When you have sex, do you take a timer and a legal pad into the bedroom to log the number of hip thrusts and grunts? Do you compile all of your data at the end of the week and plot it into a graph? Do you have goals for the number of times you have sex per month, the number of partners you have, or keep close tabs on how many minutes you can last for? Of course you don’t. The very thought of setting and tracking goals in the bedroom is a complete absurdity!
Why is That?
Why does that strike you as absurd? You don’t need goals in order to be motivated to have sex do you? It’s naturally enjoyable and requires no such outside motivation. More importantly, the thought of setting goals and tracking them would ruin the whole experience wouldn’t it? But you set goals in all kinds of other areas. Why?
The Problem with Goals
Goals are something we use to incentivize ourselves to do things we wouldn’t otherwise have the desire to do. There is something inherently wrong with this at its core. Goal-setting and tracking merely works to ensure that we spend more time doing things we aren’t truly passionate about.
And if setting goals in areas that we do enjoy can take away from the natural enjoyment of those activities, and ruin our spontaneity, might setting goals actually make the actions required to obtain them less enjoyable? The answer to that question is “yes.”
If you stop setting goals, and focus on doing what you love with vigor and enthusiasm just for the sake of doing it, you ensure that your enjoyment of those activities stays high. And if your enjoyment stays high, you keep doing it consistently for years, you don’t procrastinate, and you can achieve remarkable levels of productivity - not to mention you are literally more efficient and intelligent when you are engaged in activities for pleasure’s sake.
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I wouldn't recommend this book only because he didn't have valid examples to persuade why goals suck. His use of personal narratives where not relatable-me. And most of his examples were of pure extremism, no moderation.
However, if I were to recommend this book, I would recommend to people going through a life crisis, soul searching, or prove ledges. I say this because if you are already established or "come from money" then the methods are more likely to work
I've been deep into goals and mastery, and while I'm not 100% persuaded by the author's proposition, I think it's definitely worth both having disconfirming evidence to what we believe and there were some valuable points anyway.
Matt points out the ridiculousness of goal setting, where goals have a tendency of taking the fun out of things that you like to do. The book is short and to the point,
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