There's a new set of 3Rs for our kids - respect, responsibility, and resilience - to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all.
Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counterintuitive, yet much more effective, approach to parenting: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines - even if duct tape is required!
Witty and straight-shooting, Duct Tape Parenting entertains as it informs parents how to do less in order to raise more confident, capable children.
Includes a foreword by Alex Kajitani, the 2009 California Teacher of the Year and Finalist National Teacher of the Year.
©2012 Vicki Hoefle. Recorded by arrangement with Bibliomotion, Inc. (P)2013 HighBridge Company
Love books! Classics and lighter fiction, mysteries (not too violent please :-). And selective non-fiction--whatever takes my fancy.
Vicki Hoefle has written about her parenting philosophy, based on the work of psychologists Afred Adler and Rudolph Dreikurs. If you are seeking a book with "quick fix" ideas for parenting, this is not it. This book is written on the premise that parents contribute to the very negative behaviors they most do not want to see continue in their kids by what they respond and attend to.
Ms. Hoefle suggests that parents begin by trying to think farther into a child's future, to consider how they would like their kids to turn out as adults, how they will manage in society. Toward this end, she suggests that parents be careful to avoid responding to behaviors that could have long term consequences to a kid's future and be responsive instead to behaviors that will serve their child well as they are moving forward into maturity (respect, responsibility, etc.).
I think this is a useful book for parents, teachers, grandparents..anyone who loves and interacts with children.
The author makes it clear why typical parenting approaches don't work and why hers is a better way to go in the long term. She inspired me to rethink and behave differently as a parent. I am a better mother for having listened to this book. More importantly, I can see that my children's lives will be far better served by this approach to parenting, A strong statement, yes, and I believe it because I could already see a difference before I'd even finished the book, and now even more so with a few weeks practice.
Passion, commitment, experience.
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