She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By: Ian Kerner

Narrated by: Ian Kerner

Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Critic reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

Glad I purchased this book 📚

Simply put, this book helps you understand her body’s ebb and flows of sexual tensions and feelings. Very well narrated and down right humorous at times. Definitely something that can be added to my arsenal in trying to better please my Love. Who could argue with “better”? 😉

Mmm mmmm good

Would you consider the audio edition of She Comes First to be better than the print version?

My wife thanks you as well as i. Wish i would have known this when i was in twenties.

very effective

I really enjoyed the book. It was very effective but also a bit too much fluff referencing elements of style. Beyond that I was entirely satisfied and my partner is quite happy as well.

Get ready to massively uplevel your sex life.

An enlightening read for both men and women alike. As a mom I'm actually really grateful that the author delivers the information in such a way that one day I will share this book with my kids so that they can have a better sex life. How amazing is that?

Name Should Be: The Silver Tongue

Your woman will thank you....and thank you... and thank you again!

I have always practiced what this book preaches but NOW my game is on another level.

She begs for more

Great book!

Has lots of useful infromation and I will be sure to pass it along to others in my circle.

Just Experiment and Communicate

Save your time and money and just communicate with your sexual partner and experiment with new techniques.

This book reads and listens in such a cringe way. I think that Elliot Birch’s character from Big Mouth was sculpted out of the author/reader of this book.

It has a quality of scientific pretense as well as suit-and-tie dorky sex guru tone and vernacular. It feels like being spoken to by a man that’s overdressed in a tuxedo at a bar drinking red wine who thinks of himself as an intellectual.

Most of the book is repeating itself over and over and over again to the point where (no joke) hours/chapters could have been shaven off of this book.

The only worthwhile parts of this book are the sections where he speaks about the importance of foreplay, pleasuring your partner first, and toward the end some techniques to experience with. The rest of the book is really repeating over and over to “cherish the taste and smell of your partner” and endlessly naming (and repeating the names of) female reproductive organs.

TLDR: Watch porn that women like to get the idea of what to try if you’re completely lost, try watching (actual) lesbian couple videos to maybe get some more insight on what women like to experience sensually/sexually, experiment with different techniques, communicate, and make sure you take her pleasure seriously - don’t just do something to her to make you happy.

the narrator has an awful voice

the narrator's voice is awful for this type of book there's no way I could even get through 3 chapters

GREAT BOOK!

I got this book the day it came to my local bookstore. It was worth it! After my husband read it, I got a lot out of it :) So, I have it now on Audibles and will listen with hubby which should lead to great conversations and more... This is really great for those stuck in a rut, or looking for new techniques, or just trying something to add a bit (I mean a great deal) of SPICE to a relationship.

Great book!

Build it and she will cum! Great book and very rewarding to say the least!
“When she comes first she comes forever!”