A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation's most popular and sharpest comedic voices.
At some point every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it's wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?
Some of our problems are unique to our time. "Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?" "Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!" "My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who's Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?"
But the transformation of our romantic lives can't be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet, and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were 24. Today people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.
For years Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the audiobook, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita.
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There were several moments that left me laughing out loud. Aziz is a comedian, and its shown in his writing and narration. I could not put the book down during the first half, it was well researched, well read and hilarious. Aziz and his research partner provided great insights into modern dating and technology. I felt inspired and entertained!
The second half of the book, I felt more of Aziz's personal bias come into play when discussing marriage, sexuality and romance. I found the interviews of the elderly and marriage to be really entertaining as well as the differences in various cultures around the world. However, the final chapters on cheating were largely only supported by the Reddit thread and seemed to promote infidelity, disloyalty and open sexual relationships in lieu of marriage or committed partnerships. It just felt like the first half of the book was a hopeful and interesting analysis into finding love and the final few chapters left me feeling it was a search for sex instead.
My favorite genres are absurdist humor, Sci-fi & modern fantasy, but, as you can see, I'll read just about anything. Don't mind the typos.
I initially thought this was a memoir, it turned out to be so much more. I never knew about the "rules" of texting in a new relationship or how to navigate the text/email/voice call protocols of the new generation. VERY interesting look into the dating habits of modern Americans.
I picked up this title on Jon Stewart's recommendation, and wasn't disappointed. And despite Ansari's merciless criticism of audiobook listeners/buyers, I was glad to have the audio version with the ad libs and the hilarious accents, which make this much more than a self-help book or a practical guide to dating in the 21st century. The only small issue I had with the structure of the book was the proportion of the latter chapters, which felt less researched and not as well thought out as the earlier ones.
I honestly did not know what this book was about when I purchased it. I just knew that I love Aziz. The book ended up being a dissection of modern romance. This topic really resonated with me. I've gained a lot of new perspective on the modern romance, all while cracking up to one of my favorite comedians telling stories. I've recommended this book to several of my friends. I would recommend it to anyone.
Books, podcasts, scientific studies, and blogs about modern love often make me feel pessimistic about romance. Aziz discusses the ups and downs of love in a positive but honest way. I also appreciate the respect he shows to the LGBT community in the forward. Good read for single people struggling with online dating and people in relationships who want to better understand committed love. Good on you Aziz! I bet this will help a lot of people, and entertain even more.
This is the first time I am exposed to Aziz Ansari, but it won't be the last I hope. It's great that he took a comedic but also researched look at romance. The book is funny, surprising, and overall a fun read/listen. I might not recommend it to everyone, but if either you want to laugh at silly relationship situations or learn more about why and how we date,drop a credit and take a listen.
We've always had these thoughts. It's nice to see a public figure that goes into the science of a topic as complicated as this. It's kinda scary because I'm a young man, but gives me insight that I never had.
Modern Romance: An Investigation is an entertaining and of great interest to me as a mother of a millennial. I'm not as clueless as some, being conversant with computer and mobile technologies. Parents of millennials and teenage who don't understand your kids and their phones, this book could help bring you up to speed.
"Excellent - Ansari is a comic genuis"
Hilarious, insightful, contemplative
Aziz, his narration was spectacular
Aziz relaid his research in a humorous delightful way
Dating in different cultures
"So interesting and hilarious!"
Aziz not only narrated his book hilariously and gave a little something extra to the listeners (largely in the form of humorous insults...) but the book itself is a consistently interesting, well researched sociological study into modern romance that makes for great listening! Can be taken fast or slow, always engaging and quite a page turner at times! Love the depth of the real life elements of your studies - it is talking just as much about me and my friends as about randomers from all the continents! Thanks Aziz and everyone involved for an amazing first audiobook experience and for gifting me with heaps of knowledge on modern romance!
"Aziz is awesome"
This was interesting, current, funny, cute & totally hilarious. Aziz is somebody who you can't help but love. His train of thought is wacky but very much accurate to how we all feel I guess. 10/10
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