So many of us spend so much time enmeshed in other people's problems, trying to solve or change them, that we don't really know where we end and they begin. Not reacting to people or situations that provoke us is not an easy skill to develop. It takes practice and conviction that not reacting, not increasing the drama, doesn't mean we don't care. On the contrary, we are freed to show genuine love and care only when we can detach from the knee-jerk need to fix, solve, rescue, or control.
"Live your own life first!"
Best-selling author Karen Casey shares the insights and tools she's discovered in her own decades of sobriety and in talking with other codependents. Her unique treatment of this much talked about, but not clearly understood, syndrome focuses not on the cause, but on the individual's own power to detach from a bad situation and make a choice for recovery. Casey takes readers through the steps of detaching-admitting our attachment, surrendering outcome, forgiving, focusing our attention on what works.
"Doesn't quite live up to the (sub) title"
Thirty years ago best-selling author Karen Casey wandered into a support group and learned there was only one thing she could change - herself! She found a group of people who had adopted this concept - and she joined them. The result? Change so profound Casey has dedicated much of her life to teaching others about it. Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow offers a dozen simple principles to live by. It really is as simple as changing our minds. This little book will show you how.
"Not as good as I'd hoped"
Karen Casey's daily meditation books have guided millions through their recovery and daily lives. She has written eloquently about almost every facet of recovery and how to live a sober, balanced life by trying to live in the present, one day at a time. In this new collection Casey offers meditations for the next step in recovery: developing serenity in order to live a happier, more peaceful life.
It's Up to You invites readers to do three simple things: meditate, pay attention, and make choices to change their lives - for a few minutes each morning and evening, one principle a week for twelve weeks. As we reflect on Casey's insight into the insidious ways we create misery or drama, try to impose will, and suffer needlessly, and as we follow her gentle prompts to make different choices, we begin to see that we can change just about anything in our lives by taking these small steps.
Replete with personal stories and quotes and imbued with Casey's own understanding of peaceful living as guided by her 12-step practice, A Course in Miracles, and a daily practice of meditation and prayer, these 75 essays help us make room for everything in our peaceful, vibrant, well-lived life. Each brief nugget invites contemplation and action as she helps us explore fear and love, resistance and acceptance, willpower and discernment.
For a vast majority of girls in this country, there comes an age at which self-esteem, self-assurance, equilibrium, and confidence fly out the window. Maybe it's hormones, maybe it's culture, or maybe it's just called growing up. Whatever the cause, it's real. Some girls turn, in their own fashion, to the same addictive solutions as their elders: compulsive behavior - either in the form of alcohol, drugs, food, or something equally destructive.