Before I Had the Words

On Being a Transgender Young Adult

By: Skylar Kergil

Narrated by: Skylar Kergil

Length: 7 hrs and 7 mins

Publisher's summary

At the beginning of his physical transition from female to male, then-17-year-old Skylar Kergil posted his first video on YouTube. In the months and years that followed, he recorded weekly update videos about the physical and emotional changes he experienced. Skylar’s openness and positivity attracted thousands of viewers, who followed along as his voice deepened and his body changed shape. Through surgeries and recovery, highs and lows, from high school to college to the real world, Skylar welcomed others on his journey.

Before I Had the Words is the story of what came before the videos and what happened behind the scenes. From early childhood memories to the changes and confusion brought by adolescence, Skylar reflects on coming of age while struggling to understand his gender. As humorous as it is heartbreaking and as informative as it is entertaining, this memoir provides an intimate look at the experience of transitioning from one gender to another. Skylar opens up about the long path to gaining his family’s acceptance and to accepting himself, sharing stories along the way about smaller challenges like choosing a new name and learning to shave without eyebrow mishaps.

Revealing entries from the author’s personal journals as well as interviews with members of his family lend remarkable depth to Skylar’s story. A groundbreaking chronicle of change, loss, discovery, pain, and relief, Before I Had the Words brings new meaning to the phrase “formative years”.

©2017 Skylar Kergil (P)2018 Audible, Inc.

Beautiful

As a trans person myself, I found this so wonderfully written and expressed. Thank you Sky, for writing this, for existing.

Years to come

Skylar Kergil shares the fear, pain, and frustration people who are transgender go through before, during, and, sometimes after they finally begin living life as their true self. His strength and courage have been a great source of support to many other young people who are in the throes of discovering their true self. It has been an honor to have Skylar's YouTube videos play in our home for many years in the past and I hope his videos will continue to play in homes for years to come.

So grateful to help me as grandma

I loved this book. My awesome grandson has very recently shared his wish to be referred to with he/him pronouns, had suicide attempt and i want to be a support and remind him he is awesome. Also I am a therapist and this helps me see the importance of specialized training. I especially appreciate the body and medical changes in this process and the personal reflection is priceless.

Revealing and intimate

I really enjoyed this book...both open and informative, important conversation now and always..loved it. Great narration..

A great book with so much to take from it

It’s wonderful to see you wrote everything and shared your experiences as well as read them after even creating a YouTube channel and your advocacy works. Thank you so much Skyler for sharing your voice for others of this community or anyone else who this intrigues you’ve helped so many with your kindness, spirit, wisdom, and journey.

waterworks

the interviews at the end were beautiful. I'm so happy your family and people closest to you see you the way you always saw yourself. thank you for existing and for fighting to live authentically, for pushing through the heartaches and suffering, and sharing about your growing pains and gains. you are a beautiful man.

You read my soul

Mr. Kergil, thank you for being visible for all these years. If it weren’t for you, Tyler, and Aydian Dowling, I would never have known what a transman was. You changed my life with your YouTube channel. This memoir really resonated with me and helped me to vocalize some things I didn’t even know I was feeling about my own transition. Keep flying beautiful soul ❤️.

Wish I hadn’t

I had followed Tucker’s YouTube journey before. This book memoir didn’t add anything. I can’t remember it after reading.

And now Tucker has expressed many problematic views that have tainted any good he once provided to the trans community. I wish I could return this book.

Not worth it, if you care to hear his story just watch his YouTube videos.