The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
©2007 Brené Brown (P)2010 Audible, Inc.
"Brené Brown’s ability to explore shame and resilience with humor, vulnerability and honesty is both uplifting and liberating. If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world, we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent. This important and hopeful book offers a bold new perspective on the power of telling our stories." (Professor Jody Williams, 1997 Nobel Peace Prize Recipient; Campaign Ambassador, International Campaign to Ban Landmines)
"Grounded in exceptional scholarship and filled with inspiring stories, this is one of those rare books that has the potential to turn lives around." (Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger)
"I Thought It Was Just Me can be a doorway to freedom and self-esteem for many, many readers. (Martha Beck, Ph.D., columnist, O, The Oprah Magazine, and author of Finding Your Own North Star)
Loved this book! The examples helped me to be able to relate to the concept being taught. The chapter on body image and shame was excellent. As the title implies, I no longer feel like it is just me. Brené Brown is knowledgeable and well-informed about the topic of shame. Listening to the book through Audible actually was better, because I could relax or do something around the house. I usually have a hard time sticking with a book that isn't fiction and finishing it. Listening through Audible helped to make it easier.
This is an enjoyable read with access to web site down loads for hands on look at what keeps persons from being unable to change negative assessment and behaviors, judgement and engaged suffering related to how we are treated by other's. Speaks truly to those who need to break cycles in life that at times leave them feeling helpless or disparagingly sad or discouraged, as to where they fit or how they are influenced by different types of interpersonal relationships that cause different styles of hvulnerability in our lives. This book is both in-depth with research related studies, based off of best seller list of 'The Power of Vulnerability in our daily lives. Slant is based some what more related to women and self esteem yet applies to any gender reader.
I just did not get caught up in this book - and as a rule I can't stop listening this genre.
This book makes a number of interesting and relevant points. Unfortunately it’s not a smooth read/listen – it is much longer and more repetitive than it needs to be. The book has the appearance of something that was adapted from a thesis, but wasn’t rearranged to be reader friendly. I think that Brown’s evaluation of shame vs. humiliation vs. embarrassment is very important. I just wish it had been more clearly conveyed.
Fortgang did a good job narrating this book. She sounded compassionate and sincere, and conveyed the emotion that I think Brown intended.
I believe the book could have been streamlined. Sharpening the points and examples and making the book about half the length would have made it far stronger.
I found this book fascinating and either talking about or thinking about this book constantly. I realized the root of my struggle with unattainable expectations and negative perceptions of motherhood. I'm a mother of 3 and I put a lot of pressure on myself. I suffer from depression and performance anxiety as a mother.
this book included fascinating insite and applicable strategies for shame resilience.
Great book, eye opening when it comes to identifying our triggers and overcoming them. I loved the exercices and examples. Great analysis of shame and its impacts on our lives.
I highly recommend this book. Any book of hers, actually. Brené Brown's work is life changing, once you start taking it to heart. I would have preferred that she read the audiobook herself, since she is a true joy to listen to, but the narrator does a good job nevertheless.
I really enjoyed this book. Very rarely do I ever complete a book before moving on but I did it with this one. Already I've talked about and shared it with two other people and I know I'll definitely listen to it again. My only Concern was that men were talked about only in the last 45 mins. but the author addresses the reasons why and I appreciate that she's working more with them now. Hopefully she has another book I can find with more information from their perspective.
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