,
Thank you for sharing. Writing this book couldn’t have been easy. It takes a lot of courage, especially when there are people that will always minimize the abuse & judge you for respecting yourself.
I’m definately it’s very helpful & spreads awareness.

boring

I couldn't get through this book at all! Had to return it. It was so boring