although I feel like this book might be difficult to understand if you haven't been submerged in queer culture of any of the major metros in the US, ie, san francisco, for instance, I think the above average sophisticate can take much meaningful insight from it. I highly recommend going audiobook on this one.
To be up front this book will not save a bad relationship, but it can make a good relationship even better.
Okay I bought and listened to this book when I was in a bad relationship. About 3 months in things started going south and being an inexperienced workaholic who had never dated much before I was certain it was I was doing wrong. I listened to this book twice, as well as other similar books. A few days shy of 6 months the relationship collapsed.
My ex's brother and sister-in-law then introduced me to a wonderful woman. She and I have been dating over a year and are engaged to be married. With this second relationship, I didn't forget the lessons of this book and those lessons have made things better.
Looking back if the lessons of this book had "saved" the relationship, I really don't think either one of us would have been happy. It just was not a good fit for either one of us.
To put it nautically, this book is not a life preserver to save the drowning, but it is a bigger sail to help people who are already in the right boat.