The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
©2007 Brené Brown (P)2010 Audible, Inc.
"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)
"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)
"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)
Opens the mortgage on lives to refinance. We can evolve when the truth self is known. Shame resilience. We are not the only one in night. Shame on us if we do learn this afterwards of listening to Brown's book.
Informative and educational, this book opens your eyes to the harm done by shame on the individual and society. Then it teaches ways to identify and cope with others who shame you.
This is a bold, intuitive look at shame and how it relates to anyone. I learned more on what I don't want to be by listening, but also, learned what not to say to others when they're in crisis. Excellent book. Everybody should read it! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Educational as well as entertaining.
The information and examples given are in a simple vocabulary.
The speaker was completely inappropriate for this genre. It was like a funeral being taken by a DJ on drugs. So bad I was annoyed and couldn't listen any more. The pace was too fast the intonation too whiney and shallow. Spiritual and psychological topics are thoughtful pieces, and in my opinion require a slow thoughtful reading, not a chatty underhand rumour spreading rendition.
I really enjoyed this book. The narrator was good however I prefer when read by Brene herself. There is so much helpful information in this book to help understand shame in our own lives and others. I will relisten to this book again soon because the material is so rich and I have so much to implement in my own life and work. Thanks Brene and support team!
I am glad I read it but I struggled to finish a bit. Some parts seemed a bit repetitive and too stretched. I suspect that narration attributes to it too (a bit monotonous).
Shame Resilience Power
Brené Brown. Because she's courageous, authentic, and funny.
I like how her voice changes to reflect things that might be a little hard to accept at first.
That I, and we all, have shame triggers. They can effect us every day and they can be managed by learning to recognize them and know what we can do when they happen or when we notice that they start to happen.
Great intro book to her work, but it's not her strongest piece. I'm listening to Daring Greatly and I highly recommend checking that one out.
"Truly the best self help book I have ever read."
I am fifty two and have survived everything from success to near suicide and homelessness.
I have endured a life of despair so intense that even soldiers and medics avoid me.
No self help book ever helped me and I have read hundreds.
This book is a very rare experience.
The author promises nothing and yet
delivers what I can only describe as life changing insight.
There are no words to describe the reality of the changes which this author could help
some people to inscribe into their actual lives.The retrieval of happiness.
If ever compassion and genius were combined this is it..
I believe that this book is up there with the great achievements of the human heart.
Too many to choose.
Too many to choose,(genuinely).
You are not alone.
Need I say more.
Should be on every single person's reading list. In one week I've overcome a massive hurdle and have started moving forward. Utterly brilliant
"for a female audience"
I got an hour in until I definitely targeted towards a feminine audience. Didn't get this impression from the write up. would prefer a more balanced case study.
"life changing buy this book"
This book has finally unlocked the pain I have been carrying for over 40 years. wonderful book read by a warm narrator.
"Not Brene Herself"
My only comment was that is was not Brene herself... it is not the same as she puts in so much enthusiasm into her work...
"Another wonderful Brené Brown book!"
Loved it so much I'm starting it again! As always, Brené gives wonderful insight in a powerful and, at times, humourous way. Great listen!
Interesting book which has been an eye opener for me. Lengthy but a worthwhile listen. Def recommend.
Wow, this changed my perspective on life so much. As a 'shame prone' person, I've found a tremendous wealth of information and support from this book.
"it isn't just you"
brene brown is just fantastic! this is her third book I listen ot read.
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