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The Choose Yourself Channel

The Choose Yourself Channel

De: Hakeem Bourne Mcfarlane
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Hosted by Hakeem Bourne McFarlane, author of Choose Yourself to Be Chosen and founder of the Choose Yourself Community (CYC).

Welcome to The Choose Yourself Channel : where personal growth gets real, faith gets practical, and healing comes with humor.

This isn't your average self-help talk. It’s the CYC-GYM - where we flex the dorsal cortex, roast our old habits, and build foundations stronger than our excuses through accountability and innercise.

We talk discipline, desire, detoxing from dysfunction, and designing a life that actually feels good based on balance ... from cold showers to calling yourself out. One episode might sound like therapy, another like stand-up, and the next like church with better playlists and preachers.

Here, we don’t fake peace for followers. We face our triggers, evaluate our environments, and invest in our evolution. Because choosing yourself isn’t just a slogan ... it’s the daily sport of self-respect!

🐬 Expect truth. Expect laughter. Expect to be uncomfortable - in the best way. Join the movement every Tuesday at 10 a.m. with the Choose Yourself Community on zoom to meet other self choosers virtually hosted by Hakeem.

This is The Choose Yourself Channel. Raw. Relatable. Real as growth gets.

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Episodios
  • 🐬 Straight From The Roots with Tree Kadayso
    Apr 2 2026

    Some people go through trauma and stay stuck… others go through it and build something from it.

    In this episode, we sit down with Tree Kadayso - a powerful self-chooser, mother, and leader in the CYC who shares how her story of childhood trauma, abuse, and environmental challenges didn’t define her… it refined her.

    This conversation goes deep into what it really looks like to face your triggers, change your environment, and build a foundation strong enough to carry not just you but your family forward. From navigating generational patterns to raising kids with awareness, Tree shows that healing isn’t just personal… it’s legacy work.

    We talk about the moments where it would’ve been easier to fall back into old habits and how choosing yourself daily, through discipline and community, creates a completely different future.. because at the end of the day, your past may shape you but your choices define you.

    Takeaways ⬇️

    • Your trauma is real but it doesn’t get to run your life forever
    • Awareness is the first step but action is what changes everything
    • Your environment can either trap you or transform you
    • The foundation you build today impacts your entire family tomorrow
    • Choosing yourself is how you break generational cycles

    At some point, we all have to make a decision… Are we going to keep living from what happened to us or start building from who we’re becoming?

    Our story isn’t our limitation… it’s our responsibility.

    “You’re not your past… you’re your patterns ... and your patterns can change with you next choice.”

    Grow With Us ⬇️

    🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

    ❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar

    🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat

    📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

    🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

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    1 h y 11 m
  • 🌲Get over it, Get after it (Tree Kadayso Preview)
    Apr 1 2026

    Choosing yourself through trauma, triggers, and transformation

    Nobody signs up for trauma… not you, not me, not your baby mama. But we all go through something. The real question is what are you doing with it?

    In this preview, we talk about how pain can either keep you stuck or push you into your next level. From childhood abuse to self-abuse (yeah… hitting snooze, sugar overload, late-night cravings .. we see you), this episode calls out the habits that keep us in the same loop because it’s not just what happened to you… it’s what you keep doing to yourself after.

    We introduce Tree Kadayso one of the strongest OG self-choosers I've ever encountered, whose story comes from real adversity - abuse, loss, traumatic childhood and a toxic environment where silence was normalized... but instead of staying in victim mode, she embraced the TEFIC process: triggers, environment, foundation, investment, and contribution and turned her pain into purpose!

    Your past might not be our fault… but our future is 100% your responsibility.

    So are you still sitting in the same story or are you ready to evolve?

    Grow With Us ⬇️

    🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

    ❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar

    🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat

    📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

    🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

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    12 m
  • ✍🏾 Joe Cubero - The Dating Playbook
    Mar 20 2026

    In this episode, we sit down with Joe Cubero (aka The Professional Ex) - author, creator, and relationship strategist who breaks down why so many people stay stuck in the same relationship cycles.

    This isn’t about blaming your ex… This is about becoming the version of you that stops creating them.

    We unpack the patterns, the ignored red flags, the lowered standards, and the identity you carry into every relationship whether you realize it or not.

    You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you tolerate.

    🔥 What We Cover

    ✨ Why most people repeat the same relationship patterns

    ✨ The difference between choosing someone vs. needing someone

    ✨ Red flags we see but ignore

    ✨ How your lifestyle and habits shape your love life

    ✨ Why healing is required, not optional

    ✨ Becoming someone who walks away with self-respect

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    Order Joe's Book - The Dating Playbook

    Joe Cubero shares insights from his book, breaking down:

    • The do’s, don’ts, and deal-breakers in modern dating
    • How to recognize unhealthy patterns early
    • What it really means to choose yourself in relationships

    🌴 Live Event Announcement

    We’re bringing this conversation to life…

    📍 April 25th | Florida Workshop Joe Cubero x Hakeem Bourne McFarlane

    A live experience focused on:

    • Identity & self-worth
    • Relationship standards
    • Building a foundation that attracts aligned partnerships

    This is more than a workshop… it’s a reset.

    🐬 Choose Yourself Takeaway

    If you keep attracting the same person in different bodies… It’s not coincidence—it’s conditioning.

    Change your standards. Change your habits. Change your life.

    🚀 Tap In

    🎟️ Join the “CYC” for calendar details

    📖 Grab Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

    🎙️ Subscribe to the Choose Yourself Channel

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    1 h y 1 m
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I adore how Hakeem McFarlane include poetry in motion when he speaks and writes. He has clear motivational messages without intending to be motivational. It is just common sense to be the best version of yourself and then give the overflow to your lived ones.

Hakeem McFarlane pours out his truth with compassion and sincerity.

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