Season 3 - Episode 5 - Tareena

In this episode, we are joined by Sister Tareena. Tareena runs a social media page on Tiktok with the handle: @thatgirl.tamtam. Tareena’s page is about healing people giving them hope. Tareena offers one to one advice for sisters who want to discuss their problems. If any sister wants to contact her you can email her: [e-mail]

Tareena shares her personal journey through divorce, the challenges she faced, and her insights on the marriage search as a divorcee. She discusses the emotional impact of her divorce, the importance of self-discovery, and the societal expectations surrounding marriage. Tareena emphasises the need for realistic expectations in relationships, the role of parental involvement, and the stigma attached to being divorced. She also offers advice on overcoming heartbreak and the significance of trusting in Allah's plan.

00:00 Introduction

01:25 Tareena's divorce story

04:28 The Impact of Divorce

06:38 Mistakes and Regrets in Marriage

10:01 Bouncing Back from Divorce

11:16 Marriage Search as a Divorcee

17:24 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

19:14 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

20:09 The Role of Marriage Apps

21:55 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?

23:31 Self-Inflicted Marriage Search Crisis

24:34 Family Involvement: Advice v Control

27:30 Emotional Intimacy without Commitment

29:22 How does one get over heart break?

33:20 Delaying telling a potential that you are divorced

38:25 Fear based Marriages

40:20 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

42:30 Green Flags v Red Flags

42:41 Solutions

43:52 Once an Abuser always an Abuser?

44:52 What Tareena does and how to contact her

45:52 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:25 Rapid Fire Round

48:40 Marriage Profile

49:47 Final Thoughts