Deborah Tannen's number-one best seller revolutionized the way men and women talk - and listen - to each other - at home, at work, and wherever the communication gap between the sexes can lead to troublesome misunderstandings. The problem dates back to childhood, when boys and girls learn to use language in distinctly different ways; years later, their adult efforts to talk often place them at cross purposes - even when both are sincerely trying to communicate. Dr. Tannen illustrates how the best intentions can go painfully awry between spouses, family members, co-workers and friends. With You Just Don't Understand, you'll recognize yourself and your own efforts to be understood - and gain valuable insight to help you communicate better than ever before.
©2013 Deborah Tannen (P)2013 Simon & Schuster Audio
College English professor who loves classic literature, psychology, neurology and hates pop trash like Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.
was one of the first voices (appropriately, that of a woman) to speak up against the feminist insisience that there are no innate differences between men and women. (Neuroscience has since proven Tannen and the early van guard correct in their assessment, as men's and women's brain themselves are, indeed, different.) Tannen is a linguist and has accented on how men and women communicate, and I have taught her for nearly two decades in my English classes. It is important to note that, though there clearly are differences in how men and women think, emote, and talk, there is much overlap, some exceptions to the rule (I always say I am a heterosexual man who thinks like a woman), and that seeing the reality of difference in no way implies a surperiority or "better way" on either side. I read this on the heels of Gurian's Boys and Girls Learn Differently, which I also highly recommend.
I was surprised by how much this book helped me gain insight into the communication style and habits of my 5 yr old son. The descriptions of conversations from the authors research seemed as if my son was one of the subjects. It really helped me gain some understanding of his communication with other girls and boys and is (his parents).
Yes because it helps me understand how men and women communicate differently.
How I can apply it to my life to make positive changes.
I use it in my day to day conversations with others.
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