I’m receiving more and more requests from people to help them with their lack of ability to fall asleep, stay asleep, and get restful sleep. So that they can wake up rested. Sleep is difficult because of the things we keep track of or have to take care of.

Sleep is a big part of calming your nervous system to manage stress (EP 79).

Hosts discuss why people can’t fall asleep.

1. How does NLP help us when it comes to getting a good night's sleep? Strategies, routine, remove lights, avoid, light, screens, heavy foods, alcohol, caffeine.

2. Now that you have a routine in place, here are some tricks and techniques for the occasional stress we might experience.

1. Relax your body. Stretch calves, neck muscles, facial muscles. One technique is to tense your whole body and then let go.
2. TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE DOING TO FALL ASLEEP, STAY ASLEEP UNTIL I’M READY TO WAKE UP (unless there is danger or someone calls me)
3. Relax your jaw and your eyelids
4. Visualize a very relaxing scene, such as a lake with glass-like water, a beautiful landscape, the ocean on a calm day, a time when you were in nature and fell asleep. Use submodalities to adjust the color and movement, even the location. Experiment to see what causes your body to relax the most.
5. Counting seems to be popular. Here are some examples:
1, 2, 3, 4 – 2, 2, 3, 4 – 3, 2, 3, 4 and so on. Very monotonous but you have to think about it to keep track. Count backwards from 100. Also, see the numbers as you count.

6. Slow your breathing – you mentioned this last month.
7. See the word deeper and overwrite it over and over.
8. Some people like very cool to cold air temperatures. Sleep studies often have a person sleeping in 55-degree temps.

3. NLP techniques to help you: submodalities, mental lockers, change internal dialog, 6-step reframe, circle of excellence. Change your mental channel like a TV channel.

4. Recap the pattern:

1. Develop a routine that excludes screen time, lights, TV, alcohol, and heavy foods but includes, low light, relaxation, and feeling comfortable. The Circle of Excellence.
2. TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE DOING TO FALL ASLEEP, STAY ASLEEP UNTIL I’M READY TO WAKE UP (unless there is danger or someone calls me)
3. Use a counting technique or the lockers and/or adjust submodalities
4. Make sure your body is relaxed.
5. Slow your breathing and make it slightly deeper.
6. Fall asleep. Ta-da! And you will. Before you know it you are waking up in the morning!

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Morgan recently started a coaching and training business that focuses on helping corporate leaders, professionals, and entrepreneurs control and reduce stress. This episode covers the problem with stress in society, what stress is, how it affects our body, and how to use NLP and other processes to reduce stress.

It is estimated that 75-90% of all health problems are caused by or related to stress.

Impacts: Damages neural pathways. Interferes with decision-making and judgment.
Suppresses the immune system. Strains the heart and other organs. Ages people prematurely. Not all stress is bad. It’s normal. The problem is prolonged stress.

NLP has a lot of tools for changing how we interpret and represent events in our minds.

• Outcomes
• SCORE
• Neurological Levels
• Submodality Changes
• Change Personal History
• Resource Anchoring
  Gratitude
• Reframing
• Separating Behavior from Intent – useful for anger and irritation toward others

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Podcast #78

1. What is the Score? The score is a process developed by Todd Epstein and Robert Dilts that creates an established pathway for change. It is part of the unified field theory developed by Robert Dilts. It is nestled between defining the problem state SOAR (State, operator, results) and the TOTE (test, operate, test exit), checks and balances along the pathway.

2. What does the score do? It defines the smallest amount of information to produce a change. The S.C.O.R.E. Model enriches the Present State/Desired State description by adding simple distinctions. The letters represent Symptoms, Causes, Outcomes, Resources, and Effects. This is the minimum amount of information needed in any process of change or healing. It uses spatial anchoring.

3. What does SCORE stand for? Symptoms, causes, outcomes, effects, and resources. The S.C.O.R.E. Model uses the path between the present state and the desired state and the wisdom of the body to create change.

4. How does it work?

5. How can you use it and what can you use it with? Used as is and added a resource to the cause OR from the Cause use another process in NLP – reimprinting, reframing, belief change, timeline, etc. Use it to establish a clean clear outcome and ensure it is in the body.

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We are starting this new year with a star-studded program featuring none other than Rodger Bailey, developer of the LAB profile! If you are a student of NLP you will recognize this name.

Rodger developed a training program for managers to recognize a person's functional capabilities and motivational triggers using a simple linguistic interview, so managers can know which tasks that person can do well and how to influence and motivate them. Here are some of the questions he answered:

1. I’ve given our audience a little background on you. Would you be willing to add to that information? You have a long and significant career in NLP and the Meta Programs.

2. How did you come to develop the LAB profile?

3. What can the LAB profile be used for? How is it important in Business as well as

therapy and coaching?

4. Could you give us some examples of how you’ve used it in some of your Projects?

4 case examples

Let me tell you a story about the time I helped an airline become the lowest complaint-ratio airline in the USA and how they stayed that way for decades.

Case 2

A gold and diamond jewelry manufacturer wanted to grow his business from $2m to $5m annually.

Case 3

A Manager of multiple franchise hair-cutting salons was having a turnover problem with his hair stylists across all his salons. He wanted a solution, where those he signed up would happily stay for years. He used the LAB Profile to profile his existing long-term stylists across all his salons.

Case 4

In the late ‘70s, a Dallas-based computer tech company had built a very successful business installing modern computer processing services for governments all around the world. I was able to interview 6 of those Managers who were actively hiring new Programmer Analysts, and I discovered that all of them based much of their successful hiring approach on something they called ‘Challenge.’

5. Do you think that some patterns are more important in some contexts? Are some patterns easier to spot? Are there some situations where patterns become obvious?

Are there some LAB patterns that are more important in some contexts? Each context tends to have its own set of critical or significant patterns. The LAB Profile gives us a wide array of patterns to recognize, understand, and utilize. One of my most common thoughts is that everything changes by context.

6. Is the LAB profile useful in personal relationships? How and an example?

Yes, and It is important to have a lot of LAB Profile experience (lots of people, lots of interventions, etc.) before you try to take your LAB Profile knowledge and techniques into your personal relationships.

7. What is a good way to get a hold of you?

Email me directly at rodger.bailey.2000@gmail.com

8. Do you have an online class that people can access?

Yes, I have an online self-study course: It is important to understand that the LAB Profile will become a trusted skill set, which you will be able to use in almost every context to give you an advantage.

Link to the online LAB Profile course:

https://bit.ly/3rcC5Ai

Limited Time Offer:
Get a massive discount using this Discount Code: MpMXZ1SIq5Tnw3c1YBqoMQ==

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Here is my prescription for a happy holiday if not a tolerable one…
Set an outcome to have fun and enjoy the holidays.

• Get plenty of rest
  
• Sugar and alcohol place a huge strain on your biological system.
  
• Taking care of yourself might also include meditation and prayer.
  
• And exercise – even a walk every day or every other day brings positive benefits.

Another issue connected to taking care of yourself is setting boundaries:
Boundary lesson: Say no when you can say no. it seems that so many people and companies cram into 24 days of December gatherings and parties. Be judicious about which ones you attend.

People spend a lot of money…. Determine and manage a budget for spending. It is so easy to say, “Oh, I’ll deal with my credit cards next year.” But next year is closer than you think and amassing a large debt can put you into high stress. You can do a conflict resolution with yourself to resolve the pull between what you want to spend and what would be prudent.

Big challenge dealing with family members
Ignoring them won’t necessarily make them disappear. Here are some strategies I’ve used over the years

a. Do anchoring and attach the person to something you love or a resource that gives you better state management and grace. You could even connect them to something you are thankful for. After all, being thankful for someone who helps you evolve is a plus. Morgan: connected concept.

b. Align an experience with this person with Perceptual Position Alignment. A powerful exercise that aligns your submodalities with a pattern that gives you the most flexibility.

No politics – especially if you want to maintain subjective coherency. Or at least maintain amicability

Ask questions: If you are familiar with the Meta Model, you know that asking questions is a great form of rapport. Ask open-ended questions that show interest in someone’s life.

If you know there are adversarial family members, keep a low profile.

Match and pace, match and pace.

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Conflict is a part of life. But how we deal with it and resolve it is what helps us maintain harmony. NLP has an outstanding process to reduce or eliminate inner conflict at any logical level.

1. Where does conflict occur?

Areas in which conflict manifests

Understanding conflicts of beliefs and values

There are many types of conflict. Conflicts of beliefs and values are about issues where compromise is not an option. They are conflicts based upon disagreement through which the parties involved perceive a threat to their needs, interests, or concerns.

Managing conflicts of beliefs and values

2. How do you know you are dealing with a conflict?

3. How do you start the resolution process? What is your outcome? Is it well-formed? Is it demonstrated in sensory experience?

4. Tools to go beyond conflict: Perceptual position alignment, Anchoring, Conflict resolution on all logical levels, Positive intention

5. Going from conflict to Creativity: is a key to resolving a conflict.

Conflict is not a bad thing: Finding creative ways to solve issues is the hallmark of a skillful negotiator.

Using conflict as a resource: conflict can be used to generate new ways to seeing things and doing things.

6. Exercise:

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Have you ever sat in a seminar or a talk about communication and heard the speaker use these statistics about communication?

· 7% are the words,

· 38% is the way the words are said (para verbals) and

· 55% of the communication is non-verbal (body language)

These often yet misquoted, out-of-context figures came out of the work of Albert Mehrabian, specifically, “Silent Messages.” Beginning the in 1960’s Mehrabian, a Professor Emeritus of Psychology at UCLA, has been known for his pioneering work in the field of nonverbal communication (body language). In the 1960s Professor Albert Mehrabian and colleagues at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA), conducted studies into human communication patterns. When their results were published in professional journals in 1967, they were widely circulated across mass media in abbreviated form. Because the figures were so easy to remember, most people forgot about what they really meant. Hence, the myth that communication is only 7 percent verbal and 93 percent non-verbal was born. And we have been suffering from it ever since.

The fact is Professor Mehrabian's research had nothing to do with giving speeches because it was based on the information that could be conveyed in a single word.

It is important to understand the context of Mehrabian findings. At a minimum, the formula applies to communications of feelings and attitudes (like-dislike), not simple communication, ambiguity, or incongruence.

Here is the oversimplification of the true statistics:

· 7% of meaning in the words that are spoken.

· 38% of meaning is paralinguistic (the way that the words are said).

· 55% of meaning is in facial expression.

Listen as Mehrabian's findings are explained, the studies that determined the findings, and the misquotations are debunked. The record is set straight!

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How can NLP address motivation?

Motivation is the desire or willingness to do something. A major complaint of many clients is that they aren’t motivated.

The Keys to getting yourself to do something can be addressed in a system using the model of NLP.

These include

1. Submodalities – compelling future; contrastive analysis

2. Meta programs

3. Beliefs

4. Values

5. Language

6. Model operators

To name a few.
Here are some Motivation Presuppositions
1. You inspire others, you motivate yourself. It is an inside job

2. An important premise: you are not unmotivated. To say I want motivation implies that I don’t have any. You demonstrated motivation by making the statement that I am not motivated. Saying I have something or don’t have something is digital. A unified field is holistic and analog.

3. If you have the desire (note definition), you are motivated.

4. Maybe you want to get yourself to improve on the timeliness of your execution. Then NLP can help.

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