If healthy partners feel boring and chaotic ones feel electric, your nervous system is lying to you.You're not chasing love—you're chasing intermittent reinforcement. The same neurological pattern as a slot machine. Your brain mistakes intensity for intimacy, anxiety for chemistry, and the chase for connection.If you grew up around inconsistency, emotionally available people won't feel romantic. They'll feel wrong. Until you rewire what your nervous system recognizes as attractive, you'll keep choosing people who let you stay hidden.The question isn't why you keep choosing wrong. It's what would it take to choose differently.Key Timestamps :00:00 — Why chaotic relationships feel “exciting” (it’s conditioning, not chemistry)01:46 — The dopamine–chaos loop: why inconsistency feels like love03:08 — Intensity vs intimacy: how we mistake addiction for connection05:40 — Why healthy love feels boring at first (your nervous system isn’t used to safety)10:01 — How to rewire your patterns and finally choose emotionally available partners

Heart transplant at 23. Six months in hospital waiting to die. Then a choice: coast through the borrowed time—or actually live.

Mark Stewart didn't just survive adversity. He befriended it. In this raw conversation, he reveals how facing mortality young gave him the perspective most men don't get until it's too late. Strategic discomfort. The "live today" mindset. Why your ladder might be against the wrong wall.

If you've been postponing the life you actually want to live, waiting for "someday" to pursue what matters—this hits different.When do you feel most alive? And what are you doing about it?

Key Timestamps :

00:00 – Making Adversity Your Friend

03:44 – Born With a Broken Heart

07:10 – Facing Death at 23

08:23 – Running a Marathon After Transplant

11:27 – The Power of Facing Mortality

15:07 – Strategic Discomfort: The Key to Growth

20:26 – Identity Shifts and Habit Stacking

31:45 – Live Today

You've been lying to yourself, to others, about what you need and who you are. That fragmentation is destroying your self-worth from the inside out. Connor Beaton reveals why modern men are stuck in perpetual boyhood, how fatherless generations created an initiation crisis, and the brutal truth about becoming a man in a culture that abandoned masculine maturation. This isn't about testosterone optimization or alpha posturing—it's about the coherence that comes when you stop abandoning yourself. If you've ever felt like a lost boy wearing a man's responsibilities, this conversation maps the way forward. The question: Are you ready to stop running from other men and finally trust yourself?Connect with Connor Beaton:Watch on Youtube: www.youtube.com/@mantalksRead his Book: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Key Timestamps : 00:00 – Trusting Yourself as a Man01:09 – The Myth of Toxic Masculinity06:00 – The Power of Truth and Integrity09:55 – The Trap of Mental Overload13:15 – The Rise of the Man Child17:42 – The Crisis of Missing Male Role Models23:00 – What Healthy Masculinity Actually Looks Like32:35 – The Death of Male Initiation42:10 – The War for the Hearts and Minds of Men49:45 – Healing the Wound Between Men