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She Comes First Audiobook
She Comes First
Written by: 
Ian Kerner
Narrated by: 
Ian Kerner
She Comes First Audiobook

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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Publisher's Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner; (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

What the Critics Say

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

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    Bryan Allentown, PA, USA 08-02-08
    Bryan Allentown, PA, USA 08-02-08
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    "Thorough, but long"

    The author is very thorough, and while not clinical it has a textbook flavor. Good geography lessons. He borrows from Paget's book, too. Don't need both books, as they are effectively very similar.

    3 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Jonathan San Francisco, CA, USA 01-30-08
    Jonathan San Francisco, CA, USA 01-30-08 Member Since 2006
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    "Good stuff"

    There is little doubt that the author knows what he's talking about, and he is disarming at admitting his own shortcomings until he discovered cunnilingus. His advice is detailed and supported by anatomical descriptions. The book is considerably too long, and repetitive in places; it would have worked better as a long article. But it is the best available. My only reason for downgrading was these style issues; as to content it is excellent. In the second edition he should get a female co-author to supplement his (admittedly) second-hand descriptions of how it all feels to the woman.

    7 of 10 people found this review helpful
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    R. Maloney New Hampshire 12-29-06
    R. Maloney New Hampshire 12-29-06 Member Since 2003
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    "Wow"

    Every 21 year old male should be forced to read this before moving on into the best years of their lives. Where was this when I needed it and thank god I found it before it was too late

    5 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    Indygreg Indianapolis, IN 02-23-06
    Indygreg Indianapolis, IN 02-23-06 Member Since 2016

    IndyGreg

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    "good, but overly flowery"

    I think there is some excellent information presented in this book. I think it presents something that is often considered optional or foreplay and makes it as the author says 'coreplay'. He makes a strong case for this (though I sort of always believed this).

    There is some good survey and research information presented here . . . but here is the catch.
    It is so overly flowery it will drive many crazy. Moreover, I think it would nearly instantly tune out the audience that it probably is most geared toward - overly macho guys for whom sex is about power and control. I am certainly not in that group, but at times I felt like smacking this guy and saying 'be a man'.

    His is an enviable position. Writing the book like this can make it a topic of websites, TV shows, etc. Had he be a bit more direct, it could very well just be considered a sex book and get much less exposure.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Michael kingston, WA, USA 11-30-07
    Michael kingston, WA, USA 11-30-07
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    "skip this one"

    the content is too clinical, the reader is horrible. You go 3/4 of the way thru before you get anything of interest unless you are a clinical type. This I think was written by a doctor in doctor terms. Not worth the read or listen for everyday amusement.

    6 of 9 people found this review helpful
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    Lena new york, NY, USA 01-15-08
    Lena new york, NY, USA 01-15-08
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    "bland"

    The narrator is sooo boring and the author won't stop quoting others... The book is great for "filling in the knowledge gaps". If you can stay awake, that is.

    4 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Jerm'n va 12-08-12
    Jerm'n va 12-08-12

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    "Should have known better..."
    If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from She Comes First?

    If you cut the first two hours I may have given it two stars... Maybe three if I was feeling generous.


    Any additional comments?

    If you're interested in a history of the female orgasm and a lesson in anatomy (written with flowery language and self congratulatory juvenile wit* repeated ad nauseum) you've found your book. If you're looking for practical pointers?... Look elsewhere.

    *See the cover for an idea of what you'll be treated to throughout.

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Mark W. Putnam 11-02-08 Member Since 2015

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    "Just OK"

    got old quickly

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Lilah Lansing, IA, USA 05-25-08
    Lilah Lansing, IA, USA 05-25-08
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    "Educational-- But Repetative"

    I enjoyed learning more detailed instructions on how-to perform oral, and defining the entire anatomy pieces of the female "area". I did not care for the metaphors within the book; Socratease philosophy and the art of oral sex just doesn't seem to mesh, in my opinion. I'm sure my partner will be pleasantly surprised with my new techniques learned from this book, however.

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Donn Edwards Johannesburg, South Africa 10-16-05
    Donn Edwards Johannesburg, South Africa 10-16-05

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    "I bought the book too"

    I was so impressed by the Audio Book I bought the print edition as well. The advice is practical, well thought out and easy to follow. The writing style is good, and the analogies used are just brilliant.

    I look forward to many hours of pleasure and intimacy after following the advice given. It has already started.

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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  • Bob L
    12/16/08
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    "Brownie Points"

    My wife says this is the best book I've ever read.

    8 of 8 people found this review helpful
  • DENIS
    dublin, Ireland
    4/13/13
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    "good book, but the first few capters could be skip"

    a good book, but with audio books, no pictures or diagrams fail to add value to the instructions. Then again we do have the internet and there's a detailed picture \ diagram for everything. Not a bad book overall. worth a purchase. If it helps keep the spark a live, isn't it worth a purchase

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Thabo
    4/19/16
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    "Focuses more on clit stimulation"

    Focuses a lot on clit stimulation, didn't go into Penetrative sex, sex positions to reach orgasm.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Jon
    3/26/16
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    "Crucial to a guy's (or lesbian's) education"

    It my my second time going through this book. The school education skips many key learning points. Some i fill with documentaries on Netflix about how to take care of the planet and body. This is a key learning point for how to take care of my lover's body and orgasms. It has many for a more confident self in everything I do not just sex.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • David
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    "Blah blah blah"

    What a long winded philosophical and repetitive book! How many times can one thing be repeated in a single book? How many quotes and references to authors and quotes can one put into a single book?
    The entire substance of the book could be condensed into 10 minutes!!

    Waste of money! Don't buy it

    0 of 2 people found this review helpful

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