The rules for living in the real world have changed, because the world we live in has changed. Much of the conventional wisdom the last generation has passed on just doesn't apply like it once did. If you want to win, and win big, and, more importantly, keep what you work so hard for, you need a crystal-clear view of how the real world works - not how you wish it worked, but how it actually works.
In Life Code: The New Rules for Winning in the Real World, six-time New York Times number-one best-selling author Dr. Phil McGraw abandons traditional thinking and tells you the ugly truth about the users, abusers, and overall "bad guys" we all have in our lives. He also reveals the secrets of how they think and how they get to and exploit you and those you love. You'll gain incredible insight into these negative people, which he refers to as BAITERs (Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters, Reckless), and you'll gain the tools to protect yourself from their assaults. Dr. Phil gives you the "Evil Eight" identifiers so you can see them coming from a mile away, as well as their "Secret Playbook", which contains the "Nefarious 15" tactics they use to exploit you and take what is yours mentally, physically, socially, and professionally. Life Code then focuses on you and your playbook, which contains the "Sweet 16" tactics for winning in the real world.
Edgy, controversial and sometimes irreverent, Dr. Phil again abandons convention to prepare you to claim what you deserve and claim it now. You take flying lessons to learn to fly, swimming lessons to learn to swim, and singing lessons to learn to sing. So, why not take winning lessons to learn to win?
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many of the relationship and self help classics but a big difference is the focus is not on getting along well with others as being wise to people who would wish to undermine you no matter how positive, helpful and essential good you are to them and others
Enjoyed listening to his voice and funny texas sayings. Listening to the book over and over helped the information stick. I enjoy listening while driving or working. It gives extra exposure that I wouldn't get by setting down to read.
Getting specific information on dealing with conflict and using it in my life and watching the person attempt to use many of the negative attacking behaviors toward me that I was not only prepared for but very clear on my desired outcome. The experience was the most positive I have ever had in dealing with a difficult person. I was totally prepared and clear on my desired outcome and did not get off course by their response. I feel more confident in my ability to deal better in the future with difficult people and catching situations immediately instead of letting it fester because "I cant believe they said or did that". Now I am more aware that "oh yes I can beleive they would be capable of saying or doing that" and I won't be caught unaware again.
I would just to recap on some key strategies
Made no opologies for puting your own outcomes above others
Far too long was spent ( a whole chapter I think) on telling you what he was going to tell you and how important what he was going to impart was. I realise that this is part of the training model of Tell em what you are going to em, tell em, and then tell em what you told them. But I found it a annoying
Yes. Lots of information about the toxic people in our lives.
Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Life is a competition and we have to work hard to stay in the game.
I will listen to this a second time.
I REALLY think this is a great book. I think EVERY woman (especially Southern) should read it, since we are taught to be polite over anything else. Be polite, but DO NOT GIVE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT. Very interesting points and I liked the spirit of the information. Highly recommended. Even though I think he mentions it WAY TOO much on his show.
Painfully, audible has formatted their reviews which makes writing a good review very difficult. But my three words would be TEDIOUS - McGraws introduction, which drags on and on and on, is very difficult to takeUSEFUL - McGraw resummarizes specialty reading for professionals by highlighting the antisocial and personality disordered individuals in terms non professionals can relate to - he calls them 'baiters'WORTHY - worth your time to listen even though you may be aware of some or much of the advice he dispenses
McGraw calls the antisocial personality disordered (narcissists, borderlines and sociopaths in professional terms accounting for up to 30% of the general population) BAITERS which refers to Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters, Reckless- people who will hurt you in life. He describes them so that you might recognize them, which he calls the "tools" to recognize them - which he calls the “Evil Eight” (identifiers) so you can see them coming, and identifies their “Secret Playbook,” which contains the “Nefarious 15” tactics they use to exploit you and take what is yours mentally, physically, socially and professionally. McGraw then focuses on you (and your 'playbook'), which contains the “Sweet 16” tactics for winning in life and the real world.Basically, trust no one, recognize and understand the narcissistic and self serving deceit and manipulations of antisocially disordered people. McGraw never gives statistics but sub clinical antisocials account for at least 16-18% of the population and clinical antisocials about 8%, which is quite a large number of people. As McGraw said, you might be married to one, and you surely know several.McGraw then gives advice to 'get with it' and develop a positive goal oriented, competitively based series of personal goals for you to accomplish in life those things to maximize your own potential.
NO question about it - the intro drags and drags on with what this book is going to do for you. My advice - suffer through it by doing something else while you listen. When he gets serious then listen more carefully.
Most people have not had serious run ins with antisocially disordered people or have failed to recognize past problems as such. And most don't know that these problems are caused by deceitful, manipulative predatory personalities. Dr. Phil gives you and me everyday tools to recognize the antisocial BAITERS and concepts to avoid or deal with them effectively.
A freeform comment area might be a better means to relay the audible content than this self-limiting format. Also, except for the ruthless self promotion of the book in the beginning, which is tedious, McGraw is effective as a narrator emphasizing useful and relevant concepts as he presents them.
Yes. He offers a fresh outlook and unique action plans.
Still a little negative. He says he is just keeping it real. He may be right, I just hope not.
What he says about infidelity was wise.
I think it has. The Dr. Phil Show.
If you like this book, read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Covey. Dr. Phil borrowed heavily from him.
I would recommend this book to many friends because it was a co-worker and dear friend who recommended it to me. Besides, this book is the handbook of practical strategies for life's inevitable challenges and unfair deals.
I would compare this book to Peck's "The Road Less Travelled" and some of John Maxwell's books, based on the emotional, spiritual, and holistic awakening the books inspire.
Dr. Phil adds a personal touch. His instructive voice and encouraging words incite an awareness of the evil and adversary in our world and how equipped we should become to adequately deal with them.
Yes and no. I was curious to hear similar experiences and how to conquer them and other experiences and how to overcome them. However, books as such are copious and cannot be digested in one sitting or course.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book!
I would recommend to a friend, and have, because if you are or have been prey for a baitor, it gives words and information on how to stand up for yourself and be heard. I also appreciated the verbage for a conversation with a friend who is talking about you. Wow-Soooo Useful!!!!!
I would also recommend "Shark and a Goldfish," by Jon Gordon
Dr. Phil speaking brings his seriousness to each situation. I enjoyed it.
This book made me laugh and cry about so many years I have been willing to listen to lies from a baitor thinking it was my fault and there was something wrong with me. I love that I have a voice and will be more cautious from now on in future relationships.
I love it, and will listen/read and relisten/reread this book many, many times. I want to get this so that my life will be different. Thank you Dr. Phil...I am truly grateful.
I think as readers we need both versions, the audio to listen to over and over until we get it. The print form allows us to mark and grow with our book marks.
Understanding that things I have thought for YEARS someone was finally saying it.
This is my first but depending on the topics it might not be my last because I do enjoy his TV talk show
Its ok for me to not give people the benefit of the doubt and that it's ok to truly see people for what they are.
Generally, this man is too mushy-feely for me, but this is firm straight talk that rings true in my heart.
"Life Code is excellent"
Listening to the audio of Dr Phil McGraw was really interesting, it felt like he was in the same room, just talking to me and putting his point across.
The truthfulness of Dr Phil McGraw words and examples.
I enjoyed listening to the first part which outlines what type of person we sometimes deal with whether it be in the office or at home.
It has been a long time since I've actually listened to an audio and actually agreed with the writer. This is a five star book.
I would recommend this book to those people who been treated badly whether at work or at home and feel it was their fault. This book will change your mind.
I wouldn't say I have been given the answers I would be looking for but I have been given the tools an motivation for the next chapter in my life.
Dr Phil did that for me many years ago and I've already started to take control again. This has reminded me that I really do have the answers all I needed to do was visualise what success would look like for me and write down the steps to get there.
"Well worth listening!"
Typical self help books bore me. But this book is realistic and very useful. I am resolved to changing my behaviour based in the guidance.
Just what I needed...I will share your teachings with my children. Nothing more to be said.
Thanks Dr Phil
Found it very relative to the situation I am in now. work and my own career and family life truly an inspiration and good audio
"Not quite for me"
In a way I can't fault the book and its content, if I was to change anything, I would ask for it to be less sales oriented, the first chapter I found myself gritting my teeth, thinking just get to it.
I love Dr Phil's work and this is full of insightful stuff and great advice, unfortunately I should have read more about it as the last third is about parenting - and I am not a parent, so I hit the fast forward button a lot towards the end of the book.
The section on the games played and the defences were really good and shamefully I recognise that I have employed the negative games, so the chapter where Dr Phil told me off made me chuckle.
For 2/3 rds of it yes, the last 1/3 I can't say. I tried to think of my experience with my parents, but no.
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