The rules for living in the real world have changed, because the world we live in has changed. Much of the conventional wisdom the last generation has passed on just doesn't apply like it once did. If you want to win, and win big, and, more importantly, keep what you work so hard for, you need a crystal-clear view of how the real world works - not how you wish it worked, but how it actually works.
In Life Code: The New Rules for Winning in the Real World, six-time New York Times number-one best-selling author Dr. Phil McGraw abandons traditional thinking and tells you the ugly truth about the users, abusers, and overall "bad guys" we all have in our lives. He also reveals the secrets of how they think and how they get to and exploit you and those you love. You'll gain incredible insight into these negative people, which he refers to as BAITERs (Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters, Reckless), and you'll gain the tools to protect yourself from their assaults. Dr. Phil gives you the "Evil Eight" identifiers so you can see them coming from a mile away, as well as their "Secret Playbook", which contains the "Nefarious 15" tactics they use to exploit you and take what is yours mentally, physically, socially, and professionally. Life Code then focuses on you and your playbook, which contains the "Sweet 16" tactics for winning in the real world.
Edgy, controversial and sometimes irreverent, Dr. Phil again abandons convention to prepare you to claim what you deserve and claim it now. You take flying lessons to learn to fly, swimming lessons to learn to swim, and singing lessons to learn to sing. So, why not take winning lessons to learn to win?
©2012 Phillip C. McGraw (P)2012 Phillip C. McGraw
While his love of himself grates on me, I saw Dr. Phil on OWN doing a Lifeclass about this book. I enjoyed the points he shared and decided to buy the book here. I may have to return this title if he doesn't stop what he starts in the first 5 minutes of listening. You get to hear how amazing HIS career has been and how terrific HIS success in life is. They you have to hear about HIS wonderful marriage and HIS two amazingly successful sons. HELLO? PAGING PHIL MCGRAW... THIS BOOK ISN'T ABOUT HOW WONDERFUL YOU THINK YOU ARE.
I have not because of this very fear, that McGraw would make the entire book like his television appearances, about himself and his love for himself.
Self-Centered and annoying. He actually works for Oprah Winfrey still and she has a hand in pretty much any "product" with his name. While she can have flashes of self importance it is amazing to me she hasn't sat him down and told him to take the spotlight off himself and shine it on HIS AUDIENCE.
Dr. Phil McGraw.
I feel this book HAS good information in it but so far it buried so far under McGraw's self congratulatory tone it is grating.
Nothing really new here. Same popular topics, re-branded with Dr. Phil's own label. My guess, just a re-wrap of topics to work in tandem with Dr. Phil's television topics. All and all, good common sense .... read it here, or in any other self-help book.
This book is all about showing readers those red flags.
I saw Dr. Phil promoting his new book Life Code on FOX News last week. He said he wrote the book because he wanted to warn his grandchildren about the real evils in the world, and he wanted to give them life strategies for success and happiness.
I agree with another reviewer who said Dr. Phil spent too much time in the first chapter telling you what he was going to teach you. I wanted to dive in; I was frustrated to get to the good stuff, but once the book got rolling, it had me in its grip.
In the first half of the book, Dr. Phil teaches about the bad guys—how to spot and defeat them. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I immediately recognized he was referring to certain personality disordered individuals—sociopaths, narcissists, and borderlines—without calling them that. What’s unique is that he grouped all three into one type of person you would want to stay away from. He shared the clues about how to spot them and how to react once you know what you’re dealing with.
Christians might have a problem with this, seeing every person as redeemable, but the truth is—and Dr. Phil compels readers to understand—is that there really are bad people in the world. People who want to cheat, hurt, and steal from you and your loved ones. Of course, these evil people are on a continuum. Not every sociopath wants to molest and kill you. Some just want your money. Or your spouse. The point is, these people do not have the ability to empathize like regular folks. They could care less who they hurt and you need to know these people are very real. They are not lurking around every corner, but it’s guaranteed you have bumped elbows with them.
Dr. Phil describes how he took an inventory of every person who had hurt him in his lifetime. He hung pieces of paper all over the walls and used a colored marker to describe in detail what the offender’s strategy was, what tricks he used, how he came across, and how he got Dr. Phil to let down his guard. Once these were analyzed, Dr. Phil saw a clear set of clues that should have been a warning.
The second half of the book deals with rules for winning in the world. Dr. Phil covers everything from how to stop being a target, to how to behave in an argument. He gives tricks for negotiation, and rules for parenting in the modern world.
The best aspect of this book is the real life examples Dr. Phil shares. Everyone would be wise to read this book.
Dr. Phil is a very smart person who has a straight forward way of explaining things that people who lack common sense don't know.
I apologize if this offends anybody. Most of what Dr. Phil set is what the average person is afraid to say. Standing up for yourself. Cutting people out of your life that are sick both mentally spiritually and morally. Too many people are afraid of hurting other people's feelings and wind up wasting their life doing things they don't want to because they're afraid to offend or be unpopular.
Dr. Phil give you permission to take care of yourself put yourself first and enjoy your life. There are too many people taking from others and believing people dry instead of doing for themselves.
Dr. Phils insight is necessary for people to enjoy their life and not support other people lives and self esteem.
Excellent, informative, eye opening! I can't say enough about this book! It's also great that Dr. Phil narrated the book himself because he could really put emphasis when and where it was needed so for me it came across even better. There are so many nuggets of wisdom and truth here that I would highly recommend this book to each and every person I know. Awesome Book!
One of the best. It pains me to admit that, given my dislike of Dr. Phil.
Very practical advice, particularly for those who might not have learned the skills needed to stand up for themselves or to handle bullies, even as adults.
Ugh, that man's voice! Not a fan, but the content was so great it was easy to ignore. I understand what a celebrity author who makes a living talking would want to read his own book, but at times it felt a little like listening to his show. With no guests.
Gave me a whole new perspective on how to handle difficult people, how to prevent being scammed, and how to take control of areas of my life I had previously had difficulty with.
Even if you're not a Dr. Phil fan (I'm not!), this book is well worth the read. He even explains his methodology which, as a fellow researcher, is actually pretty impressive.
This book really speaks in a language anybody can understand. He rarely talks about himself and when he does, it's to back up his points and his experience with narcissists or "BAITER's" and helps the reader recognize those traits and behavioral patterns so that those people can be spotted and avoided.
Being a fan of Dr Phil is a benefit to reading this book and even if you're not, who else is going to explain the real world then a real person?
I bought the paperback first and loved it so much, I bought the audio book so I can listen to it over and over until Evey detail sinks in and I can have stronger vigilance towards the jerks that try to put me and my family down.
A definite must read.
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