To some degree, everything is in relationship.

But when it comes to personal relationships, what we are really talking about is closeness. Proximity. How much space exists between you and somebody else, and how much of that space is being created by what you are unwilling to reveal.

In this episode I talk about the distance we create in relationships, how that distance is built through fear, shame, self-judgment, and the need to control how other people see us.

I get into openness, honesty, vulnerability, self-acceptance, and why so many relationships feel close on the surface but still aren’t truly intimate.

Because if you cannot be fully yourself with somebody, if you cannot say what you feel, think, or fear, then the relationship is always going to be limited by that.

This is really about learning to accept yourself enough to be seen, and understanding that real relationship can only exist where there is openness.

There’s a good chance that who you think you are isn’t actually who you are.

Most of us build this identity from selective experiences and then just stick to it. We pick a version of ourselves that makes sense and say “this is me” and then we try to be consistent with that.

But it’s not real. You’re not just one thing. You’re not just a good person or a bad person or a confident person or an introvert or whatever label you’ve given yourself. You’re a mix. You’re constantly changing.

In this episode I talk about how we create these identities, why we hold onto them, and how they can actually limit us without us realising it.

Also get into the fear of changing, the pressure to stay the same for other people, and why it feels so uncomfortable to show up differently even when you want to.

It’s basically just about letting go of this fixed idea of who you are and realising you don’t actually have to be that person if it’s not working anymore.

We all want purpose. We all want something that feels meaningful.

But not everyone has that thing. And when you don’t, it can feel like something is wrong with you. Like you’re missing something that everyone else seems to have.

I’ve spent a lot of time in that space. Not really knowing what I wanted to do, trying different things, not connecting with anything deeply, and feeling like I needed to figure it out.

In this episode I talk about that feeling of being directionless, what actually happens when you don’t have a clear purpose, and why searching for meaning can sometimes be the thing that stops you from finding it.

We get into chasing feelings, having too many options, being a generalist, and why comfort on its own isn’t enough.

And also what actually creates meaning, or at least what I’ve come to understand about it.

This isn’t really a “here’s how to find your purpose” episode. It’s more just an honest look at what it feels like when you don’t have one, and what to do with that.