In the summer of 1990, Cathy's brother, Matty, was knocked down by a car on the way home from a night out, two weeks before receiving his GCSE results. Sitting by his unconscious body in hospital, holding his hand and watching his heartbeat on the monitors, Cathy and her parents willed him to survive.
They did not know then that there are many fates worse than death.
©2014 Cathy Rentzenbrink (P)2015 W F Howes Ltd
"I never knew a story of grief could have so much joy in it." (Nina Stibbe, author of Love, Nina)
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The fact that this is a true story, as told by his sister, means that there is a level of honesty and detail that you would not normally get. It's not just an account of what happened to Matty, it's about the devastating impact his accident had on his family.
I think so. It's a hard listen, not a book I am likely to listen to again, I was glad when it came to an end.
I can't say that I enjoyed this book, I don't think it's that kind of story. It's heartfelt and sincere yet harrowing and painful. It's well written and describes their journey in detail
"Wonderful, beautiful story full of compassion"
Beautifully account of the love Cathy has for her brother and the wonderful relationships she and her entire family share.
Recounting the stories of the childhood with her brother and his wonderful personality
Not yet but she read beautifully.
Loved this book and as a volunteer in a hospice this book gave me great insights into the grieving process. I would highly recommend this book to anyone. I was deeply moved by this book and Cathy did a wonderful job in writing it.
"Honest and Moving"
An honest and moving account. important to read for anyone who faces losing a loved one and especially in this situation. well narrated on audible.
"very poignant and I shed a few tears"
Definitely would recommend a true account of how a family's life can change in seconds.
The honesty of the author
What would you do?
"Beautiful, touching, honest."
Cathy Rentzenbrink has beautifully told her sad tale with humour punctuating it and a warmth that shines through continually making hers a moving, honest, account of personal trauma. Perfectly done.
"Not what I expected but not disappointing either"
I didn't fully read the blurb before downloading this book and so was intrigued enough by the theme of the story.
About 2 hours in I got a little more intrigued and took another look and read a few reviews which didn't paint it in the nicest light at all but made me realise that this was a true story.
This tale of the love of siblings and the crippling pain of not grieving over many years and the full impact of what eventually happened was a good story made great by the passionate, honest and plain realness of the telling.
I enjoyed the story. I feel sadness that something like this happened and the effects that it had on all of the loved ones surrounding Matty. I feel honoured that the story was shared.
"Honest & Heartbreaking"
I listened to this in two sittings. It is a remarkably honesty and insightful account of life changing love, loss and grief. You cannot listen/read this without being moved and maybe touched, or even disturbed, as you perhaps reflect upon things deep down in yourself.
They say it's good to cry. If that's the case then this is an extremely good book. Have some hankies at the ready.
"Beautifully told story of one family's heartbreaking story"
Throughly recommended, compulsive listening. Beautifully written and the story still resounds, days later. Perhaps weeks. A truly heartbreaking story and an insight into the devastating aftermath. An eye opener
When I first heard this book existed, I wondered how it could come about that you would kill your own brother or son, not realising that in reality, the young man who was Cathy Rentzenbrink's brother was being kept alive somewhat artificially, and really not having any kind of quality of life, despite his family's absolute best efforts. If you're interested in the workings of familial love, moral dilemmas and the punishing effects of trauma, you'll enjoy this book. Small parts are, dare a say, a little tedious, like the end chapter - one gets the impression that Retzenbrink still feels an immense amount of guilt and wants to show, to herself as much as anyone else, that she really did love her brother and did what she thought was best for him. Of course she did. What shines through this book is the love that she and her family had and have for Mattie and how much they cherished him and wanted him alive. Most of the book is a captivating insight into the family dynamics, thought-processes, practicalities and most of all fluctuating, difficult feelings that come with caring for a person in a persistent vegitative state. The only tedium comes at the end, and not because the conclusion is, as you'd expect, that there isn't much conclusion - time heals a little, but grief is ever-present. The tedium is that one wants to meet Cathy and say 'I know you can't stop yourself from feeling sad, but objectively, you shouldn't feel guilty. You really did do right by your brother'. Cathy, if you're reading, you're an inspiration!
Also, great narrator!
EDIT: I've been thinking about this book and my review a lot, which shows how good it is! 'Tedious' was maybe too strong a word, and in a way what i found tedious did give a good sense of what it's like to experience trauma - the boredom of feeling guilty all the time, about everything.
'Fascinating' as a title is apt, but it is also avery moving and insightful book.
Lastly, although I accused Retzenbrink of seeking approval in her ending, it's not for me or other readers to give it - maybe something she knows and certainly something I've taken away from the book upon reflection.
Anyway, super-long review - in short, listen to this book!
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