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The Save The Marriage Podcast

The Save The Marriage Podcast

De: Lee H. Baucom Ph.D.
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Learn how to save your marriage and improve your relationship. Stop your divorce and restore a loving relationship. Join Dr. Lee H. Baucom for this impactful podcast that can save your marriage.© Copyright 2013-2024. All Rights Reserved by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. and Aspire Coaching, Inc. Ciencias Sociales Desarrollo Personal Higiene y Vida Saludable Psicología Psicología y Salud Mental Relaciones Éxito Personal
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  • What DOES Pickleball Have To Do With Marriage??

    What DOES Pickleball Have To Do With Marriage??
    Mar 4 2026
    Probably more than you want to admit. I've been playing pickleball for about four years. Started when my wife and I moved to a new community — we were looking for something to do and a way to meet people. Neither of us expected it to become a weekly ritual. But somewhere along the way, I started noticing something I couldn't shake. The patterns showing up on that court? I'd seen every single one of them in struggling marriages. Not as a loose metaphor. As an almost exact parallel. The partner who can't stop criticizing every shot — and wonders why the other person stops trying. The player who decides if the game isn't going their way, they won't play at all. The one who takes every shot, carries every point, and then complains their partner doesn't contribute. The "coach" nobody asked for, offering feedback that doesn't land as helpfulness. Sound like anyone you know? Here's what got me thinking: pickleball, at its best, is a partnership game. You win together. You cover each other's deficits. You communicate before the moment demands it. You keep playing even when the score isn't going your way. And at its worst? It looks a lot like the patterns that quietly destroy a marriage. There's one thing in particular I talk about in this episode that I think will stay with you — something most people never notice on the court or in their relationship. It has to do with the difference between the last shot and the setup that made it inevitable. Most of us only see the last shot. A few questions worth sitting with before you listen: Do you and your spouse actually have a strategy — or are you just reacting to whatever comes at you? When something goes wrong, are you looking at the last moment, or the conditions you both built leading up to it? Are you the kind of partner you'd actually want to play with? That last one might sting a little. It's supposed to. This week's episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast is a little lighter than usual — but lighter doesn't mean less important. Sometimes the clearest mirror is the one you least expect. Listen to "What Does Pickleball Have To Do With Marriage?" right here. And if you're at a point where the game feels broken — no strategy, no direction, and you're not sure your partner is even still playing — the Save The Marriage System is where to start. It's the map for getting back on the court together.
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    28 m
  • “If It Were Meant To Be”… Is a Load of Crap!

    “If It Were Meant To Be”… Is a Load of Crap!
    Feb 18 2026
    I hear it a lot. Sometimes from someone in the middle of a marriage crisis, trying to make sense of the pain. Sometimes from someone who hasn't hit crisis yet, but carries the belief quietly in the background — like a safety net they don't know they're depending on. "If it's meant to be, it will work out." It sounds like wisdom. It sounds like acceptance. If you've thought it yourself, I understand why. It offers something we all want in a painful moment — a clean explanation that doesn't require anything else from you. But I want to make the case that this phrase — as comforting as it feels — is one of the most dangerous ideas your marriage has ever encountered. Here's why. Our culture handed us an incomplete story about love and marriage. A story built on two beliefs so familiar they don't even feel like beliefs. The first says that finding the right person is the whole game — get the selection right, and everything follows. The second says that real love shouldn't require much effort — if you have to try hard, something is probably wrong. Neither of those beliefs is true. And together, they set up a very predictable failure — one that has nothing to do with whether your love is real or your person is right. What if your marriage isn't experiencing a destination failure? What if it's a navigation failure? Those are very different problems. And they have very different solutions. In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I dig into both. Where these beliefs come from. Why they're so seductive. And what they actually cost you when things get hard. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES The Save The Marriage System The Pause Button Problem Hope When Your Spouse Has Given Up
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    15 m
  • Stop Spinning the Wheel

    Stop Spinning the Wheel
    Feb 25 2026
    Einstein said we can't solve our problems with the same thinking that created them. And if you've been working on your marriage—trying hard, putting in effort, doing everything you can think of—but nothing's actually changing? You might be spinning the wheel. Pursuing harder. Forcing conversations. Making grand gestures. Reading every article, watching every video, trying every technique the algorithm throws at you. That's effort. Real effort. But it's pointed in the wrong direction. In the last episode, I talked about why "if it's meant to be" is dangerous thinking. This episode is about what you do instead. Not just recognizing the myth is wrong, but understanding what intelligent effort actually looks like when you're trying to save a marriage. Because here's what most people miss. The marriage that's in crisis right now? It didn't fail because you picked the wrong person or because your love wasn't strong enough. It failed in design. The culture gave you a destination—happily ever after—and almost nothing about how to actually get there and stay there. So when things fall apart, it's not a destination failure. It's a navigation failure. And that changes everything. In this episode, I walk through what it actually means to rebuild a marriage. Why it feels so much harder than it did at the beginning. Why you're not maintaining orbit—you're relaunching. And what to do when you're the only one putting in the energy. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES "If it was meant to be" Episode Why Your Spouse Doesn't See a Change Save The Marriage System
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    18 m
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