Far more than we are consciously aware, our daily encounters shape our brains and affect cells throughout our bodies. Our reactions to others send out cascades of hormones that regulate everything from our hearts to our immune systems, making good relationships act like vitamins, and bad relationships like poisons. Here, Daniel Goleman explains how we can use our astonishing capacity for "mindsight" to answer some of life's most essential questions: Is there a way to raise our children to be happy? What is the basis of a nourishing marriage? How can business leaders and teachers inspire the best in those they lead and teach? How can groups divided by prejudice and hatred come to live together in peace?
Goleman's heartening news is that humans have a built-in bias toward empathy, cooperation, and altruism, provided we develop the social intelligence to nurture these capabilities in ourselves and others.
©2006 Daniel Goleman; (P)2006 Audio Renaissance, a division of Holtzbrinck Publishers, LLC
This book is good... if abridged. The unabridged is extremely long and repetative. If it's unabridged or nothing, I would choose nothing.
Daniel Goleman has expanded his work in Emotional Intelligence by incorporating new research findings from neuro-sociology, - plasticity, and -psychology. He applies this new knowledge to social circumstances broadly defined.
I wish that Goleman had gone further than he has in this particular volume. The first section deals with neuroplasticity and its immplicaton. Then the remainder of the book takes up various related topics. The key, to my thinking, would have been to directly apply what is available in the literature to social interactions. His next book will give us more to think about.
Otherwise, the book is informative and interesting. It is well read by Dennis Boutsikaris.
In the first chapter we are serenaded with a sales pitch to buy his previous work and the rest of the book follows in suit with that shallowness.
This audio book presents like those people we have all met throughout our lives where their insecurity is revealed by their obvious need to use big words and technical mumbo-jumbo to convince us of their importance or knowledge on a topic.
If you are above the age of 10, you have witnessed that people with a bad attitude that lash out in anger, will make for a negative social/work environment. The author fills us in on this obvious reality with boring fluff of a Security Guard-was-rude-to-me type story. Apparently he walked into a restricted area and his negative lingering emotions he felt as a result of getting yelled at was some sort of epiphany. Gee!! Feel like you learned something? In another example he attempts to mystify us with his wana-be-intelligencia with the idea that “Technology offers nominal communication in actual isolation”. It’s funny how the Orator puts some emphasis on this, as if we have been revealed a truth from God. (Just re-read that quote a few times and that is how the unsubstantive fluff in this book reads.) He then drones on about some perceived disconnect by crapping on cell phones, computers, and iPods. You see, while he plays us ipod people off like we are disconnected with society, the reality is that discussion with arbitrary people in a big city has little ROI. I decided to invest my attention more wisely. As a result of my "ipod", I learned Spanish and now, in contrast to the authors several examples of how technology puts up walls, I actually have been able to get closer to exponentially more people since there are many Spanish speaking people in my area. I also have a new appreaciation for beautiful cultures that I had no access without knowledge of their language.
Say something about yourself!
The author writs like this ... blah blah blah ... a mildly interesting psychological study .... a brief insight into its meaning ... blah blah blah .... blah blah blah.
It is just words on, and on, and on. After 2 hours of listening I am still waiting for some really useful insights. They are all small and obvious so far.
I am throwing in the towel at 2 hours. BTW - Gladwell has some of these studies in "Blink", and it is much more interesting to listen to.
It seems to me the book is more like a graduate reference in Psychology or Psychotherapy, but it is not a self development book.
I did not enjoy it.
The first 6 chapters.
it should be an Abridged book in one or two hours only.
Life long learner of all sorts of things.
This book is well laid out, full of useful information, and is an excellent, current, overview of issues facing society. Should be required reading for every person on the planet, as there are helpful and instructive ways to improve a person's life. (A kid version would be wonderful)
Every now and then you come across a book like this with many "ah ha" moments in it. Simply awesome! To finally understand the awkward moments and strange behaviors in others and in ourselves, Social Intelligence maps the why and what-on-earth-were-you-thinking areas of the brain that cause human beings to do the things they do. This book is worth many listens.
This was very informative and inspiring. But much of what is expressed could be more concise and possibly have more impact with the majority of prospective reader: the 'some college but no Phd crowd. It took me so long to listen, I plan to also find a summary to make sure I remember the big ideas, such as the proof that moods (good or bad) are highly contageous.
I was particularly pleased that the author was balance with the altruistic possibilities vs some people are toxic and need to be avoided.
Loved this book. And I loved the audio reader.
Narration was fantastic, but about halfway through the author started repeating himself so much that I stopped listening three times in the course of 4 months. What I thought was going to be a delightful review of some Psychological findings ended up becoming a boring lecture, worded slightly differently about 10 times.
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