Episode #1100

In this revisit of a fan-favorite episode, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin, to discuss the small, intentional shifts they use to raise resilient and self-aware children. Parenting often feels like a series of reactive moments, but the goal of conscious parenting is to proactively pass down the tools for self-love, emotional intelligence, and growth . Doug and Erin share the specific rituals they use with their own children to ensure they grow up with a solid foundation of self-worth and the ability to navigate life's inevitable challenges .

Building self-love starts with simple habits, such as encouraging kids to look in the mirror and tell themselves they love themselves, making it a normal part of their day . Doug also uses a constant verbal check by telling his kids he loves them until they are almost annoyed, ensuring they never have to question his affection . At the dinner table, they move past the standard "how was your day" by asking about "magic moments" or pre-framing the school day as being either "good or great" to keep their children's minds focused on the positives .

Modeling behavior is ultimately more impactful than words alone. Whether it is letting your children see you journal, meditate, or exercise, they pick up on the healthy habits that serve you . Most importantly, Doug and Erin discuss the power of "repairing" the relationship when you lose your cool; by apologizing for raising your voice, you teach kids that while emotions are natural, taking responsibility for your actions is a requirement for healthy relationships .

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Episode #1099

What do you do when your wife tells you she's been faking it for 30 years?

Is it a test? Is she trying to get a reaction? Or is this the beginning of the end?

In this episode, we unpack a real story from one of our men whose wife told him she was never truly attracted to him and only stayed for the kids. Most guys would get defensive. They'd argue the facts. They'd collapse into shame. Or they'd chase.

He didn't.

He stayed grounded. He stayed curious. He didn't make it about himself. And that response alone changed the dynamic.

We talk about what a safety test actually is and why so many men fail it. We break down how to hear the emotion underneath the words instead of reacting to the content. And we get honest about the other possibility too, that maybe it's not a test at all. Maybe it's complete.

If that's the case, how do you move forward without falling apart? How do you make sure your worth isn't tied to the relationship? How do you handle it in a way you can look back on without regret?

This is a real conversation about staying steady when everything feels uncertain. About not chasing. Not collapsing. Not reacting. But standing firm in who you are, whether the marriage rebuilds or ends.

If your relationship feels shaky right now, this episode will challenge you in the right way.

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Episode #1098

A lot of men struggle to own their wins.

Instead of standing tall, they make a joke. They downplay it. They get the dig in before anyone else can. It sounds like humor. But underneath it is often low self-worth, fear of looking arrogant, or a need to stay in control.

In this episode, we unpack why so many men use self-deprecation as armor. We talk about where it starts, how it gets wired in from family, school, or early work environments, and how it follows you into your business and your marriage.

If you've ever brushed off praise or felt uncomfortable saying "yeah, I did that and I'm proud of it," this conversation will land. We get into how dimming your light doesn't just affect you. It impacts your wife. It impacts your leadership. There's a big difference between vulnerability and tearing yourself down.

This episode is direct and practical. You'll walk away with simple ways to slow down your reactions, catch the pattern before it comes out of your mouth, and start building real internal confidence.

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