Splitting, Second Edition

Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

By: Bill Eddy LCSW JD, Randi Kreger

Narrated by: Christopher Grove

Length: 8 hrs and 16 mins

Publisher's summary

Are you divorcing someone who's making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they "persuasive blamers", manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book.

Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers.

Turn to this guide to help you:

• Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
• Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
• Choose a lawyer who understands your case
• Learn how emails and social networking can be used against you

©2021 William A. Eddy and Randi Kreger (P)2021 Tantor

I wish I knew sooner!

Upon completion, I realized that this was published after my divorce with a person that exhibited patterns of a PD (specifically NP and maybe ASP). I'm currently preparing for a post-divorce modification, and all of the information is extremely helpful in advocating for myself and being assertive instead of passive this time. I will note that there is a lot of emphasis on potential physical and verbal abuse in this edition, but there's not much mention of other, more subtle abuses such as emotional and financial. To protect children and targets, this training would be helpful in the form of CLEs for family law professionals since the presence of PD patterns are increasingly prevalent.

Must read!

Very valuable if divorcing a high-conflict person or person with a possible personality disorder. One of the BEST information sources out there!!! Helped my divorce!

Step by step understanding

I liked it all! Very good information for someone in the situation. I'm not crazy! I felt heard in this book!

Excellent

The one book that helped me the most during my high conflict divorce with a person having BPD. No other authors I have found that understand this unique challenge and give you clear cut advise. A must listen.

A must read or listen to if you are in a relationship with a narcissist.

This is concise and very informative in understanding personality disorders what to do and moreover NOT do to protect yourself and your family. A just read multiple times!

Accurate

Put into words a whirlwind of prior and present experience as I endure a 3rd court case with my limitless ex who despises my desire to live a life of peace and love.

Validating and thorough

Very honest, educational and to the point. I suspect my soon to be ex is struggling with NPD with some signs of BPD as well. He’s very persuasive this book teaches you to play the long game and be strategic assertive and wise while trying to get you and your children as close to freedom as possible.

A must read for anyone divorcing a person w a personality disorder

I learned a lot and gained some confidence in my battle ahead. I highly recommend this book if you are divorcing someone with a personality disorder.

Best divorce prep for anyone married to an NPD!

This book is filled with hard to hear information, but if you are divorcing someone with these traits, it will absolutely prepare you for what to expect. I’m pregnant with my fifth child and I said “no way would he do this to me”….yep, he did. You need to listen to this so you understand what your Blamer is capable of.

Useful and Effective

this book outlines useful and effective strategies to navigate a high conflict divorce and has helped me tremendously in building my case and keeping me on track.