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What if the beliefs shaping your life… aren't actually yours?

In this episode I'm joined by writer and decision-making coach Stephanie Polo, and we dive straight into one of the most unexpected stories I've ever heard: the time she showered naked with 50 strangers in the woods… and how that moment completely changed the way she saw her body and belonging.

From there the conversation opens up into something much bigger.

We talk about the cultural narratives many of us inherit without questioning them. Stories about success, about bodies, about parenting, about careers, about what we're "supposed" to want.

Because once you start noticing those stories, you realise something important.

You don't actually have to keep living them.

This conversation explores how to interrogate those inherited narratives, reconnect with your own values, and make decisions that actually align with the life you want to live.

• How diet culture shapes our beliefs about ourselves from a young age

• The difference between fitting in and belonging

• Why women are often conditioned to ignore their body's signals

• The powerful distinction between hurt vs harm

• How boundaries can hurt people's feelings without harming them

• Why over-functioning and "helping" can quietly become enabling

• The sunk cost trap (and why staying miserable isn't the solution)

• Why so many women struggle to say the words: "I want…"

Find out more about Stephanie here: https://www.speirolo.com/

Find out more about Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/

I'm joined by returning guest Deanna Seymour to talk about what it's actually like to run a membership.

We're not talking about finding your niche or writing the perfect sales page. We're talking about what happens after you launch. The platform decisions. The pricing traps. The emotional rollercoaster. The churn. The awkward community moments. The burnout risk.

Because memberships are not passive income, they're living, breathing ecosystems.

We cover:

• Platform mistakes to avoid, especially when you're just starting.

• Why low-ticket pricing isn't automatically easier to sell.

• The emotional reality of people joining and leaving.

• Balancing running the community with actually growing it.

• Why doing more inside the membership can backfire.

• How to stop taking churn personally.

• Experimenting without burning yourself out.

We both share lessons learned the hard way, including over-delivering, over-building, over-expecting, and underestimating the emotional load of community leadership.

If you're thinking about starting a membership, already running one, or quietly wondering why yours feels heavier than you expected, this conversation will land.

You're not failing. It's just more nuanced than the internet makes it look.

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How many times have you decided what you want, only to quietly change your mind a few days later?

In this episode, Suzanne unpacks the real reason so many smart, capable humans stall out. It's rarely a lack of ideas or motivation. It's the constant resetting. The pivoting. The "new plan" rush that interrupts momentum before it ever has a chance to build.

If you've ever:

• Started something strong and lost steam.

• Switched strategies mid-way through.

• Talked yourself out of a goal because it got uncomfortable.

• Fallen for bright shiny object syndrome.

This episode is your mirror.

Suzanne explores the difference between wanting and deciding, why repetition matters more than intensity, and how to stop reopening the negotiation with yourself every time the messy middle feels awkward.

You don't need a new goal.

You need to stop changing the one you already chose.

If you want structure and community while you practise this, The Done Era is where we do that work together.

What if some of your people-pleasing patterns didn't start in adulthood but on the school oval?

In this episode, I reflect on something many of us experienced but rarely question, the early environments that quietly taught us belonging mattered more than comfort.

• The subtle conditioning that teaches us discomfort is the price of belonging.

• Why forced participation builds shame, while chosen discomfort builds confidence.

• How early environments shape our relationship with visibility.

• The survival strategies many capable adults are still running.

• Why courage is not always pushing harder, sometimes it is stepping off the track.

If this episode stirred something in you, these are exactly the kinds of conversations we have inside The Done Era. It's a space for people who are done abandoning themselves and ready to choose differently.

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Passive income gets sold as the ultimate business dream.

Make money while you sleep. Predictable months. Freedom.

But what if recurring revenue is not actually passive?

In this episode, I'm talking about the crucial difference between having an audience and having paying clients, why a successful launch does not always mean you should build a membership, and the emotional reality of holding ongoing containers.

This is not financial advice. It is grounded perspective for people who want to build businesses that support their lives instead of quietly consuming them.

If you're tired of the laptop lifestyle narrative and craving something more sustainable, this conversation is for you.

If you want the deeper, behind-the-scenes layer, I share real numbers, real decisions, and the unfiltered realities of running a membership inside the Done Diaries, available in the Premium tier of The Done Era.

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Ever had someone disappear, then pop back into your life like nothing happened?

There is a name for that behaviour: zombieing.

In this episode, Suzanne explores the difference between healthy reconnection and the emotionally disorienting experience of someone resurfacing only when it suits them.

Because this is not just about annoying messaging habits.
It's about self-respect, emotional availability, and who gets access to you.

You will learn:

• What "zombieing" actually is.

• Why it hits harder than we expect.

• The hidden question it triggers: Am I only visible when I'm useful?

• How people-pleasers often respond.

• A simple, grounded way to address it without drama.

• Why boundaries and compassion can coexist.

This episode is an invitation to become more discerning with your energy while staying open-hearted.

Listener reflection:
Have you ever been zombied?
And more importantly, have you ever done it to someone else?

Come continue the conversation inside The Done Era community where we talk about the real relational dynamics that shape our lives.

Because your energy is not a public utility.

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There's a moment that doesn't get talked about enough.

It comes after you start saying no.
After you stop over-explaining.
After you stop contorting yourself to keep everyone comfortable.

At first, it feels powerful. Liberating. Like finally exhaling. Then it gets weird.

You feel untethered. Hollow. Disoriented.
You start wondering who you even are without being the reliable one, the fixer, the emotional glue.

This is the identity hangover.

In this episode, I unpack:

• Why people-pleasing is an identity, not just a habit.

• The strange emptiness that shows up when old patterns fall away.

• Why that discomfort means you are doing it right.

• How to navigate the messy middle without running back to overgiving.

If you are in that tender in-between phase, this episode is for you.

If this episode hits somewhere tender, you might feel very at home inside The Done Era, my community for recovering people-pleasers who are done abandoning themselves.

Being "easy to be around" is often praised.

But for many of us, it's not a personality trait. It's a survival strategy.

In this episode, I talk about the quiet, socially acceptable ways self-abandonment shows up in everyday life, how it slowly drains your energy and clarity, and why guilt appears when you start choosing yourself.

This is not about fixing yourself.
It's about naming what's been happening.

If you're tired of putting yourself last to keep the peace, this conversation is for you.

If you want to keep exploring this work in a real, human way, The Done Era is where these conversations continue.