If you are feeling this way, my friend, there is a simple explanation. You may be dating or married to a narcissist. Your self-absorbed partner may be gaslighting and manipulating you. He may cycle between love-bombing and distancing himself from you. He seems to be a nice guy to your face sometimes, but then you find out that he is talking bad about you to others. He seems to triangulate you with other women or family members in order to make you jealous and boost his own ego.
"Not about Gaslighting - A laundry list of facts about Narcissism"
The relationship duo between borderlines and narcissists tends to be more common than we think. There is no true way to get a good picture of how many relationships span this dynamic, as many borderlines and narcissists go undiagnosed or undetected. Most narcissists don't have the intuition, knowledge of their condition, or interest in their inner world to pursue why they are the way they are. It is unlikely that they would seek treatment because of their overinflated egos...
"A lot of good tools and information."
Narcissistic abusers... They manipulate. They lie. They cheat. They pick fights. They gaslight to make their partners feel as though they are losing their minds. They compartmentalize their lives so that they can keep their stories and their characters straight. They seem to become whomever the situation calls for. They seem to do it with ease and a lack of conscience.
"Easy to follow"
Most people are familiar with PTSD. But many have not heard of complex PTSD and developmental trauma disorder. As adults, many of us experience symptoms of anxiety and depression. We feel chronically stressed. We have trouble trusting others, or we may even experience feelings of paranoia in our relationships with others. We struggle to define what it is that is bothering us, and we struggle to find ways effective ways to treat it.
"Don't waste your $"
Many people come to me in despair after they realize that they are in the pits of hell in their relationship with a narcissist. They have been lied to, cheated on, manipulated, and gas-lighted. Their partner isolates them, puts them down, denies them their basic human needs, and abuses them emotionally. Some narcissists even resort to severe physical violence, up to and including murder.
"Limited Insight into Narcissism"
Many people have heard of trauma and PTSD. But when we think of PTSD, many of us think of nightmares and flashbacks that are related to one traumatic incident or event that has been experienced by the sufferer. There is another form of PTSD that's related to being exposed to repetitive trauma. It is called Complex PTSD, coined by a woman named Judith Herman.
Many of us are battling depression, anxiety, mental illness, or personality disorders. We feel anxious, frustrated, and overwhelmed. We don't have the support systems to help lift us up and to help us cope with the stressors of daily life. We want to make things better for ourselves, but we may be at a loss as to how to do so. One of the first steps in fixing your life and your anxiety is to learn how to regulate your emotions. Our emotions cause us to feel out of control sometimes.
Narcissistic and toxic mothers are often injured in their childhoods by their own stunted emotional development. In order to fully develop into a healthy adult, we need a very nurturing and emotionally validating environment. Toxic and narcissistic mothers often grow up without that nurturing. They have jumped through hoops and tailored themselves to others around them. They have been invited to be a part of mind games, lies, and manipulation. They may have been told repeatedly that they weren't wanted.
"Knowledge that will empower."
Many of my listeners come to me with many questions about their interactions with narcissists. They want to know how to outsmart the narcissists who are making them feel as though they are going crazy. Some of them want to learn how to interact better with their narcissists. Many readers are truly baffled by their partners. They aren't sure whether to love them or leave them.
If you have downloaded this audiobook, it is likely that you are struggling to cope with a parent who is difficult. I have dealt with my share of difficult people, as well as the difficult people who my readers and listeners often seek my advice on. I hope that the knowledge that we have collected over the past four decades will help you with the difficult person in your life, and will hopefully encourage the difficult relationship toward some sort of sanity and peace.
The narcissist is a force to be reckoned with. He is the reason that the courts are filled with nasty custody and divorce battles. He is passive-aggressive, fatalistic, negativistic, critical and stubborn. The narcissist uses many tactics to alienate the children from others in their life. He is one of the reasons that Parental Alienation exists. This audiobook seeks to discuss the various tools that are launched against the children of the narcissist.
Asperger's Syndrome, or high-functioning autism, is a form of autism that falls on the autism spectrum. Asperger's Syndrome can be seen in adults and in children if you know what to look for. Many people who can be described as hypersensitive, odd or eccentric have Asperger's Syndrome which has gone undiagnosed. Some of the greatest comedians, singers, actors and inventors have Asperger's syndrome. They specialize in what they are good at, and they can become highly successful in doing so.
This audiobook seeks to teach one partner in the relationship how to relate to and cope with a partner who has limited emotional maturity and capability. It seeks to give better clarity while taking into consideration the cognitive, emotional, and social deficits that are engrained in the partner's brain. It should take some of the anxiety and pressure from the more social and emotional partner by shedding some light on the fact that they are not the ones with the deficiency, despite what their partner is telling them.
"it's just okay."
The narcissist is a character in his own story. He employs the tactic of foreshadowing throughout his storytelling. He is omnipresent and omnipotent. He detests and resents anyone who paints the story for him, and thus he seeks to tell the story even in advance of itself. He wants to be the director, the storyteller, the adversary, and the hero. He narrates his life and his intentions so that he doesn't feel as though anyone else has a say over what will happen to him.
"One more munipulation tool you must learn about."
This book seeks to define the deficits that are often present in the woman who seeks out or inadvertently falls prey to a petty narcissist. The narcissist seeks out only specific types of women, and he turns a blind eye to others. There are only certain types of women who have a deficit or an overinterest in dating emotionally immature men such as narcissists. We seek to define these in order to bring a broader knowledge to those who suffer at the hands of narcissists and why narcissists seek out these types for their amusement.
"To the Point"
A narcissistic relationship drastically affects the wellbeing of both the narcissist and his partner. The partner of a narcissist often suffers from trauma bonding (Stockholm syndrome), Cassandra Syndrome, Wendy Complex, or Complex PTSD. They suffer from these disorders throughout the relationship, as well as after the relationship ends. Some people expect almost immediately relief after the narcissist moves on from the relationship, but this is often not the case.
Ever since the DSM scale to differentiate personality disordered individuals was created, there have likely been relationships between men and women who have narcissistic personality-disordered and borderline personality-disordered personalities. It might seem that this dynamic duo shouldn't last, or shouldn't get together at all, but there is a lot of evidence that these relationships can and do work for a number of couples, who are quite happy in their unions.
"An Interesting Take on NPD and BPD"
This audiobook hopes to fill the gap for those readers and listeners who are seeking to fine tune their relationships or to improve an abusive or emotionally volatile relationship. We discuss NPD and BPD as they pertain to a heterosexual relationship, but the same rules apply if the roles are reversed and in a homosexual relationship. We hope to give new light to those who are choosing to stay in the relationship but want better ways to interact with their partner to make the relationship work.
Many people who have dated or chosen to marry narcissistic people come to me for help. They need to know how to relate to their narcissists. They must learn how to stay out of the lines of fire of the narcissists. They are stuck in cycles of abuse and manipulation, with seemingly no end in sight. They are distraught at the possibility of continuing the relationships, but they are also at a loss as to how to continue on without their partners.
"Its saying to be a doormat to the narcissist abuse"
Many people wonder why women who are verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused by their partners are still hanging onto the relationship. These women can end up in a hospital fighting for their lives. They can get their children taken away due to exposing them to an abusive male. They can lose all of their relationships, money, and dignity in this relationship, but still they come back to their abuser.
"It helped me not feel so crazy"