Humility and pride: One can get you everywhere and the other can get you nowhere. It's a virtue to be humble as it denotes you have a high degree of grace and understanding. It doesn't denote being a "soft touch" as what you possess is of a value that needs no extra advertising. Those who are ego lead are quite the opposite, often suffering from a very bad ignorance and lack of self-esteem. There is a big difference between being proud of your children or some work you have done as opposed to being proud looking at life through a variable supercilious aspect that clouds others from your favour and even warrants negativity.
Nothing in life is ever that simple, and if you are "coming out", then you can have additional complications, because of outmoded race or cultural pressures which have no bearing on today's life whatsoever - other than being carried forward by ignorant minds. Taboos, ideologies, personal fears of "what others may think" all stem from redundant thoughts and times of the past. We can't choose who we are, nor how we are, nor indeed where we are.
We end up physically a product of what we eat. Fat, unhealthy, sluggish if we eat too much, etc. Similarly if we feed our mind with negative rubbish that the media spew out then we will subliminally start to dwell on events and situations that are way out of our control and thus lose the directnss of our own focus. We need to have a clear perspective at all times and understand what life is about, otherwise we will fall into a habit of thinking that we are disadvantaged when we don't even try. Life is how we view it, nothing more, hence it can be many things to many people.
Whatever happens in life you are the one who has to experience it no one else. Your decisions come from your mind no where else. Even if you choose to follow someone else and it all goes wrong, it is still your decision that was enacted not theirs. Modern day blame culture is rubbish and pathetic. How you experience pain, pleasure, unfairness, love, selfishness, etc, it is all processed in your mind as that is where you live no where else.
Life Bite Series. You are a product of yourself. What you wear, how you speak, what you eat, what you do, etc., it's all a decision that you have taken and it outwardly shows too. Similarly, life is a product of your decisions and how you interact with the various parameters in life. What fits into your comfort zone or what you do to try things outside of it are still down to you. Your views on life play a considerable part in how you enjoy life (or not) and how you make friends (or not) and what you do in life; no one does this for you.
Coming out, despite the possible initial impetus to do so, is one of the most liberating aspects of your life. It is you who is being you. You don't need approval or permission nor anything else. Accepting who you are in every way is not only cathartic but puts you in a strong and definable position, because it is you who has to live with yourself every second of every day.
Life Bite Series. Loneliness can be very debilitating. You can feel lonely right in the middle of a bunch of friends and family that love you. You don't have to isolated to be lonely. However the most common cause of loneliness is a degree of selfishness, a selfishness that thinks of oneself more than sharing with others. It can even become habitual and self consuming so that one lives in a bubble of "all about me" and then starts to feel that "I can't be bothered" or "it will be late" or "An excuse here" and so on.
Life Bite Series. Failure is an essential aspect of our lives. Possibly not for the ignorant, stupid and pathetic but for everyone else it is. To fail means you have tried and in the process gained knowledge and information for which you get 10/10 for trying. You get nothing for doing nothing. You are if you have failed already a success in life, and whilst things may not have gone as planned you have endured and tried and that is success in a nutshell.
You can't buy, inject, drink, swallow nor anything else that will give you happiness. Even winning the lottery will only give you fleeting happiness even if it gets you out of a financial predicament and you buy all your desired clothes and cars etc... You can win your dream super car and next day crash it with devastating injuries - where did your happiness go?
Emotions enhance our life walk. We have love, joy, happiness, with love being the greatest and most effective emotion we have. We also have the opposite emotions: anger, hatred, greed, envy, pride, etc, all of which will bring us down.
If we believe in God, then there is but pure love; if we believe in anything else, then it's the Devil - the antithasis of all that's good. And if we impose conditions on love, then that is our downfall too.
'Coming Out' for many people is or can be a fearful task. For some it's not a problem. Whichever side you find yourself on you don't want to live in the closet; you have a right to be who you are and you definitely don't need anyone's permission to be you. And as for those who say "It's a choice" when did they make a choice to be "straight". This and the following downloads explores and identifies who you are as a person.
Life Bites Series. It is important that we prioritise certain aspects of our lives otherwise we never get anything done or it happens in the wrong way. Similarly we need an agenda too, even if it is just something simple at the back of our mind. It's when we have negative or subversive or hidden agendas or others in their own way do that so to "use" us to further their cause. Those that stroll through life rarely get anything grand done and often wonder how others manage.
Life Bite Series. The Chameleon Effect is when you try to be everything to everybody to please them or fit in. The problem however with being everything to everyone is that you end up being nothing to yourself and ultimately a disappointment to everyone else as well as they never see the real until it is too late, then they feel let down. People must love you for who you are and not what you think they wold like to see or make up some fictitious character that is not you then you do one thing and that is deceive yourself.
Life Bite Series. It may seem strange but many people live their life as a product of what others think or say or have advised them quite strongly to take. There is but one solution and that is to live your life the best way you can taking into account your mentality, your likes and dislikes, all the little things that make you tick and anything else, after all that is you. As well meaning as others may be (or not) you still have to follow your own pathway as no one else can ever do it for you.
Life Bite Series. Good communications are paramount if we are to enjoy life, feel good, be happy, understand where we are and those around us. We all know those who are bad communicators in life because they expect everyone else to call them and feel badly done when it doesn't happen. But communications are a two way thing and a lack of communication can lead to you not only being left out in life or lose business but end up lonely and isolated.
One has to try and enjoy each day and offer no excuses as to why that can't be accomplished. Granted some days are heavy with certain burdens in life that we have to endure, but making them a feature of our lives is purely for the pathetic and stupid. We shouldn't "Postpone Happiness" either, saying that in the future things will get better or look forward to a future date - even if it is valid in itself. Every day is part of our life and we should, as such, make the best of it and be positive. If we start to make excuses as to why we aren't happy then we are on the slippery slope downhill.
Life Bite Series. Blame culture is relatively new, although blame itself is as old as the hills. If we are to make anything from our lives and gain respect we should be able to accept what is and not make excuses as to why it isn't the way it should be or the way we would like it. Life will rarely be the way we want it to be, which doesn't mean that it can't be better. But blaming others who have no control over you or even know you exist is stupid.
We all like being successful, it makes us feel good and gives us a sense of accomplishment, too. But failure is a great part of our lives because without failure we gain no knowledge. All the major breakthroughs and developments in life have crossed over from failure. To fail is 100 times better than to have never tried. You get 10/10 for trying, you get nothing for not doing anything. Always feel pleased with yourself even if what you are doing doesn't come off. Never ever get despondent nor feel browbeaten.
The only person to suffer from un-forgiveness is ourselves. Others can't experience what we think and feel, others can't read our thoughts, only we can get to grips with them. Our pain, torment, self mind talk is purely ours and we are thus the only ones privvy to this, if we get upset then we get upset, no one else will. If we are to move on in life then we must forgive no matter how hard that is.
Do you live your of life of your own accord or do you live it because others have directed you or put pressure on to you to live it in a certain way? Many people actually live a life with a constancy of saying "If I do this so and so will get upset" so they don't do what they want to do. That's not acceptable living in the footprint or fear of possibly upsetting someone else.