The rule book has changed. You attend a business networking event and meet Jack. You buy him coffee to foster a relationship. Point scored. Jack has the potential to be your new customer and even leads you to new business. Feeling pretty good, you go to another function. You're impressed with the influential speaker at the event. She walks off stage to a lineup of people who want to meet her. You figure, what the heck? I'll invite her for a coffee, too. Wrong. Quite honestly, you could be pushing away an influential connection without knowing it.