How does sexual trauma affect your lifestyle journey?

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual trauma, abuse, and emotional triggers. Please take care while listening.

In this vulnerable and powerful episode, Cate is joined by trauma-informed coach Meshai from Expansive Connection to explore what happens when past trauma meets lifestyle play. Cate also shares her personal experience with sexual trauma — opening up publicly for the first time.

Whether you’re navigating your own healing, supporting a partner, or just want to be a more compassionate and informed member of the lifestyle, this conversation is essential.

What we cover: ✔ What sexual trauma looks like in lifestyle spaces ✔ Common triggers during play or events ✔ What partners and playmates need to understand ✔ Cate’s story ✔ How to create trauma-aware swinger environments ✔ Supporting survivors without needing every detail ✔ Why trauma must be part of the conversation ✔ Real tools for safer play and stronger connections

Resources & Support: 1800Respect – www.1800respect.org.au | 1800 737 732 RAINN – www.rainn.org | 800-656-HOPE Rape Crisis UK – www.rapecrisis.org.uk SurvivorsUK (for men) – www.survivorsuk.org

Let’s talk about it. Share this episode with your partner, club community, or friends in the lifestyle. The more we talk, the safer we all become.

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Tags: Sexual Trauma, Swinger Lifestyle, Trauma-Informed Play, Non-Monogamy, Consent Culture, PTSD and Sex, Ethical Swinging, Open Relationships, Trauma Support, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories

Cate and Darrell revisit soft swap play for the first time in seven years — and it happened at none other than Fun4Two, the iconic swingers club in the Netherlands. What started as a night out turned into a wildly sensual experience filled with connection, chemistry, a six-handed massage… and yes, some cum on the floor.

We explore the dynamics of soft swap play, the assumptions people make about it, and whether full swap couples are missing out by skipping over these intimate encounters. Cate also makes a hilarious faux pas, and offers a boss-level club tour move, and together they reflect on how chemistry can totally eclipse categories.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

🔹 The Night at Fun4Two: From flirting at the bar to hands-on tantra and one unforgettable group experience 🔹 Soft Swap Revisited: Why it felt complete, hot, and unexpectedly fulfilling — even without PIV 🔹 Redefining the Rules: Thoughts on how vague soft swap definitions can create confusion and missed connections 🔹 Club Tips: How to stand out in a room full of lingerie and boots 🔹 Red Flags, Green Flags & Play Pitfalls: Advice for newbies and seasoned swingers alike 🔹 Listener Reflections: Juicy comments from the community about the pros and cons of soft swap dynamics

Plus, life updates! Cate’s heading to Miami, Darrell’s off to South Korea, and someone just turned 40… but we’re not talking about that, okay?

Links:

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Is soft swap the underrated gem of the swinger world? Rediscover it with us in this sexy, playful, and thought-provoking episode.

Tags: Soft Swap, Swinger Club Play, Full Swap vs. Soft Swap, Fun4Two, Swinger Podcast, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Stories, Open Relationships, Lifestyle Tips, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Non-Monogamous Adventures

In this important episode, Cate speaks with Steve Gagne, owner of Wicked Fun Club, a private members-only lifestyle venue in Connecticut that has recently been issued a cease and desist order by the Town of Plymouth.

Only five months into a three-year lease, the club is now in the midst of a legal and political battle that raises serious questions about privacy, zoning laws, and stigma against non-monogamous communities.

Steve shares what really happened, how it’s affecting the club and its members, and what the community can do to support. This episode goes beyond local politics—it's a wake-up call for everyone in the lifestyle.

“This story isn’t just about one club in one town—it’s about how adult freedom, privacy, and community values clash in the real world. Whether you're in Connecticut or California, we all have a stake in the lifestyle's right to exist safely and respectfully.” ~ Cate, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast

In this episode, we cover:

• What Wicked Fun Club is and who it serves

• The zoning issue and cease and desist order

• Tensions between the club, the landlord, and the neighboring church

• The broader impact on lifestyle members and safe spaces

• The current appeal process

• What support is needed from the non-monogamous community

• How this story affects the lifestyle space nationwide

Links and Resources: Wicked Fun Club Website: https://wickedfunclub.com News article on the shutdown: NBC Connecticut Reddit review thread: r/Swingers discussion Learn about club rights: https://ncsfreedom.org

Stay Connected: Instagram: @swingingdownunder Twitter: @swingdownunder Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com

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