In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into a common concern we hear from many husbands: “Intimate Time Feels Like a Moving Target!"

For some couples, intimacy seems to come with a long checklist such as chores finished, the house spotless, kids taken care of, emotional connection felt, and the right mood set... before intimate time is even an option. While those things can all be important, they can also leave one spouse feeling rejected, frustrated, or like intimacy is always out of reach.

We unpack why these expectations often develop, how they impact both spouses differently, and what couples can do to find a healthier balance. You’ll hear honest conversations about:

• Why the “checklist mentality” can create distance instead of connection
• Practical ways to lower unrealistic expectations while still honoring emotional and relational needs
• How to create an environment where both spouses feel valued and desired

Whether you’ve felt like intimacy is always “just out of reach” or you’re the one needing certain things in place before feeling ready, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and tools to bring more connection and fulfillment into your marriage.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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"What We Feed Grows, And What We Starve Dies" - This is one of our favorite quotes from our good friends Greg and Julie Gorman with Married For A Purpose. We love this quote because it is so powerful and true! In marriage, our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes act like seeds, what we feed our thoughts grows stronger (good or bad), what we starve our thoughts dies.

Your thoughts truly shape what your marriage will be, what you focus on grows, and what you ignore fades. In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the powerful idea that your attitude can make or break your relationship.

If you constantly tell yourself you don’t like sex or or the things your spouse does, and only focus on the negatives in your marriage, those feelings only grow stronger. But when you starve negative thoughts and intentionally nurture positive ones, your connection, intimacy, and joy can flourish.

Tune in to learn how small shifts in your attitude can create big changes in your marriage.. helping you reconnect, laugh more, and build the kind of intimacy that lasts a lifetime.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HERE

Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.

If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.

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This episode is intended for couples in a healthy relationship who are looking to create better sexual balance in their marriage.

Sexual intimacy is a very important aspect of a healthy and thriving marriage. However, many if not most couples find themselves in a dynamic where one spouse has a higher sex drive than the other. This is completely normal, as no two people have the exact same libido.

The problem arises when (in a healthy marriage) the lower-desire spouse, often unintentionally, takes control over the couple’s sex life by determining "if" and "when" intimacy happens.

This imbalance can lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional disconnection. The key to overcoming this challenge is understanding the dynamics at play and working together to find a balance that satisfies both spouses.

If this is what it feels like in your marriage, you are not alone!

• A study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that 80% of couples report having mismatched sex drives at some point in their relationship.
• According to the Kinsey Institute, 60–80% of married individuals say they wish their spouse wanted sex more often.
• A survey from the Marriage Foundation discovered that couples who have sex at least once a week are three times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriage compared to those who have sex less frequently.
• A report in Archives of Sexual Behavior noted that lack of sexual intimacy is one of the top reasons for marital dissatisfaction and divorce.

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we are joined by Austin Ellis, a licensed sex therapist, who addresses one of the most common issues in marriage: finding sexual balance when you and your spouse have completely different sex drives, and how to create a balance that works for both of you.

We asked Austin a few questions in this episode:

What if a spouse wants it daily and the other spouse wants it monthly?

What do you do if you cannot find a balance?

Is sex really a need in marriage?

What does healthy rejection look like?

Join us for this incredible episode, where you’ll not only understand why this happens but, more importantly, learn how to find a balance that you can both be happy with, so you can enjoy a thriving marriage. This might be the most important episode that completely changes your marriage!

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HERE

Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.

If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.

Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!