A funny, fresh, and moving antidote to conventional attitudes about sex and the single woman.
Emily Witt is single and in her 30s. Up until a few years ago, she still envisioned her sexual experience "eventually reaching a terminus, like a monorail gliding to a stop at Epcot Center". Like many people, she imagined herself disembarking, finding herself face-to-face with another human being, "and there we would remain in our permanent station in life: the future".
But, as we all know, things are more complicated than that. Love is rare and frequently unreciprocated. Sexual acquisitiveness is risky and can be hurtful. And generalizing about what women want or don't want or should want or should do seems to lead nowhere. Don't our temperaments, our hang-ups, and our histories define our lives as much as our gender?
In Future Sex, Witt explores Internet dating, Internet pornography, polyamory, and other avant-garde sexual subcultures as sites of possibility. She observes her encounters with these scenes with a wry sense of humor, capturing them in all their strangeness, ridiculousness, and beauty. The result is an open-minded, honest account of the contemporary pursuit of connection and pleasure and an inspiring new model of female sexuality - open, forgiving, and unafraid.
©2016 Emily Witt (P)2016 Audible, Inc.
Was expecting more insights from the author's point of view, but she seemed to escape the questions she raised for herself by using an example couple. Only mildly interesting and she read it like she was bored out of her mind.
The author is clearly interested in the subject matter but the book reads like several magazine articles loosely assembled. The most fascinating aspect of the book is that there is no mention of morality with respect to sex. I think more facts and figures on say porn viewing or online dating would at least be interesting and make for some take aways. I think the author did not seem out multiple points of view on various aspects of sex and that might have provided more insight.
The world of love and sex has changed. More people are single than ever before. More people are single parents. More people recognize the ephemeral nature of the nuclear family and are choosing other arrangements. But what, exactly, are these arrangements? Is there an emerging common narrative connecting them? Witt attempts to answer this question for herself and along the way, illuminate the path ahead for others. For this post-marriage, future-focused single dad, it's an entertaining ride and a breath of fresh air.
I am a little less confused about my own views about sex, sexuality, reproduction, and family probably because identifying with the writer is very easy.
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