Some people go through trauma and stay stuck… others go through it and build something from it.

In this episode, we sit down with Tree Kadayso - a powerful self-chooser, mother, and leader in the CYC who shares how her story of childhood trauma, abuse, and environmental challenges didn’t define her… it refined her.

This conversation goes deep into what it really looks like to face your triggers, change your environment, and build a foundation strong enough to carry not just you but your family forward. From navigating generational patterns to raising kids with awareness, Tree shows that healing isn’t just personal… it’s legacy work.

We talk about the moments where it would’ve been easier to fall back into old habits and how choosing yourself daily, through discipline and community, creates a completely different future.. because at the end of the day, your past may shape you but your choices define you.

Takeaways ⬇️

• Your trauma is real but it doesn’t get to run your life forever
• Awareness is the first step but action is what changes everything
• Your environment can either trap you or transform you
• The foundation you build today impacts your entire family tomorrow
• Choosing yourself is how you break generational cycles

At some point, we all have to make a decision… Are we going to keep living from what happened to us or start building from who we’re becoming?

Our story isn’t our limitation… it’s our responsibility.

“You’re not your past… you’re your patterns ... and your patterns can change with you next choice.”

Grow With Us ⬇️

🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar

🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat

📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

Choosing yourself through trauma, triggers, and transformation

Nobody signs up for trauma… not you, not me, not your baby mama. But we all go through something. The real question is what are you doing with it?

In this preview, we talk about how pain can either keep you stuck or push you into your next level. From childhood abuse to self-abuse (yeah… hitting snooze, sugar overload, late-night cravings .. we see you), this episode calls out the habits that keep us in the same loop because it’s not just what happened to you… it’s what you keep doing to yourself after.

We introduce Tree Kadayso one of the strongest OG self-choosers I've ever encountered, whose story comes from real adversity - abuse, loss, traumatic childhood and a toxic environment where silence was normalized... but instead of staying in victim mode, she embraced the TEFIC process: triggers, environment, foundation, investment, and contribution and turned her pain into purpose!

Your past might not be our fault… but our future is 100% your responsibility.

So are you still sitting in the same story or are you ready to evolve?

Grow With Us ⬇️

🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar

🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat

📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

In this episode, we sit down with Joe Cubero (aka The Professional Ex) - author, creator, and relationship strategist who breaks down why so many people stay stuck in the same relationship cycles.

This isn’t about blaming your ex… This is about becoming the version of you that stops creating them.

We unpack the patterns, the ignored red flags, the lowered standards, and the identity you carry into every relationship whether you realize it or not.

You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you tolerate.

🔥 What We Cover

✨ Why most people repeat the same relationship patterns

✨ The difference between choosing someone vs. needing someone

✨ Red flags we see but ignore

✨ How your lifestyle and habits shape your love life

✨ Why healing is required, not optional

✨ Becoming someone who walks away with self-respect

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Order Joe's Book - The Dating Playbook

Joe Cubero shares insights from his book, breaking down:

• The do’s, don’ts, and deal-breakers in modern dating
• How to recognize unhealthy patterns early
• What it really means to choose yourself in relationships

🌴 Live Event Announcement

We’re bringing this conversation to life…

📍 April 25th | Florida Workshop Joe Cubero x Hakeem Bourne McFarlane

A live experience focused on:

• Identity & self-worth
• Relationship standards
• Building a foundation that attracts aligned partnerships

This is more than a workshop… it’s a reset.

🐬 Choose Yourself Takeaway

If you keep attracting the same person in different bodies… It’s not coincidence—it’s conditioning.

Change your standards. Change your habits. Change your life.

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