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In this episode of The Glorious Mess, Raymond and Carla reflect on early sobriety, self-blame, and the stories we tell ourselves about responsibility when things fall apart. Raymond revisits a moment that still carries weight waking up in a hospital in Las Vegas and the fragile terrain of early sobriety, where shame can eclipse context and healing rarely follows a straight line.

We talk about losing the social role that drinking once provided, the discomfort of no longer being the version of yourself others preferred, and the complexity of accountability when no story is ever one sided. The conversation holds tension without rushing resolution, making space for humour, discomfort, and honesty.

Messy, tender, and unresolved, exactly as promised.

New episodes every month. Recorded at Virage Studios.

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In this episode of The Glorious Mess, Raymond and Carla reflect on early sobriety, self-blame, and the stories we tell ourselves about responsibility when things fall apart. Raymond revisits a moment that still carries weight waking up in a hospital in Las Vegas and the fragile terrain of early sobriety, where shame can eclipse context and healing rarely follows a straight line.

We talk about losing the social role that drinking once provided, the discomfort of no longer being the version of yourself others preferred, and the complexity of accountability when no story is ever one-sided. The conversation holds tension without rushing resolution, making space for humour, discomfort, and honesty.

Messy, tender, and unresolved, exactly as promised.

New episodes every month. Recorded at Virage Studios.

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In this episode of The Glorious Mess, Raymond and Carla start with eye-rolling and somehow end up talking about power, disruption, and the politics of policing each other.

We unpack how collective exhaustion shows up in the body, why eye-rolling isn’t dismissal but a somatic release, and how constant demands for composure blur the line between harm and discomfort. From post-holiday doomscrolling to everyday moral surveillance, we question who benefits when frustration is redirected toward individuals rather than systems.

The conversation moves through call-out culture, respectability politics, and the quiet violence of compliance. We reflect on being labelled “disruptive,” why disruption is often necessary, especially in education, and how accountability can slide into surveillance when it loses its connection to imagination and care.

Messy, embodied, and politically awake exactly as promised.

New episodes every month. Recorded at Virage Studios.

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In this episode of The Glorious Mess, Raymond and Carla start with squirrels and somehow end up talking about capitalism, environmental guilt, and the politics of convenience.

We unpack why individual behaviour is so often blamed for massive ecological and social crises and how “do better” narratives can oversimplify problems that are actually structural. From reusable straws to lifestyle purity tests, we question who really benefits when responsibility gets pushed onto individuals instead of systems.

The conversation moves through implicit bias, our grievances with disorganized advocacy, and how good intentions can still reproduce harm when they lack strategy, accountability, and imagination. We reflect on why movements sometimes eat their own, why clarity gets lost in performance, and what it means to want change without knowing how to hold each other through it.

Messy, curious, and unexpectedly political exactly as promised.

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In The Obsession Question, Raymond and Carla wade into the uncomfortable territory of desire, attention, and power and ask when being wanted starts to feel less like attraction and more like control.

Why do some men continue to pursue even when there’s no response? How did attention become something we’re expected to manage or soften? And why does desire so often feel pressurized or unsafe?

From Carla’s experience of persistent messaging to a broader look at feminism, state power, and how systems create dependency, this episode explores the myth of the perfect victim and the perfect enemy and what gets lost when harm is flattened into binaries.

A little uncomfortable, very honest.

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In Invisible Rulers, Raymond and Carla wade into the messy question of who actually decides what we know and how much of the truth ever makes it out.

What stories get told on the news? Which ones get buried? Who benefits from the way information moves? And how much of what we “know” is really just good marketing?

From pop culture contradictions to Raya as a class filter disguised as a dating app, this episode examines the quiet power shaping our feeds and our beliefs.

Then, we take it somewhere deeper: reframing psychosis as cultural insight, unpacking sleep paralysis as a global story, and asking why some forms of meaning-making are dismissed while others are celebrated.

A little paranoid, a lot curious.

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In Gay Parents & Getting Sober, Raymond and Carla sit down for an honest, funny, and unexpectedly tender conversation about the families that shaped them and the clarity they’re choosing now.

What does it mean to be raised by gay parents? What does it mean to be raised by deeply religious Jamaican foster parents? And how does sobriety force you to look back at those stories with new eyes?

From coming out (in all its forms) to unlearning chaos, this episode explores the truths we inherit, the ones we run from, and the ones we finally claim as our own.

A little messy, a lot real.

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In The Echo and the Other, Raymond and Carla sit down for a light but honest conversation about radical pluralism — the idea that we can live together across deep difference.

Can we really coexist with those whose beliefs cause harm? From the far right to influencer culture, this episode explores how social media turns opinion into certainty, and how we might still find ways to listen, reflect, and stay human in the noise.

A little messy, a lot real.

New episodes every month. Recorded at Virage Studios.