Writing from firsthand experience, Allison Bottke identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son, in bondage - and how she overcame them. Additional real-life stories from other parents appear throughout the audio.
A tough-love guide to coping with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y. - a six-step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.
S = STOP enabling, STOP blaming yourself, and STOP the flow of money
A = Assemble a support group
N = Nip excuses in the bud
I = Implement rules/boundaries
T = Trust your instincts
Y = Yield everything to God
©2008 Allison Gappa Bottke (P)2016 Tantor
"Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is packed full of practical, useable, workable ideas and is a welcome tool for parents of grown children, and parents in pain." (Pam Farrel, author of Men Are Like Waffles)
This book is a must-have for parents of prodigal sons and daughters. As a parent of two sons who are in different types of prison, I daily release my sons to God. God is helping me to understand that He does not need my help, and when I do intervene, I do more harm than good. This book is just confirmation that I am on the right path in stopping my enabling behavior.
If you have an adult child that is out of control, you must read this book! Thank you, Allison, for writing this for all us "enabling parents"!
I am having a hard time getting through this book. I think it could be very helpful but I didn't realize how religious it is. I can only "give it to God" so many times. I need concrete steps and so far I haven't gotten any. I don't need scripture read and quoted to me. I think this should be sold as a Christian book and there needs to be some kind of warning.
Way too Religious
She's fine. I have no issue with her reading
If you are not religious and are just looking for concrete help don't bother with this book. I am looking for something else.
The book was very helpful in reminding me that I am not alone and I know that my adult children are not my responsibility. Allowing them to grow and develop in their lives is my job not to enabler them. The less I do the more I can start loving me. Loving me allows me to love others unconditionally and being able to detach with love. Thank you.
This book was incredibly accurate on what we as parents need to do at what ever point we are in with our adult children. So many of us have enabled our kids thinking we were helping them make it through life easier. In actuality, we stopped them from becoming responsible thought giving adults. It's very difficult to change what we have known for 20+ years. But we must. We deserve to be happy and free.
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