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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) Audiobook

I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power

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Publisher's Summary

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?

Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.

There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.

Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.

As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."

©2007 Brené Brown (P)2010 Audible, Inc.

What the Critics Say

"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)

"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)

"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)

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    Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

    Probably not. It seemed a bit "fictional" with most examples having a happily ever after.


    What could Brené Brown have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

    Maybe varied the interviewees in the book. It seemed everyone was able to resolve their problems effortlessly.


    How did the narrator detract from the book?

    Yes, it read like a fictional book.


    Do you think I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

    No


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    informative powerful written with clarity,exactly what I would expect from Brene. not crazy about the narrator

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    E. McNair 02-12-17
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    "Every time I think she's shown me at all…"

    I have read three of Brene Brown's other books before I read this one. I had no idea how much this one would change how I felt. In some ways I wish I had read this one first, but at the same time having already dabbled in her theories I was more familiar with what she was talking about. I will forever be changed from reading this book.

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    Jennie M Bravata 01-06-17 Member Since 2015
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    This was just the book I needed. It was very informative. I love Brene Brown's research!

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    Justyna 01-02-17
    Justyna 01-02-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Interesting but not for me"

    Definitely there were parts that I appreciated for being insightful and explaining things, soon the book became pretty boring and repetitive as it constantly circled around the issues of parenting and family.
    I'm in my mid 20s, I'm still a student, and I have no interest in creating a family, let alone having children. A lot of the examples and discussions in the book simply weren't for me. I might re-visit it in 10-15 years when it becomes more relevant. That's really the only thing about this book that dissatisfied me, and of course that's a very subjective reason.

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    Miranda 12-27-16
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    "highly recommend this book for anyone!!"

    this book is full of useful information for wives, mothers, friends. Everyone can benefit from this book.

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    "This information is so vital in this day and age."

    We, as a society, have become so separated and callous toward each other and toward our children that we no longer know how to interact with one another let alone ourselves. Cultivating a heart of compassion is the door we all need to walk through and understanding shame is one key to that door.

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    Living with shame for years and Brene Browns books are helping me break the cycle, so grateful!

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    "Another great lesson from Brene!"

    I loved this book as I did all of hers! My only quarrel with this one was the narration. :(. Since Brene writes in first person and her voice is so recognizable and this book is told by someone else, and there were so many stories shared by other people...it was really hard at times to decipher who was talking. Was it Brene or the stories...it was a bit hard to follow. Other than that the substance was spot on as usual. :)

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    Amy 11-28-16
    Amy 11-28-16 Member Since 2015
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    "wish I would have found this year's ago!"

    Great book, very insightful. Full of very relatable examples. Wishing I would have read (listened) to this year's ago!

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