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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) Audiobook

I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power

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Publisher's Summary

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?

Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.

There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.

Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.

As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."

©2007 Brené Brown (P)2010 Audible, Inc.

What the Critics Say

"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)

"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)

"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)

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    What made the experience of listening to I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) the most enjoyable?

    Educational as well as entertaining.


    What was the most compelling aspect of this narrative?

    The information and examples given are in a simple vocabulary.


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    Sheryl 09-13-16
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    "yet another reason to believe you can heal"

    this is yet another book to raise the mental and emotional IQ for all

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    Chelly 09-10-16
    Chelly 09-10-16

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    "Narration Too Fast unlistenable"

    The speaker was completely inappropriate for this genre. It was like a funeral being taken by a DJ on drugs. So bad I was annoyed and couldn't listen any more. The pace was too fast the intonation too whiney and shallow. Spiritual and psychological topics are thoughtful pieces, and in my opinion require a slow thoughtful reading, not a chatty underhand rumour spreading rendition.

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    Nanurala Nunavut CA 09-07-16
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    "Such great material"

    I really enjoyed this book. The narrator was good however I prefer when read by Brene herself. There is so much helpful information in this book to help understand shame in our own lives and others. I will relisten to this book again soon because the material is so rich and I have so much to implement in my own life and work. Thanks Brene and support team!

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    Walter C. Zeier 09-02-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Wonderfully insightful"

    Excellent book dealing with a difficult topic. The narrator sounded compatiant and calming. Thank you.

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    Rkated 09-01-16
    Rkated 09-01-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Very good topic, lots of interesting insights"

    I am glad I read it but I struggled to finish a bit. Some parts seemed a bit repetitive and too stretched. I suspect that narration attributes to it too (a bit monotonous).

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    Anna 08-31-16
    Anna 08-31-16 Member Since 2016
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    If you could sum up I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) in three words, what would they be?

    Shame Resilience Power


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    Brené Brown. Because she's courageous, authentic, and funny.


    What about Lauren Fortgang’s performance did you like?

    I like how her voice changes to reflect things that might be a little hard to accept at first.


    What’s the most interesting tidbit you’ve picked up from this book?

    That I, and we all, have shame triggers. They can effect us every day and they can be managed by learning to recognize them and know what we can do when they happen or when we notice that they start to happen.


    Any additional comments?

    Great intro book to her work, but it's not her strongest piece. I'm listening to Daring Greatly and I highly recommend checking that one out.

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    "Surprisingly good/ practical (not hust for women)"

    first 2 chapters left me feeling this was another framework to blame the world for our inadequacies and validate our problems, but this view was wrong. Gives a pragmatic look at how societal expectatuons influence how we act and perceive ourselves and how we can indentify this effect, what drives what we do and change. the language focuses on women and is a bit ' soft' but is a good read.

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    Lynn M Vogt 08-18-16
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    "For the young parent."

    I didn't finish. It was not relevant to me. The author is much younger than me.

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    Sydney Jo and Elizabeth Albert 08-16-16 Member Since 2016
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    inspiring and truly encouraging. Thank you Brene Brown author for your courage and strength to research, interview and share

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