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Tied Up in Knots Audiobook

Tied Up in Knots: How Getting What They Wanted Has Made Women Miserable

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Fifty years after Betty Friedan unveiled The Feminine Mystique, relations between men and women in America have never been more dysfunctional. If women are more liberated than ever before, why aren't they happier? In this shocking, funny, and bluntly honest tour of today's gender discontents, Andrea Tantaros, one of Fox News' most popular and outspoken stars, exposes how the rightful feminist pursuit of equality went too far, and how the unintended pitfalls of that power trade have made women (and men!) miserable.

In a covetous quest to attain the power that men had, women were advised to work like men, talk like men, party like men, and have sex like men. There's just one problem: Women aren't men. Instead of feeling happy with their newfound freedoms, females today are tied up in knots, trying to strike a balance between their natural, feminine, and traditional desires and what modern society dictates - and demands - through the commandments of feminism.

Revealing the mass confusion this has caused among both sexes, Tantaros argues that decades of social and economic progress haven't brought women the peace and contentedness they were told they'd gain from their new opportunities. The pressure both to have it all and to put forth the perfectly post-worthy, filtered life for social media and society at large has left women feeling twisted. Meanwhile, in their rightful quest for equality, women have promoted themselves at the expense of their male counterparts, leaving both genders frayed and frustrated.

In this candid and humorous romp through the American cultural landscape, Tantaros reveals how gaining respect in the office - where women earned it - made them stop demanding it where they really wanted it: in their love lives. The impact of this power trade has been felt in every way, from sex to salaries, to dating and marriage, to fertility and female friendships, to the personal details they share with each other. As a result, we've lost the traditional virtues and values that we all want, regardless of our politics: intimacy, authenticity, kindness, respect, discretion, and above all, commitment.

With scathing wit - and insights born of personal experience - Tantaros explores how women have taken guys off the hook in dating (much to their own detriment) and exposes how we've become a nation averse to intimacy and preoccupied with porn, one that has traded kindness for control, intimacy for sexting, and monogamy for polygamy. Sorry romance. Sorry decency and manners. Long talks over the telephone have been supplanted by the "belfie". All this indicates a culture that's devolving, not evolving. And it's only getting worse.

Tied Up in Knots is a no-holds-barred gut check for the sexes and a wake-up call for a society that has decayed - faster than anyone thought possible. It's time to remember what we all really want out of work, love, and life. Only then can we finally begin untying those knots.

©2016 Andrea Tantaros (P)2016 HarperCollins Publishers

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    Kevin 05-06-16
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    I thought that this book was going to be a meta-analysis of current research on the impact of feminism on modern women and society, and being a fan of Tantaros on television, I thought that this would be done with a fun twist. Unfortunately for me, the book is something completely different.

    What the book is not:

    Socially Conservative. Since Tantaros considers herself a conservative, and is on Foxnews, I thought that this would be a socially conservative book, and I think she might considerate it to be one. This is not a socially conservative book. If I did not know which television personality wrote this book while I read it, I would swear it came from an MSNBC liberal. It is definitely rated R and possibly NC17 for language and content. In the book she criticized modern women for their approach to dating and sex (a little to graphic for my taste). She then goes on to advocate for the dating practices of her day. She advocates for meeting guys in a bar, so at least he has to go to the trouble of picking you up before you sleep with him. This is as opposed to how Tinder is used for hookups now. She criticizes the promiscuity of modern women, while advocating for the level of promiscuity that she practiced before entering her current relationship. What about not being promiscuous at all? Do not listen to this book with your kids in the car. She made me blush repeatedly and I was not expecting that from this book.

    Well researched. Nearly all of the research in the book is anecdotal from her own life, anecdotes from friends, tv and movie plot points, and pop culture references. There is no original research and very little legitimate secondary research. The book is made up of her opinions.

    Well organized. The book feels like a bunch of stories and observations she wanted to share all thrown together without much rhyme or reason.

    Original. I cannot think of any key points in this book that I have not heard or read previously.


    What the book is:

    A dating guide. Make no mistake about it, this is a dating "how to" book. The book is full of advice for women about in dating in today's world. She tells story after story about her own dating history, and takes the position that she used to make a lot of mistakes, but now she has it all figured out with her new guy. After doing 30 seconds of research, I found that her new guy is Dave Navarro, a stereotypical rocker bad boy. She believes she has it all figured out, and all of this wisdom on relationships has lead her to the perfect man in the perfect relationship. The reality is that she is with someone who has been married three times, has severe substance addiction issues, and a documented history of infidelity. Yep, this has happily ever after written all over it. She obviously has it all figured out.

    Entertaining. While it was not at all what I expected, it was entertaining. I could not stop listening once I started but it was not because it was a great book. It was ear candy.

    Simple. There is no high level thinking in this book. The most disappointing thing about the entire book was that this is a topic that has so much potential. There are questions that need to be answered. Has feminism hurt the family? What has been the impact of feminism on adults who were children when feminism began? What has been the impact of feminism on the workplace, on the economy, and on productivity? The question go on and on, but they are not addressed or answered in this book. However, if you want to know what she thinks about Tinder, don't worry, it seemed like she dedicated half the book to it.

    Therapy. She is quite obviously working through some personal issues in her past through writing this book. She has a catchy title to pull in readers, but the bitterness that shines through as she talks about her dating past reveals that there is a lot of pain in her past and this was a vehicle to work through that pain.

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    Michael J. Carlson 11-29-16
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    "Great work Andrea"

    Awesome, really really, really informatively liberated, i think i love and adore you. Racey read here

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    Suzanne 09-20-16
    Suzanne 09-20-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Andrea Tantaros gets it."

    Very well written, raw real and HONEST. I only wish my 16 year old daughter would read it. The personal stories and life experiences shared by Andrea lend major credibility.

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    levi 08-18-16
    levi 08-18-16 Member Since 2016
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    "great insight for guys to consider"

    loved it narrator was great making her points with the in depth observations and research. One disagreement, in my opinion, guys are wired for monogamy as well. That part felt like an over generalized dig rather than a literal fact.

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    kathleen 07-24-16
    kathleen 07-24-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Yes! What she said!!! good for women how?"

    This book puts it right out there. Miniskirts, no bras, 4" heels, free love, 2-income mortgages

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    Nicole 07-08-16
    Nicole 07-08-16
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    "Overall great book"

    I learned so much from this book. She does a great job giving an overall direction of where we are as a culture regrading relationships and how it happened.

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    Al 06-23-16
    Al 06-23-16
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    "Enlightening.."

    I strongly recommend this for all men. You might just come away with a small understanding of our precious lady friends! Enjoy..

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    Susan Shaffer 06-22-16
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    "Great new perspective!"

    Andrea does an amazing job of identifying a serious problem that exists today. I myself am tied up in knots! I can relate to everything she describes in the book and I am sure the majority of females can. I enjoy her writing and her insights.

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    Kevin Daubner 06-14-16 Member Since 2014
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    "what women really want?"

    Andrea has brought to light modern feminism and all the trappings it brings with it. How men are precieving women in todays society. How women are dealing with relationships with men in a Tinder society. How societies values have changed and where are they going in the future. Are women satisfied with the outcome of feminism and the relationship of equality with men? Is it too much or not enough social interaction? Andrea covers personal relationships of her own and how they compare with todays social interaction and expectations. I enjoyed hearing Andrea do the audio on the book.

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    Dan Burlington, KY, United States 05-30-16
    Dan Burlington, KY, United States 05-30-16 Member Since 2015

    I'm an avid audiobook listener since 2007. I prefer non-fiction but I also branch out to fiction from time to time.

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    "Uninspired milk toast"

    It wasn't a good book or a bad book. It was just ... Blah. Nothing was particularly innovative, controversial, or inspired. It came off boring, even if you essentially agree.

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