Work with me 1-on-1: https://www.stumurray.com/coaching-applyWhen she's upset, your instinct to fix her emotions is making it worse. Every time you try to calm her down, you're signaling you can't handle her emotions—and that's what makes her feel unsafe. In this video, I break down the 3 practices that changed how I show up in conflict and how my clients are using them to rebuild trust, respect, and attraction. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: - Why trying to fix her emotions always backfires- The nervous system science of co-regulation - 3 practices to stay grounded when she's emotional - How to turn conflict into intimacy I destroyed multiple relationships before learning this. Now I'm engaged and practice these daily. This is the training we never received.Timestamps:00:00 – Stop Trying to Fix Her Emotions (Why It Makes Her Feel Unsafe)01:13 – The “Fixer” Pattern That Destroys Relationships02:01 – Why Fixing Fails: It’s a Nervous System Issue03:21 – Real Example: Money Stress & Learning to Stay Grounded04:44 – Coregulation: How Your Calm Regulates Her Emotions05:48 – What She’s Really Testing When She’s Emotional08:18 – The 3 Practices to Stay Grounded During Conflict14:30 – How Grounded Presence Rebuilds Trust, Sex & Attraction#relationshipadvice #emotionalcapacity #relationshipvision #nervoussystem #gottman #neuroscience #marriage #men #selfimprovement #emotionalregulation #vulnerability #trust #sex #sexlife

Work with me 1-on-1: https://www.stumurray.com/coaching-applyYou've been told to be vulnerable, communicate openly, and be emotionally available. You're doing all of it—and she's less attracted to you. The sex is dying. The passion's gone. Here's the brutal truth: emotional availability without emotional leadership creates the exact opposite of what you want. In this video, I break down the missing ingredient that separates men who maintain attraction from those who watch it fade—and show you how to become the grounded, steady presence she's craving. If your relationship feels like it's losing polarity, this will change everything.Key Timestamps00:00 – Why Emotional Availability Is Killing Attraction01:55 – The Nice Guy Trap: When Being Agreeable Backfires03:30 – Emotional Availability vs Emotional Leadership (Key Distinction)05:21 – Polarity Explained: Why Attraction Naturally Fades07:32 – Covert Contracts & Hidden Resentment in Relationships09:57 – What Masculine Leadership Actually Looks Like11:27 – Case Study: Reviving a Dead Bedroom Through Leadership16:47 – The 4 Steps to Rebuild Attraction & Trust#relationshipadvice #emotionalcapacity #relationshipvision #nervoussystem #gottman #neuroscience #marriage #men #selfimprovement #emotionalregulation #vulnerability #trust #sex #sexlife

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Most high-performing men face the same paradox: you can handle professional pressure brilliantly but struggle to stay present when your partner is upset. There's a reason for this.

When she's disappointed, your nervous system reads it as a threat to your worth. Your thinking brain goes offline. The capacity you need to honor your vision disappears exactly when you need it most. This is the execution gap, and it's fixable.

Today, I'm walking you through the neuroscience of relationship conflict and the regulation practices that rebuild your capacity to lead when it matters.

Key Timestamps:

00:00 – Why Vision Alone Isn’t Enough (The Missing Piece That Destroys Relationships)

01:55 – The Real Problem: Nervous System Overload During Conflict

05:08 – How Childhood Conditioning Shapes How Men Handle Love

09:05 – The 3 Skills That Create Emotional Capacity in Relationships

14:28 – What Emotional Leadership Looks Like in Real Life (Practical Example)