Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck

By: Amy Alkon

Narrated by: Carrington MacDuffie

Length: 7 hrs and 54 mins

Publisher's summary

We live in a world that's very different from the one in which Emily Post came of age. Many of us who are nice (but who also sometimes say "f*ck") are frequently at a loss for guidelines about how to be a good person who deals effectively with the onslaught of rudeness we all encounter. To lead us through this this miasma of modern manners, syndicated columnist Amy Alkon - The Advice Goddess - gives us a new set of manners for our 21st-century lives. In chapters titled "The Telephone", "The Internet", "The Apology", and "Communicating", among others, Alkon maps out new rules that go beyond what fork to use to answer real questions we all have:

• When is it okay to phone somebody instead of emailing or texting? When is it rude?
• Why shouldn't you tweet about a guest at a private dinner party? Everybody knows privacy is dead, right?
• How do you shut the guy up in the pharmacy line with his cellphone on speaker?
• When is it right to approach somebody who's crying in public and when is it right to leave him alone?
• When should you unfriend somebody on Facebook and what do you say when she calls you on it?
• If you have an STD, when do you tell people, what do you say, and do you have to contact everyone you've ever had sex with?

Real advice for today with more than a touch of humor, Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck is destined to give good old Emily a shove off the etiquette shelf (if that's not too rude to say).

©2014 Amy Alkon (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

Love!

Love love love! It's like she was reading my mind. Especially love because the author lives in Santa Monica near where I experienced much the same!!

Good one!

A practical and fun guide to being cool. Great modern day etiquette book. Move over Emily Post there's a new guru in town.

Memorize It!

If you ever wondered how best to handle difficult situations, difficult people, or if you might have been a contributing factor to this very rude world, then you need to listen to Alcon's guide. It's no book of prissy manners but a frank look at the boorish behavior so common today narrated in a pithy, seriously-WTF-tone of voice. I plan on memorizing it.

Hilarious and practical

Practical tips on how to be a nicer human or help others be nicer. Hilarious and down to earth. Loved it!

helped me directly.

I made up with a neighbor hadn't spoken to me for 5 years. Thank you!

Fact Based 2/3 Then Strong Hateful Opinions With Few Facts....

The first 2/3 part of the book was entertaining/informative. It drew you in Immediately. What i did notice in her analysis of studies on the brain and fight or flight, she omits subconscious and Ego. She actually talks ego away instead.......trying to convince the reader her platform isn’t out of ego but divinity....?eh? Then I start to notice the shift in voice and demeanor......Couldn’t Include ego and subconscious more in her etiquette as it disproves her whole platform. “How to still be shallow/bitchy/bossy/rude/Whiny to fellow Americans and in a manipulative way as to look nice/Save face and get away with it and appear meek/humble and perceived as if you’ve evolved” Dignity and pride should be checked regularly. She moves to personal opinion, (Even backwards etiquettes on children, she has 0). I was invested until the Hatorade/Resentment/Speculating Opinion/Pride/Ego came out screaming in her voice from the pages. I read with an open mind yet it was outrageous. You must be strong in mind and self ethics/discipline to take the good you find and weed out the rest. When her and her friends sound as if they sit around bragging on their own altruism regularly I was open mouth shocked. “Change a lightbulb at your neighbors when their out of town”......Yeah.......that’s what you do......she continues.......Leave them a note as to what you did for them....Receive praise and tell friends........no, no, no!.......she talks of dignity.....How about integrity?.....Only doing good deeds to personally gain from the altruistic high associated and self perceived do-good status, is not the right reasoning. To only perform good deeds so you get brownie points? Wtf!? Give asking nothing in return and telling no one! Do that 7 days! Policing everyone and their mom.....She has got to be the most hated neighbor with all of her rules and calling others out.....all day everyday and night for her perceived social injustices.....I’d be exhausted telling the world how to function with fliers and notes and investigations, backhanded sing song comments....What!? The one thing I have always believe and agreed with is, “If a guest, etc has improper etiquette, uses the wrong fork or has headphones too loud......volume police...?....the courteous thing to do is say nothing.....As etiquette dictates: If you tell them they are incorrect in etiquette it would be rude and un-host-like.” Guests are to feel welcome and at ease and that is your job as a host. Also she chooses whom goes to jail and whom doesn’t after two hit and runs!? She is not the law or lawyer or judge and the crime is the same....both punishable as such......That’s the true injustice...bias.....

If you want to justify your ridiculously rude opinion based behavior.......I suggest this book. ☺️

(Disclaimer: Oh so aware of my, “Not so reserved opinions” on this topic. I could not keep quiet. That’s my ego! Self check commencing and wooooosaahh!!!)

Advice on how to be a passive aggressive jerk

Her advice is really terrible. most of her advice is indirect and mean... not polite at all.

Don't judge a book by it's cover OR title.

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

A different narrator would have helped.

What do you think your next listen will be?

Something in the mystery section.

Any additional comments?

The title is the reason I bought this one. It started out funny and actually made me laugh while driving. After about 30 minutes, I was over it. I should have returned it.

Any Alkon is a wack job

This writer tells people to disagree and web shame others .... not a good book.

It should be illegal to use the word manners in her title as she continually contradicts herself by being rude and mean to others.

She is the reason people watch and film others verses helping them lol.

If you like verbose...

You might like this book. I don't like verbosity and I did not enjoy this book--even though I've enjoyed the author's columns through the years.