INTRO:

Hey, thanks for tuning in to the Corporate Yogi podcast, I’m your host Julie Zuzek. This pod is YOUR dedicated time for growth, developing practical tools to use with your team and other relationships and to learning deeply about who you are and what makes you tick! Because you are a brilliant and powerful being and I want you to invest more time reflecting on WHO are being, not just WHAT you are doing. Doing is awesome, but BEING, well that is where the magic happens and what makes you truly feel fulfilled. You’re going to love this episode. So, here’s a look at what you’re going to learn today

1 – In the first segment you’’ll learn why we struggle to say NO

2 – Then in the second segment you’ll learn the correlation between yes and NO

3 – And in the last segment you’ll learn tips to say NO

So get out of your head, into your heart and let’s dive right in, shall we.

SEGMENT 1

I know that some of you don’t struggle with saying NO, and that is awesome. Give yourself a pat on the back!

But for the rest of us, especially those of us who suffer from the disease to please, saying NO is a muscle that we have to build. And what is the best way to build a muscle?

a) Avoid using it at all costs

b) Use it all the time, no matter how scared you are, no matter how messy it is and focus on building the behaviour not being attached to the results.

I hope you guessed B, and that’s a little Tough love for you today. I know when we’re scared or when we don’t like doing something, we avoid it at all costs. But sadly this doesn’t get us anywhere. When we avoid something we NEVER, ever ever get better at it, right? Do we? But if we try it, and keep trying it, we’ll get better at it, and it will get easier, I guarantee it. Remember that wayne gretsky quote, we fail at 100% of the shots we don’t take.

Do you remember when we talked about the Hard Epidemic? The Hard Epidemic happens when we label something “Hard” in an excuse to avoid doing it. Well I think this is a good time to remind ourselves about the epidemic, because I think it really applies to this example of saying NO. It’s not hard, it’s just new. Saying NO is a perfect example of mindset, and how we need to master ours.

So there’s a few reasons why we struggle with saying NO:

- First the disease to please. We have that image consultant saboteur worrying about what people are thinking about us. But I guarantee you, they’re not thinking about you anywhere near as much as you think they are. Chances are, they’re just thinking about themselves. So, you’ve gotta let that go.

- Second, It’s a little hit of happiness. we really authentically want to help and say the Yes, because it feels good. We’re going to do something new and exciting, maybe we’re going to make someone else happy in the process. It just feels good. But I’m going to let you in on a secret. Saying NO can also feel equally good and very powerful. I promise you!

- Thirdly, We’re in a routine or don’t know we have an option. And this is really simple and obvious but sometimes we’re just completely in a routine of saying yes right away or we’re in a rut of saying Yes, and we don’t realize we have options. So this is a good opportunity for you to check in, take an inventory and see if there’s anything you are doing out of obligation.

- Lastly, We lack the tools. If saying NO is an underdeveloped muscle for you, then I’m going to help you out and give you some great tools that will help you dive in and get started. Don’t you worry, I’ve got you covered.

SEGMENT 2

We’ll look at the relationship between yes and no.

I want you to think about Yes and No as being 2 sides of a coin – and they are directly correlated, because remember,...

INTRO:

Hey, thanks for tuning in to the Corporate Yogi podcast, I’m your host Julie Zuzek. This pod is YOUR dedicated time for growth, developing practical tools to use with your team and other relationships and to learning deeply about who you are and what makes you tick! Because you are a brilliant and powerful being and I want you to invest more time reflecting on WHO are being, not just WHAT you are doing. Doing is awesome, but BEING, well that is where the magic happens and what makes you truly feel fulfilled. You’re going to love this episode e. So, here’s a look at what you’re going to learn today

1 – In the first segment you’’ll learn what the dip is

2 – Then in the second segment you’ll learn how to avoid it

3 – And in the last segment you’ll learn tips to get out of the dip

So get out of your head, into your heart and let’s dive right in, shall we.

SEGMENT 1

You see, the DIP is kinda like quicksand. Once you’re in, it’s really hard to get out on your own, and the more you struggle and panic and fight it, the deeper you go into the quicksand.

What exactly is the dip? It’s that really dark place we go to when it feels like everything is going wrong. Work is wrong, relationships are wrong, our health is wrong. And it feels like we’re on a one-way ticket to blowing up. But see that is the tricky thing with being IN the dip, we lose all perspective and we don’t even really know that we’re there. We can’t see how deep we are and how much it is impacting us, only people outside of the dip can see that and they can help give us the perspective that we really need. So, I recently watched a tech insider video titled, how to escape quicksand. Don’t ask me why, it just showed up, it was a good looking animated video, and I remember scrolling through it and thinking, yeah – that might actually be useful, you never know when you’re going to find yourself trapped in quicksand, right? And in the video that actually say, don’t feak out because humans can’t actually drown in the stuff, as humans we actually float in it, and we’ll only sink up to about our waist. Really? I guess it’s just an urban legend that you can drown in quicksand. Although I feel like I’m pretty sure I’ve seen it happen in an Indiana jones or other action movie at some point, but whatever. I’m not going to challenge it. One thing they do say in this video is DON’T ask your friend to help pull you out.

OK, so then the dip is similar to quicksand, but that might not be the perfect analogy, because if you are in the DIP I know 100% that you can and SHOULD ask for help. And I promise that just the simple ask of telling someone that something is going on, but you don’t actually know exactly what it is. And that is totally ok.

So remember, the Dip is perfectly normal

There is No shame in being there. It’s just a natural part of the process.

And you don’t need to figure out WHY you’re in the dip, or understand How you got there, you only need to figure out HOW to get yourself out of there, and sometimes the easiest way to do that, is to ask for help. And the Dip this is the perfect thing to put into your relationship, to be able to say to your friend, and design, I may get in the dip, if I do I need to know that I can reach out to you for help at any time. And this has to be a two-way street, its kind of like making a pact, where you can both ask for help when you need it. No questions asked. Maybe you have a code word, or a code phrase you can use, instead of “the eagle has landed”, it could be “the eagle is stuck in the quicksand” , or maybe you can use this language of The Dip, as this place that we find ourselves in sometimes. But as part of the designed alliance, pls make sure you pick some sort of language you can use to quickly reference it, so the other person knows this is serious...

INTRO:

Hey, thanks for tuning in to the Corporate Yogi podcast, I’m your host Julie Zuzek. This pod is YOUR dedicated time for growth, developing practical tools to use with your team and other relationships and to learning deeply about who you are and what makes you tick! Because you are a brilliant and powerful being and I want you to invest more time reflecting on WHO are being, not just WHAT you are doing. Doing is awesome, but BEING, well that is where the magic happens and what makes you truly feel fulfilled. You’re going to love this episode on change and discovering how it impacts you. So, here’s a look at what you’re going to learn today

1 – In the first segment I’ll explain the difference between inner and outer change

2 – Then in the second segment you’ll learn how to lean into change

3 – And in the last segment you’ll learn about the change adoption curve

So get out of your head, into your heart and let’s dive right in, shall we.

SEGMENT 1

You either love change or hate it. There’s no in between. I learned this years ago doing my personality workshops – some of us are just wired for change and things to be different. We embrace it and it comes naturally to us. To best understand change we need to learn the difference between inner and outer change. Inner change is change we initiate on our own, for example a change in job, a change in where we live, whereas outer change is change that happens to us, that we didn’t sign on for. For example losing a loved one that’s a shock losing your job having to move halfway across the world losing money unexpectedly, losing your health losing a friend these are types of change that are unexpected and we don’t adapt well to them because like I said they happened to us not us initiating them that’s the biggest difference here is whether we initiate a change or the change happens to us. It’s important to understand that there are these two different types of changes, and if we don’t do well with change to start, external change can be really, really hard. So really think about external change in terms of your life and I want you to right now think of three changes that you didn’t initiat, three internal changes. Can you think of them??? _____ How did they come about? How did you handle them? Did you feel in control or not? Now I want you to think of 3 internal changes, things you chose and quite simply three changes that you initiated. Can you think of 3? ____ Was it easier to come up with these ones? Those in the internal changes versus the external changes or the changes that happened to you that were initiated by someone else or were outside of your control. Not that you initiated so go ahead right now and think of three things got it OK all right now we’re gonna think about the extra time to think about the external changes and what are the changes that you had happened to you. over you it’s not change you initiate it’s typically not change that you want but sometimes it ends up being we usually are able to look over our shoulder after we’re through a lesson and see that the change was actually good for us…… but let’s be honest there are some changes that just are really crappy and stay crappy like the loss of I loved one is a really good example of an external change,

However, let’s not get carried away and make these two types of changes mutually exclusive. Sometimes external changes are exactly what we need for a kick in the but, or to deal with our analysis paralysis and we have to trust the process, bc we wouldn’t have made the change ourselves. This concept has been named by my clients as the trampoline effect. I love this term and wish I had come up with it. Let me share a story where it all happened. I was working with this awesome team at RBC, and they started to notice a pattern with an exercise they were doing. As they plotted out a retrospective of their...