F--ked at 40

Life Beyond Suburbia, Monogamy and Stretch Marks

By: Tova Leigh

Narrated by: Tova Leigh

Length: 5 hrs and 40 mins

Publisher's summary

For every woman that has ever felt trapped; a funny, raw, and empowering mid-life-crisis.

Creator, mother, lover, and social media phenomenon Tova Leigh explores what the hell you are supposed to do when you find yourself living a life you don't remember signing up for.

I was bored, angry, tired, and sad. I felt all alone yet I had nothing to complain about. I had a good job, a husband who wasn't shagging his assistant, three children who apart from being the occasional a**holes were pretty good kids; a house, a dog, and everything else we are told as little girls we should aspire to. But inside, I was growing restless. I didn't want to be looked at as just a "mom". I wanted to be desired, to make someone's hair stand on end and go crazy for me. I didn't want to live by some label that didn't represent me. I looked at my messy minivan one morning and I wanted to vomit on it all. I panicked, thinking about how I am slowly approaching middle age and menopause, and I wondered how many years do I have left of being "f--ckable" before everything starts going downhill?

In her first book, Tova takes the listener on her journey of rediscovering who she is after motherhood and beyond the norms society forces upon women, whilst encouraging them to break free and just be themselves.

When you find authenticity it's hard to go back. It's like opening a door to the truth and starting to breathe a new type of air. This discovery is what prompted me to write. It's my way of saying HERE I AM.

©2020 Tova Leigh (P)2020 Watkins Publishing

awesome

She puts into words what many women feel but don't know how to say. I loved it!

It was pretty good

I wasn’t a fan of jumping around through the dates sometimes it can be hard to keep track off the timeline

So i am not crazy after all.

Absolutely loved it. That's my story and i am the founder of Life Beyond Clothing.

Great Read

I have never related to something so much in my entire life. Very good read!

Beautiful

Life isn't perfect and cannot be an one size fits all experience. Thank you for the delightful and thought provoking insight into your life.

-Candis Gudden (fucked at one time or another)

Funny, heartfelt, tuching and a kick in the...

If you know who Tova is, and follow her, you don't need to read this review, because you are going to buy this book anyway.

So this is a review for people who don't know who she is;

Tova Leigh is that lady who sometimes shows up in your feed, who sounds American, but is somehow British?
You may have seen a video of her endlessly funny, yet perfectly on the mark rants. Whether it's about the pressures of being a mom, western beauty standards or misogyny, she's always there to point out exactly what we need to be reminded of.
Or a shorter video, where she in her own way, by re-creating it, points out how unrealistic and frankly absurd, a lot of mainstream and social media's portrail of women is.

So now you know who she is, and should definitely follow her everywhere possible, let's talk about the book;

The book is about how Tova, like so many women, found herself fed up with living up to everyone else's expectations of who and what she was supposed to be.
We read about how these pressures and expectations effected her throughout her life and when the glass ran over, in her own truthfull and funny way.
We also get some tears along the way, because life has it's difficult phases, but they only make us love her more.
It's funny, heartfelt and a great reminder that you don't have to follow the herd. Your life can be lived the way you want it to, f**ck what everyone else thinks.

original non generic motivation

I love Tova to begin with and learned more about her in this book.
She doesn't feed you the same genetic sounding be yourself motivational script. It's genuine fall on your face life lessons spoken from experience which makes it perfectly relatable. I recommend as a graduation gift. So that young women can hear from someone other than mom that they should not be afraid to have their own opinion or dream. To not assimilate and instead assemble their own path in life with things that make them feel true to themselves. Take the risk, conquer fears, relax, do things you want and try everything.

Life Changing

Tova said things that I had only ever thought about. I read this book when I was struggling about where my life was and how I was feeling about it.. She helped me not feel alone.. Would definitely recommend for anyone struggling with any unspoken emotions.

very honest

thank you for sharing so openly what you went through and how you were true to yourself..

Loved it!!

What a great book! If your a mom or not your need to read this great book.