Loving The Pedestal

How to Stop Idealizing Others Break Limerence and Heal Obsessive Love

De: Maria Merlino

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

Loving the Pedestal is for anyone who’s ever felt hijacked by a crush that became an obsession. You’re not “crazy,” weak, or hopelessly romantic, you’re caught in a Limerence loop that runs on uncertainty, mixed signals, and the brain’s reward chemistry. This book explains why limerence feels like an addiction, why your mind won’t let go, and why even tiny signs of attention can keep you stuck for months,or years.

You’ll learn how limerence differs from real love, how the cycle progresses from spark to crystallization to collapse, and what fuels it most in modern life: emotional unavailability, distance, intermittent reinforcement, and social media checking. Then you’ll get a clear path out. You’ll use practical tools like the Reality Log, the Delay–Disrupt–Replace method for cravings, a No Contact detox plan, and a day-by-day guide for the first two weeks so you don’t mistake withdrawal for destiny.

But this isn’t just about getting over one person. It’s about healing what made your nervous system susceptible in the first place. Through attachment patterns, unmet needs, and the “void” limerence tries to fill, you’ll learn how to stop idealizing others, rebuild internal validation, and choose relationships that feel steady instead of addictive.

If you’re ready to step out of “maybe” and back into your life, this book will help you break the pedestal—without breaking yourself.