On todays episode:

If you’ve ever felt the tension of trying to be the best version of you, but never really knowing where to start, I’m sure this one will land.

Why most relationships are more transactional than we’d like to admit

Why the advice to “just be yourself” might be the most unhelpful thing you’ve ever been told about personal development.

How even powerful tools like ChatGPT can sound right while completely missing the point. I’ll show you a case study of someone using AI for therapy.

The simple equation I use to decode dreams without overcomplicating them

And where I’ve landed one month after a psychedelic trip that completely stripped away meaning and certainty

Also, why being precise is so important, (especially when it comes to pronouncing French names)

There’s one main reason I keep showing up to record this podcast that I’ve never fully explained, so after 327 episodes, today, I finally say it out loud.

On Todays episode I interviewed my 20 year old daughter Amity about her experience of overcoming insecurity ahead of the curve. We also chat about her thoughts on:

Readiness for change. How to increase it, and why you can’t get away with pretending to be ready.

The power of the clean coaching space to facilitate lasting change.

Accusations, agreements and dealing with daddy issues.

How to discover the defining moments that created insecurity in the first place.

Why gamification may be the only way into the journey of overcoming insecurity for most people.

Why it is easy to underestimate the hard work around rewriting the story and the importance of being prepared for the pressure test.

And, where psychedelics fit in the process and what conditions make them safe.

This episode is a field report from the last month of my life.

I unpack the three principles currently organising how I think, work, and make decisions. I share what surfaced during my annual psychedelic trip and the unexpected clarity it brought. I reflect on a fresh discovery about the wonder of music and why it has moved me more deeply than I anticipated.

I also explain my favourite coaching tool, one that has created significant breakthroughs for several clients recently, and why I keep returning to it.

Running through all of this is a central theme: truth and capacity.

Most people say they want freedom. But in my experience, we dramatically overestimate our ability to handle the truth about ourselves. We say we want to be free, yet when faced with the reality that would make us free, we defend, minimise, or look away.

Freedom is not relief. It is exposure. It requires the nervous system strength to sit with what is real without collapsing or compensating.

I also share a quiet milestone for The Insecurity Project as I bring another coach into the fold for 2026.

This is part philosophy, part reflection, part behind-the-scenes look at how I’m currently organising my life and work.

As always, take what’s useful. Leave what isn’t.