As parents, we often believe we know why our kids behave the way they do.

We assume intentions, assign meaning to their actions, and respond from that story, often when we are stressed, tired, or triggered.

But what if those assumptions are wrong?

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we explore one of the most common and overlooked parenting mistakes, mind reading our children. This happens when we assume we know their motives without actually checking.

We unpack why the parent brain does this under stress, what brain science and child development tell us about behavior, and how these assumptions quietly erode connection, trust, and cooperation, especially with tweens and teens.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why the human brain jumps to negative interpretations under stress

• How nervous system dysregulation leads parents to misread behavior

• Why kids often cannot articulate their own motives and what that means for discipline

• How curiosity builds safety, honesty, and long term behavior change

• What it looks like to assume the best without losing boundaries

• Practical ways to pause assumptions and respond with clarity and connection

This episode is for parents who want to move beyond control, power struggles, and miscommunication and toward deeper understanding, cooperation, and trust.

You do not need to read your child’s mind.

You need to make space for their voice.

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Parents are often told to “forgive yourself” or “you’re doing great.” While well intentioned, that message often falls flat for parents who are thoughtful, reflective, and deeply invested in their growth.

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we explore why self-forgiveness is most effective when it comes after responsibility, reflection, and repair. We explain the brain science behind shame, learning, and nervous system regulation, and why skipping reflection can keep parents stuck in cycles of guilt rather than growth.

You’ll learn how shame activates the brain’s threat system, why responsibility is different from self-criticism, and what actually allows parents to change patterns without burning out. We also share a practical framework for reflection, repair, and growth that makes self-compassion feel earned rather than hollow.

This episode is for parents who care deeply, are unlearning inherited patterns, and want to keep growing without shame driving their parenting.

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https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/forgive-yourself-and-keep-growing-why-self-compassion-only-works-after-responsibility

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Most parents want their children to be responsible, capable, and independent.

But when it comes to building habits, morning routines, homework, chores, hygiene, emotional regulation, many well-intentioned parents accidentally sabotage the process without realizing it.

In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara break down the most common ways parents unintentionally derail habit building in kids, tweens, and teens, and what actually helps habits stick without nagging, shaming, or taking over.

You’ll learn why becoming the reminder, lecturing, rescuing, using shame, or expecting adult-level consistency backfires and how habits grow instead through ownership, scaffolding, realistic expectations, and nervous-system safety.

This episode covers:

• Why habits fail when parents carry the responsibility
• How shame, anger, and pressure shut down learning
• What to do instead of lecturing or reminding
• How to use visual supports and external reminders effectively
• Why consistency matters more than perfection
• How to scaffold habits without creating dependence
• What repair looks like when things fall apart

This conversation reframes habit building as a developmental skill, not a motivation problem and offers practical tools parents can use immediately to reduce power struggles and build lasting responsibility.

If you’re tired of repeating yourself and wondering why habits won’t stick, this episode will help you stop unintentionally getting in the way and start supporting real growth.

View the full podcast transcript at:

https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-parents-sabotage-habits-in-kids-and-what-actually-helps-them-stick

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The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.