She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By: Ian Kerner

Narrated by: Ian Kerner

Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Critic reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

Wish I had this audiobook ....

...when I was first Married!!! Now I want every son nephew and stepson to hear it!

Excellent insight

Is there anything you would change about this book?

Good coverage from the psychological to the How to.

Has She Comes First turned you off from other books in this genre?

None at this time.

What aspect of Ian Kerner’s performance would you have changed?

I would change a thing.

Was She Comes First worth the listening time?

Absolutely

very good

loved it , clear informative recommended anyone who wants to please the wife or lover

Great Advice

Some of the reviews were tough on the author. I am hearing impaired and he was easy to hear and understand. I liked his book. Lots to practice.

nice

I enjoyed the book. the narrator sounded like he didn't want to read though.

Title is misleading

This book should be called Why Cunnilingus Is the Best Way to Make a Woman Cum. I bought it expecting a more rigorous and detailed examination of all areas of sexual interplay and their effect upon the female body and psyche. I was a bit jarred when from the foreword onward, it became clear this was a book almost entirely devoted to performing oral sex on women. I understand that that's the author's informed opinion about the most important part of the sex act for him (or perhaps just his personal preference), but not what I was expecting from a thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman.

So, are women who don't particularly prefer receiving oral sex supposed to be left out to dry? No pleasure for you? And the same if you're a man who doesn't tend to express his intimacy that way? I guess your partners will be forever unfulfilled with your dick and digits?

However, the information contained about oral sex was quite thorough. If that's the kind of guide you are looking for, have at it. Although, a lot of the fluffy and new-agey wording could have been left out of this "thinking" man's guide.

All Men Young & Older should listen

This was educational. The author did a good job reading the story. Must listen.

For guys who want to know how to go down on her

This book provides a sexual perspective from the woman's point of view and a great breakdown of the vaginal anatomy. Primarily about going down on a woman, but very insightful on the rhyme and reason behind women's pleasure points. Great for the beginner and the experienced head giver.

Very good "step by step" instruction!

I liked the author's writing style.
The humerous inuendos and information presented in each chapter was very helpful and kept me interested and engaged. However, I found it difficult to listen to the audio and absorb the details. Need to read again. Thank you for shedding more light on this rarely discussed topic. Very helpful information for building better relationships.

READ THIS BOOK

If you can get past the reader's voice, the content is invaluable. As a woman, it's really good to hear a man give this kind of advice. Obviously, every woman is different and your actions will need to be tailored to her, but overall this book is a gem. Women enjoy intercourse, but the things he describes make intercourse something that is fully satisfying instead of just a warm up that leaves her feeling dissatisfied and used. Congratulations on your interest in reading this book... perhaps it means you're not as selfish of a lover as a lot of men can be.