Liespotting

Proven Techniques to Detect Deception

By: Pamela Meyer

Narrated by: Karen Saltus

Length: 6 hrs and 13 mins

Publisher's summary

People - friends, family members, work colleagues, salespeople - lie to us all the time. Daily, hourly, constantly. None of us is immune, and all of us are victims. According to studies by several different researchers, most of us encounter nearly 200 lies a day. Now there’s something we can do about it. Liespotting links three disciplines - facial recognition training, interrogation training, and a comprehensive survey of research in the field - into a specialized body of information developed specifically to help business leaders detect deception and get the information they need to successfully conduct their most important interactions and transactions.

Some of the nation's leading business executives have learned to use these methods to root out lies in high stakes situations. Liespotting for the first time brings years of knowledge - previously found only in the intelligence community, police training academies, and universities - into the corporate boardroom, the manager's meeting, the job interview, the legal proceeding, and the deal negotiation.

©2010 Pamela Meyer (P)2012 Gildan Media, LLC

i never would have expected i cought her cheeting

it will change your life .
protect yourself .
it is not easy but it is simple.

Really amazing book to read

I strongly recommend this to anyone who is interested in reading people and be a lies spotter

Great book very informative.

I hung on every word. it's definitely going to be played a few times.

A terminology decoder for what you already know

The pace of the audiobook is entertaining and you do get some interesting backstory in how deception research became a thing. The framework provided is practical and actionable, but has an anecdotal feel. Overall the book is a decoder-ring for the formal terminology of hearsay practices for detecting deception that you may already be familiar with (mirroring pros and cons, touching the face, eyes, mouth when lying, shifts in body language given the context.

Vital for interaction

In this day and age of scandal and fraud, not to mention personal interactions, this could save you time, money, heartache. Must listen, read, practice.

To much self-help

Maybe that is a good thing for you, but I do not like self-help kind of stuff. I would prefer a more scientific approach. The scientific references are poorly done. Maybe that make it easy to many readers, but the repetitive "one study shown" got in my skin. What study? Made by whom? Published where?

In short: Not a book on science.

such a great book

this book was so wonderful to get lost in:)
it had all the i enjoy in a good book. i love how the story goes to past lives!

Useful

This book will not teach you everything you want or need to know about liespotting, but it gives a clear explanation of where to start. I am not an expert in this field, so the book was helpful for me.

To Tell You the Truth . . . (not so much)

According to Pamela Meyer each person, on average, is subject to 200 lies - a day. I was astounded – I don’t see 200 people a day. Some days, I only see my family and my co-workers in the small branch office I work at.

Where are the lies? I started thinking about it: it happens when several of my Facebook friends ask to “Add my birthday.” They’ve been duped by an advertiser seeking personal information, and it gets passed along. The lies are in the ads I get to enlarge a certain body part. The products can’t work – I don’t even have the requisite body part. The lies are on CNN, Fox News, during interviews of people later found guilty of horrible crimes. And there are white lies I hear, when I ask my son or daughter how school was, and they say “fine” to deflect me from asking about an Algebra or Physics test they may have tanked. Sometimes, I’ll never find out things weren’t really “fine” – the test turned out well, and I’ll chalk the crankiness caused by stress for teenage hormones.

People lie, and Meyer’s book is a great guideline for realizing when that happens. I am a litigator, and I learned a lot of the techniques she outlines by years of experience. For example, if someone uses the phrase “To tell you the truth,” what comes out next usually isn’t the truth. It might have a little bit of truth, someplace, but it might be a complete fabrication. If someone smirks while testifying, they are lying and expect a judge or jury is too stupid to catch it.

I wish this book had been available 20 years ago.

Great for business

This is a great book, but it's focus is lying in business and commerce. If your looking for knowledge in personal relationships this book has little information. Her delivery and insights are impressive if your using the information for business. I would buy her next audiobook on personal and everyday relationships if she were to write one, but at this point the techniques are of little value to me as I'm not in the commercial world looking for shonky business people.