It’s my birthday, baby! I’m officially 42, and today I’m reflecting on what the last year has taught me. Because let me tell you, 41 was no joke.

This episode is raw. It's real. It’s like flipping through the pages of my personal journal and letting you see it all: growth, grit, grief, and gratitude.

Inside, I’m sharing what it felt like to:

💥 Get everything I ever wanted… all at once

💸 Re-learn powerful lessons about money, investing, and trust

👀 See who was really in my corner and who had to go

💻 Build a business while holding the emotional weight of family illness and team burnout

💔 Experience deep motherhood shifts as my boys started growing up right before my eyes

🧘🏽‍♀️ Recommit to nervous system work, breathwork, therapy, and learning how to slow the hell down

🌍 And step boldly into the next chapter of audacity, amplification, and bigger impact

This one’s for the women doing hard things behind the scenes. For the mothers holding it all. For the visionaries building in silence. And for anyone who feels like life is speeding up and you’re trying to stay present in the middle of it.

📌 Links mentioned in this episode:

👉🏽 Learn more about the Release Retreat: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/release

👉🏽 Join me inside The Next Level coaching experience: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel

👉🏽 Check out upcoming US events and meet me on tour: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/events

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If you love this podcast, the best way you can celebrate with me is to share this episode, tag me @thequeenofconfidence, and let someone know how it moved you. That’s the real gift.

I love you. Thank you for riding with me.

Erika 💋

Most people can’t sit in silence.

They fill every space with noise, distractions, and chatter because sitting with yourself is confronting.

But what if the real magic happens in the stillness?

In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned about silence, presence, and the deep discomfort that comes from simply being. From spa days in Melbourne to five-day silent retreats, I’ve come to understand that quiet isn’t empty, it’s full of truth.

If you’re the kind of woman who avoids slowing down, who resists being alone with her thoughts, or who doesn’t know how to “do nothing” without guilt… this one is for you.

Let’s talk about nervous energy, distraction, healing, and why doing less can actually give you more.

We’re diving into:

• Why some of us fear silence
• How stillness helps you meet yourself
• What we’re really running from when we stay “busy”
• The truth about transformation and space

This one’s a reset.

Get ready to meet yourself in the quiet.

🌀 Want to go deeper? Join me at the Release Retreat in November 2025:

👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/release-retreat/

00:00 Welcome + the real reason I’m talking about silence

02:10 Loud by nature, but learning to be still

04:25 Why we struggle to sit in the quiet

07:40 The five-day retreat that changed everything

10:15 Are you filling space to avoid yourself?

12:40 What silence reveals—and why it’s powerful

15:10 Ready for a real reset? Join us at the Release Retreat

Too many women say they want more, but aren’t moving like it.

In this episode, I’m calling out a hard truth:

Comfort and growth don’t coexist.

And if you’ve been playing it safe, waiting for the “right moment,” or sitting on your dreams because things feel fine... this episode is your wake-up call.

Whether it’s business, relationships, or your personal power, there’s always going to be a hard.

You just get to choose which hard you’re willing to face.

Inside this fire episode, I’m unpacking:

• Why comfort can be the biggest killer of your confidence
• How to know if you’re hiding behind “I’m fine”
• The difference between false safety vs true fulfillment
• And what it actually takes to shift into a life that’s aligned, alive, and worth showing up for

If you’ve been stuck in “meh” energy or waiting for things to change without making the moves, you need to hear this.

📣 If you're ready to stop sitting on your dreams and start moving with power…

🔥 Download my 5 Days to More Confidence training here:

👉🏽 thequeenofconfidence.com/confidencemasterclass

📲 Then screenshot this episode and tag me on Instagram: @thequeenofconfidence

Tell me: Where are you choosing comfort over growth?

00:00 Welcome + U.S. book tour update

01:15 The real reason we stay stuck: comfort

03:00 Discomfort is part of the journey—either way

04:12 Erika’s personal comfort zone story

06:00 “I got sleepy”, how safety can lead to stagnation

07:20 Comfort isn’t just an Aussie thing, it’s human

08:35 Why comfort and confidence don’t mix

09:20 Choose your hard, choose your life

10:45 The danger of waiting until you have to act

12:00 The secret to moving through fear and taking action

13:15 Final reminder: Magic happens when you’re uncomfortable