Doing Life with Your Adult Children

Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

By: Jim Burns PhD

Narrated by: Wayne Campbell

Length: 4 hrs and 18 mins

Publisher's summary

Practical advice and hopeful encouragement for the tough yet rewarding transition to parenting grown kids.

If you have an adult child, you know that parenting doesn't stop when a child reaches the age of 18. In many ways, it gets more complicated. Both your heart and your head are as involved as ever, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact.

In Doing Life with Your Adult Children, parenting expert Jim Burns helps you navigate one of the richest and most challenging seasons of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to questions such as these:

• Is it okay to give advice to my grown child?
• What's the difference between enabling and helping?
• What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home?
• What do I do when my child doesn't seem to be maturing into adulthood?
• How do I relate to my grown child's significant other?
• What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries?
• How can I support my grown children when I don't support their values?

Including positive principles on bringing kids back to faith, ideas on how to leave a legacy as a grandparent, and encouragement for every changing season, Doing Life with Your Adult Children is a unique book on your changing role in a calling that never ends.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2019 Jim Burns (P)2019 Zondervan

What I Learned.

Everything in this book has proven useful in doing life with our adult children. I had just finished a chapter when a particular situation showed up in working with our daughter’s significant other. Jim’s advice in this book on how we needed to proceed was spot on.

I think I am going to listen again and buy the book.

On time training

I am currently dealing with many of the issues discussed in this book. I know that I or we needed to treat my daughter as an adult and I thought I was until her life choices were uncovered. And I was shocked but I looked inward with the help of the Holy Spirit and found I was doing the “too much”. I or we have enabled her behaviors and I needed help on the how. I goggled the topic “Parenting Adult Children “ and there it was. I am so grateful for the knowledge poured into this book. This book provided the how and why examples . Thank you, I only wish I could sponsor a webinar for parents in High School and college. I feel blessed to have read this book.

Laura
A loving parent

Practical Advice

Narration was well paced. Topic hit on every subject possible in our role as parents to our older kids. We spend more years assisting our adult children than we do their first 18 years. Nowadays there are more critical social issues challenging the hearts of our children regardless of their age. Knowing others have experienced some similar thoughts on how to engage is so very helpful

Title says it all

Even for a grandparent of six years, this had lots of good nuggets. The faith-based orientation is helpful.

Wear beige and keep your mouth shut.

This chapter was so helpful. It works a both ways I know and it resonated throughout my family tree. Prayers for restoration and peace in the future. Thank you for this chapter particularly.

Good points made, very faith based

While I agree fully with the premise of this book, many of the points were basic and there was a quite preachy tone and more religious content than I expected.

Full of wisdom and advice

This book is full of wisdom and advice. I wish I had read it a few years prior. It has definitely given me a new perspective.

This is a great read

I tend to be very motherly. This book has a lot of “take aways” and recommendations. I try very hard to not offer advice, my kids appreciate this so much!

Fabulous Advice

I’m a stepparent of our adult children and this helped a ton with the strained relationship I have with one of them in particular. I changed my mindset and became nurturing and supportive through their tough time instead of disapproving of their choices. It’s not my position to approve or disapprove, because the choices are theirs to make as adults. I’m here to be a loving presence and help them figure life out. I recommend this book to anyone who has adult children.

Much needed!

This was soooo good! I recommend this book to those who have teens so that the transition is smoother when the day comes.