Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham's approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don't need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe - or even punish.
This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions - and get them in check - so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years.
If you're tired of power struggles, tantrums, and searching for the right "consequence", look no further. You're about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way.
©2012 Laura Markham, Ph.D. (P)2013 Tantor
I felt like the book was very repetitive. Also, there was some advice that seemed it would definitely have a detrimental effect. For instance she recommends turning it into a game when a kid throws food on the floor. I'm pretty sure they're likely to repeat it if it's fun.
I don't have a lot of time to read and I never would have thought this sissy Lala kind of stuff would be so important improving my life and my sons life
Absolutely. I've encouraged my wife to start giving it out to friends at baby showers. This book was one of those paradigm shifting "aha" books for me as a father.
I thought I was a pretty good parent before reading this book, but still had a few questions and knew there were area's I could improve in. My kids are 6, 4, 2, 0... I wish I could have found this book before I started parenting, it has completely changed my outlook on parenting and connecting with my kids.
I had heard about a "no discipline" approach and thought it absolutely absurd. I'm a fairly strict father and hold my children to extremely high standards. We have timeouts, consequences (that my wife and I make up). I'm converted this is not the way to parent your children and that the strategies presented by Dr. Laura Markham work. I've seen vast improvement in my children's behavior.
I was brought up in a strict home and was consequently taught to be a strict parent. I think most parents are that way. But there is a better and easier way to teach our children to become happy, healthy, and responsible adults. It's all about connection, and I didn't realize the how much I was hurting the connection I had with my kids.
READ THIS BOOK!
This is simply the most practical and helpful parenting book I've listened to so far. P.E.T and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen... are great, but this one is now my favourite by far.
It had really and truly helped me understand and connect better with my kids and to reduce the level of discord I was unintentionally generating. I am currently listening to it a second time.
The narration is perfect, and I don't use that term lightly.
I HIGHLY recommend this audio book.
This book completely changed the way I see and interact with my kids. I was getting nowhere with discipline and rewards. Not only do I now understand why this doesn't work, I have the incentive to try an empathic approach. I have seen a huge difference in my ability to de-escalate tantrums, foster cooperation, and create the foundation for happy/secure kid already...just in the first week of implementing these techniques. Plus I feel so much better about myself as a competent parent when I really put everything aside to fully connect/engage with my kids. I know it works because my kids are visibly flourishing, and it feels so much better in my gut to parent this way. It's what I would have been doing all along if I'd only known how!
Should be required reading. I think I'll start gifting this at baby showers from now on!
I listened to the audiobook, the information is vey good & I can apply the info to my 12 yr old daughter too.
I feel I'm missing out of some reference pages - which you refer to though.
I believe every new parent would benefit from reading this book. Is there a book geared toward adolescents? That would be helpful. Thank you.
As a child psychologist, it would take me over 30 hours to cover with parents what has been covered in this book. And I would not have done it as well...
This book helped me manage and understand why I found myself yelling at my kids so much. It provided a HUGELY important piece of the puzzle rather than just tips for handling it. I now get WHY. I've immediately been able to implement some of the steps. And it's working.
It's helping me with my 5-year-old, my 6-year-old and my relationship with my wife.
I just wish I read this a few years ago.
I listened to it at 1.5 speed and it was perfect.
When I tried a technique with my son and it worked. no meltdown by him. no yelling in response by me.
I've just finished it and I'm sure there will be good days and bad days. But honestly, until the last 2 days, I don't recall a single day in the last few months where I haven't raised my voice at all. There's been a lot more silliness in the last 48-hours and I love it.
This book made me see things in a whole different light. I was loving them out of fear and not loving them with love. I feel a certain calm after reading this book and don't feel like yelling anymore.
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