How do you feel about setting goals?
I’ve heard people say they feel energized, depressed, confused, terrified, pumped, ambivalent, lost...or all of the above. Here’s what I’ve realized: Our relationship to success is inside-out. When we make our New Year’s resolutions, bucket lists, big plans, or weekly to-dos, we’re hoping that when we "arrive" we’ll be fulfilled. Our hearts will swell as we cross the finish line, and then we can finally relax and savor our happiness. Except more often than not, that doesn’t happen. Even when we meet our objectives, we wonder if we aimed too low, or took too long, or if we could have done it better. And when we fall short, we come down on ourselves like a ton of bricks. So we make the next goal, hoping it’ll give us everything the last one didn’t.
It’s a self-defeating cycle that’s burning us out. How do we change it?
Here’s the whole cosmic, life-liberating revelation:
You’re not actually chasing the goal. You’re chasing the feeling that you hope attaining the goal will give you.
Every craving, aspiration, or goal you have - from what you eat, wear, and own, to all the things you want to create or do - is driven by a desire to feel a certain way. That’s it. And that’s where the Desire Map process starts. In The Desire Map Experience, I’ll share a process that you’ll use to transform the way you relate to every aspect of your life. It’s not about learning a new time-budgeting method, filling out a questionnaire, or making another list to stick on your fridge. Instead, you’ll get crystal clear about how you want to feel about everything you do. The Desire Map is holistic life planning. Here’s how it works:
You’ll make this process your own. It’s not a one-size-fits-all deal. You’ll create your Desire Map in the way that lets your soul speak loud and clear in every day of your life.
Feeling good along the way to your goals doesn’t mean you won’t need to work your ass off - but when you do, you’ll do the work joyously. You’ll be creating goals that are life-affirming, nourishing, practical, forgiving, and true to who you are.
©2014 Danielle LaPorte (P)2014 Danielle LaPorte
I have been following Danielle LaPorte online for years. I have heard her speak in person, and been wowed. I have been the blessed recipient of three Pay What You Can days, with The Firestarter Sessions (which I then also bought as an audiobook), Your Big Beautiful Book Plan, and The Desire Map.
Turns out, I don't really like to read books on my computer. I prefer good, old fashioned paper. And so when the Desire Map was released in December of 2013, I ordered a paper copy for myself immediately, and because I was so enchanted with the program (and wanted to give back for all the lovely PWYC day gifts), I ordered a paper copy to give to a friend. Then the Day Planner for myself. Then the e-book version for a friend. Then the audiobook versions of the Desire Map Experience and Desire Map Daily from Audible, because I love audiobooks. Then 5 more planners to give away to friends. And 6 workbooks to use and give away to friends. Love, love, everywhere.
THE WHOLE PREMISE OF THE DESIRE MAP IS CRITICAL INFORMATION FOR THE SELF-AWARE.
Let me say it again: The Desire Map is critical information for the self-aware, and for those wishing to become more self-aware. I devoured the book in about 3 days, and then took about a week to feel my way through the workbook. And it's a complete game changer. A total 180 transformation.
1. How do you want to feel?
2. Set goals that will make you feel that way, through every part of the process.
3. End of story. (Sort of.)
Simple. Beautiful. Magnificent. Transformative. Danielle has tapped into something that has been spewed, yet in actuality, missed by the multitudes in all but lip service: it's all about the journey, not the destination. (OK, it's a little bit about the destination…but only if the journey feels the way the destination should feel.)
The Day Planner fits in so beautifully with the whole system of Desire Mapping. I now have someplace to put my to-do lists…and they no longer feel burdensome. They feel energized. My to-do lists are generated first and foremost from my Core Desired Feelings, and then from my year’s intentions and goals. So my monthly intentions, my weekly goals, and my daily to-do lists – they make me purely vibrate with a Soul connection I didn’t realize was possible.
Danielle has given voice(and such a beautiful, honest, Soul-infused voice it is) to a concept that has whispered to my Soul forever: I am more, there is a better way, this can all be deeper. She has painted the yellow brick road that will guide us each to the home of our own Desire. She is the Wizard, showing us that we each wear our own ruby slippers.
Danielle has a calming, serene voice that is a pleasure to listen to. It almost feels like she is your friend, talking to you about this amazing approach, how you can flip goals inside out and learn to feel joyful, inspired, energized - whatever your Core Desired Feelings are.
I loved everything about this book from Danielle's authentic self to the enthusiasm to how I feel after I have been listening. Some books lull me, this energized and invigorated me.
Yes, I have listened to The Desire Map Daily, which is similar but a much more abbreviated version of the work. The Desire Map was all about immersing myself in my CDFs and taking a look at not only what, but how, for the next year.
The whole book is about the new idea to focus on Core Desired Feelings, rather than the "things" you want to achieve. Mind blowing inspiration!
I'm a Mapper for life. Although a positive person, The Desire Map has already changed me and my approach to life. I can't thank Danielle enough.
The authors voice is very nice. Very relaxing to listen to. And the process she shares in this audio is awesome. You uncover your core desired feelings with this audio program and use them to guide your decisons and actions. She covers alot of ground in this and shares some very useful information.
To use my Core Desired Feelings as my guide for making decisions and setting intentions.
I have quite a few audiobooks from Audible and have to say this is my favorite one so far.
Only if i were able to fast forward through the irritating music that plays every so often.
I would take out that awful music. I would also like it if she uses regular pronunciation of words. I got used to it after a while, but at first it was very distracting.
Starting with core desired feelings, not the actual items on the to-do list. It really is great content.
Wish I had a workbook that coincided with this!
I thought this was a book about goal setting! There is so much filler that sounds like an unorganized mix of regurgitated ideas from Esther Hicks, Oriah Mountain Dreamer and The Secret. I hate to be this person because I was so excited about this book. I was really hoping to find some good advice about honing in on your life purpose and setting goals that authenticate your life. The premise of this book is good, but it could have been written into 2 short chapters that are concise and helpful. This is also disappointing because this is the 2nd book I've bought this spring about life purpose and goals only to have found fluff inside instead. Also, Danielle doesn't sound authentic narrating it, rather, it sounds like she is trying to sound wise, which for me, is a huge turn off. If someone who writes a book about living an authentic life has to put on a wise woman front to sell her words, well, it's time to stop buying books like this.
Many cons but a few important pros (rendering it 'worth it'). Her voice - the odd Candanian accent, the slow, pretentious, '90s-sexy' voice is a huge turn-off. It just doesn't sound authentic - as if she is a second-rate actor playing a part. To get past this - I played it at 1.5x - making the voice higher, faster, and less sexy. Then the music.... it is annoying and pops in often - quite humorous, it's so dorky and stupid. The first three chapters are a waste, filler material. zzzzz... The 4 & 5th chapter is where it's at. You are being asked a series of questions to find out your heart's desire. This is what makes it all worthwhile. About 2 hrs worth of material, if you play it at 1.5x, it's less. But whatever - it's a workbook in audio format. If it was just sold as these two chapters then it would be like $6.95 for audible members so hence why they didn't - probably. But even as a credit, if you're at the place in your life where you want to manifest it real, you could really benefit. From it, I had a REAL breakthrough. Just, WOW. The final chapter centers upon how to get to where you want to go now that you know your core desire feelings. It's basically the same questions being asked again and again and again in various aspects of your life... so 5 mins of it is useful.
I was searching for a workbook to help me with manifesting and it's here.
Best Audio Book so far (with Fire Starter Sessions)
Danielle Laporte's a soul-full human being that shares a formula for living a better, happier life and to be better person in this world. It will rock your world, like it did mine.
Yes! I love her, it's like. she's someone I know well because she has spent so many hours with me :). I'd say her performance is even better on Desire Map, but it's a really fine difference. She's just awesome.
Both, many times. I read this book in a very intense time of my life so it was super useful beause it helped me dive deeper into my feelings and desires.
Amazing book, it will change your life
At this point, in MY opinion, what would have made this a better listening experience, is not seeing her social media and videos that promoting groups that hurt our communities and attitudes with extremely negative aspects/delivery. It tarnished my view of how she delivered her message and her intent in this book. If I hadn't seen her other views, I probably would have been satisfied with the message, I think she meant to convey in her writing. Stand alone, the book had a good message. Set your goals to achieve how you want to feel... For a "feel good guru" who is supposed to be honored to help you... to promote negativity on her pages, ruined the whole listening experience for me. It is hard for me to separate the message and the messager. It left me questioning the sincerity of the message in this book and if her intent was to just sell a book.
I felt like she didn't address coping with obstacles enough. She briefly glossed over it. Some people have really big obstacles and she wanted to giving more focus to positives... which is fine but according to the author you're supposed to "look the bad right in the face..." unless you're this author and writing this book. I wish she had addressed it more for those who need it.
I will choose to feel better by not choosing another performance by this author.
The poems and riffing... it didn't speak to me. Some of it felt forced. It's not my thing but others may enjoy the offbeat delivery.
Loved Danielle la porte's method and encouragement for arriving at your core desired feelings.
It makes sense to reveal goals based on how you want to feel, as I have been the person that completes a goal but feels none of the expected pleasure from it.
I feel as if starting this process has been vital to setting me up for 2016 and getting me more in touch with who I am and what I want to achieve this year - the results surprised me, but feel so natural!
Danielle delivers the method with realism and heart, an approachable and soft voice with plenty of spirit.
Easy to understand great lessons to use. Listened to this a couple of times now
"Made me feel happy but put off by author's dishonesty"
This is a good book and it helps you clarify your goals and it does raise happiness levels, if you like the law of attraction. But the author did put me off the book slightly and I started to dislike her when she tried to distance her method from the law of attraction and make out her method is new and unique. It is not. The law of attraction is not and has never been about envisioning 'things'. It has always been about feeling the emotion you get from having things or circumstances that you want. This book is good and a nice LOA refresher with some nice techniques. I'd have enjoyed it a lot more if the author had not felt such scarcity that she had to lie and make out she'd thought up something new. Do read this. It's well worth a listen, but skip over the bits where she compares it with LOA.
"game changer; life is fuller now"
buzzing and overflowing with new intentions or "goals with soul". beautifully poetic, read in a mesmerizing, lyrical tone, put simply, this book is outstanding.
loved every part. I listened to it entirely in less than a week and have two journals full of emotions I never even knew existed within.
please, if you want to live a life more present, more guided, more abundant....then purchase this little piece of magic.
inspirational words woven to make a soul overflowing with hope, positivity and gratitude.
love this author.
Someone else writing it, who did not refer to herself as feeling like a loser, or bragging about her spiritual materialism.
Actually there is no way this book or any other book written by this writer could ever make a 4 or 5 star!
All of it
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